Break up with him

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I want to break up with my boyfriend.As much as I love him so much ,I feel like it's best if I break things off.Ive tried breaking up with him in the past but somehow he always convinced me not to end things.Rn I just want to end things.He loves me and it's really hard for me to break up with him.How do I even end things with him?I was thinking of just ghosting him bc if I said am breaking up with him he will for sure convince me not to.I just feel out of options.
Help me.

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  • Somenormie
    2 years ago

    Tell him the honest truth and he will listen it will take time to forget about him after you've broken up.

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    • Kellykim2
      2 years ago

      I have done that like twice.But he always begs me not to,and I always end up making up with him.

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      • Somenormie
        2 years ago

        Does he convince you by trying to change the subject?

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      • SkullsNRoses
        2 years ago

        How does he convince you? What does he say? You need to steel yourself against his usual tactics, it’s not fair on either of you to carry on a relationship that you don’t want to be in.

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        • Kellykim2
          2 years ago

          Normally he says he loves me and he is willing to do anything to make it work.He is very convincing and I still love him.But I know it's for the best if we break up.

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    This should be relatively easy to solve for both of you.

    No either you cannot stand his character (dishonesty, etc); in which case he could not likely convince you to take him back... or... its something else.

    Very common is that its a communication issue in that neither of you are communicating in the others "love language" so he thinks he is expressing love to you and is actually not, and vice-versa.

    Ask him to read "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman with you. Each gets their own book. Give allowance that you both likely read at different rates - however both should be finished with it within 2 weeks.

    Then see what you have learned and if you can make things work better.

    If he refuses to read and take the book seriously - then he is definitely not for you (and he clearly did not do what you requested him to do).

    Now, you both may get though it - have a much better relationship... and still in the end find that you are not compatible for another reason. That's OK. Give it a chance and find out if it's just that he is not filling your personal love tank because he does not know how to do that.

    I wish you the best with this...

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    • Kellykim2
      2 years ago

      Will try that.Thank you<3

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      • olderdude-xx
        2 years ago

        Great! Please let me know how it goes... and what you learned about yourself..

        When I 1st read the book it explained to me why most of my previous relationships failed (what you don't know can hinder and hurt you).

        My wife (remote GF at the time) said the same thing and then said "so there's a real chance that this will work"... Our 9th anniversary is Wednesday... Yes it worked... and that book has a lot to do with that...

        I wish you the best...

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  • darefu
    2 years ago

    Make him break up with you. There are things he likes and dislikes exploit them it will take a couple weeks to a month but it will work and you don't have to be the bad person or worry about him stalking you or your next BF.

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    • 1WeirdGuy
      2 years ago

      She should dump fart spray on her shirt everytime shes gonna be hanging out with him

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    • litelander8
      2 years ago

      Oh, damn!

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    If you want to break up with your boyfriend you should breakup with him. May I ask why you want to breakup with him.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    Why do you want to break up with him? Be honest

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    • Kellykim2
      2 years ago

      I feel like we are not compatible.I feel like the relationship won't work for either of us.

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  • ellnell
    2 years ago

    I was in this situation once. Broke up with him but felt really bad because of how he acted about it so I took him back and said I didn't mean it and was sorry... Then he broke up with me a month later LOL. Then he came back yet another month later saying we should be friends....So we became friends.
    It was quite the ride.

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    • 1WeirdGuy
      2 years ago

      Some people have an ego and wanna be the person to dump the other. I would always let them break up with me. One girl came up to me with like 4 of her friends to break up with me dramatically and I casually was like "aight" and her friends were lke "he doesnt even care" so I tried to act like I cared. I wanted to break up with her anyway

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