Boy i’ve met once keeps messaging me

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I met this guy once and had one conversation with him in the uni bar before the last UK lockdown (early November), during that conversation I definitely didn’t tell him my full name, yet he’s still somehow found me on social media and started messaging me.

That in itself isn’t weird and he is quite attractive and fit but the things he says are kind of bizarre. He frequently calls me cute/pretty/good looking and sends me heart emojis and he’s told me that talking to me makes me happy, that he cancels plans to stay home and message me and that he loves talking to me more than anyone else.

This isn’t one of those posts where I complain that men have emotions, see therapists and cry in front of me like little bitches instead of just slitting my throat during sex like a real man would. I’m genuinely confused and concerned about this individual’s motives.

I feel like if he was just after sex, he would’ve shot his shot by now and asked me to come over but he hasn’t shown any desire to meet up with me in real life and if he really just wanted to be my friend, he would try to have better conversations with me and not just say those weird things.

I’ve come to the conclusion that he is possibly just pretending to like me for a laugh or to humiliate me, like a school child would. However I don’t really want to go in all guns blazing and tell him that I think he’s fucking pathetic for trying to humiliate and it wouldn’t have worked anyway because I find him physically repulsive and I wouldn’t fuck him even if the survival of the human race depended on it because I’m not 100% sure that he is just trying to humiliate me.

What does this guy even really want?

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  • jethro
    3 years ago

    I thought that you wanted a stalker in your life. At least that is what you have said in other posts. So now you have one. Invite him over to your house. And really get to know your stalker, first hand.

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  • twatfeatures
    3 years ago

    >"he is quite attractive and fit"
    >"I find him physically repulsive"

    Geez, take a midol ye spaz. He's gay and you're one of his beards.

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    • [Old Memory]
      3 years ago

      What does it mean to be a gay man's beard?

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      • SmokeEverything
        3 years ago

        Pretend wife to hide the fact that he's gay

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    I have no idea, but if you're uncomfortable you can go gray rock, stop responding to his messages, and even block him if you feel so inclined.

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  • Somenormie
    3 years ago

    Hes trying so hard to flirt with you but is failing constantly. Also that's creepy that he got your socials out of the blue.

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  • S0UNDS_WEIRD
    3 years ago

    I honestly don't know why everyone is having such a hard time with this when it's a pretty standard situation. He's not trying to just throw his dick in you ASAP because he actually likes you a lot and it's not his style. That's it.

    Finding your social media isn't that big of a deal when he knows your whereabouts and presumably your first name, maybe even people he could ask.

    I think what's most interesting is that despite not jumping right on putting you in your place with a big knife, you seem to like him... a lot. Why do I say that? Because there's literally zero indication in what you've said that this dude wants to humiliate you, like at all. That sounds almost crazy and definitely paranoid. It seems almost like you're idealizing him to such an extent that it's bringing out your own insecurities and you're questioning why he would like you.

    He likes you. Go with the flow. He'll do what he wants with you when he's ready to. But for future reference, if you ever DO feel someone wants to humiliate you, the last thing you should do is behave like that's something you'd even imagine could happen to you. In that situation, exude confidence and simply act like you became bored with them before they get a chance and humiliate them in turn.

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    • my_life_my_way
      3 years ago

      I’m basing that conclusion off the fact that guys in high school used to pretend to like me for a laugh and to humiliate me. That hasn’t happened since I was about 15 but the paranoia of it lingers.

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      • S0UNDS_WEIRD
        3 years ago

        Sounds weird. Was it revenge schemes or something? I, nor any of my friends, ever did that to girls unless there was a reason.

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        • my_life_my_way
          3 years ago

          They just found it funny because I was quiet and shy

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    You might be like the first girl he's seriously tried to be with. He may not wanna ask for sex if he thinks you get asked that a lot and want something with more depth

    You're a smart girl, I bet you could find a way to get him to cut the crap

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  • LondonGoldman
    3 years ago

    I dont think he is just trying to humiliate you. Unless hes like 16.

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    • my_life_my_way
      3 years ago

      He is 19 and so am I

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      • nopurpose
        3 years ago

        That one last line was epic. Just skip on the humiliation part, If you're anyway tearing someone to pieces, don't let them see you vulnerable.

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      • nopurpose
        3 years ago

        19yo boys are immature. Tehy might do if you are 15 but for you age they could hardly be a match.

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      • LondonGoldman
        3 years ago

        Most likely hes just a really flaky person. Some people are like that. You just cant count on them and theyre hard to read.

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