Bullied for my looks =(

So..I am a shy girl..I'm popular, but not the 'Oh she's pretty' Type of popular..I'm not like that, i'm popular because of my personality..I'm not meaning to sound like i'm bragging about myself..But i've been told i'm a kind girl, With a lovely personality..I'm always by my friends side when they need me.I don't get proper bullied..It's more of a 'Talk behind my back' Type..I found it out when i walked past some boys from my class, Saying i was Ugly..But being me i walked up to them, And told them to say it to my face, And they shied away.And this boy i have a massive crush on, Called me fat, But when i looked at him he blushed and looked away..I told these boys that we're talking mean about me behind my back straight..I just said 'If you don't like me cool..I don't wake up everyday to impress you!Oh and Being pretty is the least of my worries..'Because it really is the least of my worries..But u see, I'm going into High school..And this is worrying me..What if it get's worst..I can standup for myself but i don't like making things worst!I'm not obese (No affence to any one!)My doctor told me it's just puppy fat, And that my weight is normal and healthy, He also sai my stomach just isn't flat because i still have to grow..But i'm still worried..I mean my glasses used to worry me, But i'm now getting contact lenses, And a new hair cut..I just want to make new friends and try and keep them happy..And maybe someone will just accept the real me!Am i being to dramatic?

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  • mikafor

    It's high school, people are mean because they can be (they are insecure and it makes them feel better about themselves). I know high school was terrible for me, but you at least sound like you have a chance to make it better for yourself.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch

    I think you dealt with it well. Altering your appearance can definitely boost your self-esteem, but don't do it for anyone but you. You are probably a lot prettier than you think, anyways - just cuz you don't look like all the other girls doesn't mean you don't have your own unique beauty.

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    • Sia

      Yeah..I'm happy with my weight, I'm not wanting to be a bag of bones like the others..I'll grow and yea i admit i do want to be thin but not stick thin..I'm still young..And i'm ment to be over 6 foot, Witch scares me XD
      But right now, Like i said i'm not intrested in being pretty, Sure i don't want to look like a Drowned sour rat but i put family and friends first, Thanks for the amazing comment! <3

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  • Anime7

    People talk about people behind their backs. It's great that you set those boys straight. But really I think it happens to everyone, it's just that you overheard the people talking about you. Don't let it bother you, as you said, you weren't put in this Earth to impress anyone.

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  • thoughtfulopt29

    Its normal we all have our awkard stages just be yourself and dont worry what they think.

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  • dreambluej

    No your not being dramatic it happened to me when I was in middle school and when I went to high school i became the pretty girl that every boy quick glaced at. People in high school take out their problems with their peers. Don't let get on the way and given in either. Be you!!!

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    • Sia

      Sorry about what happend to ya!No one deserves it..It's nice to know that people like you for you <3

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  • alv1592

    I would say hurting someone's feelings intentionally and/or not apologising for hurtful words and actions is considered bullying. I'm sorry to hear about what you've been through. Next time someone picks on you, tell a teacher or school staff member. Think of it this way: if people pick on you when you've done nothing wrong, they have a problem, not you. I know how you feel, I got picked on as a kid, both at school and online. I wasn't bullied in high school but just ignored, and I recently encountered a cyber bully. There are bullies everywhere of all ages, but you just have to stay strong. Good luck.

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  • Squambly+

    Your fucking Awsome to have the guts to say those things to your bullies :D
    But yeah please ignore them as much as you can. Continue being the great person that you are. Also don't change how you look just to please others. Do it for yourself, so that you can feel good and more confident. You can also lose your baby fat if it bothers you that much.

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    • Sia

      I have actually lost weight, I'm now down to 6 stone and 3 pounds :/ So yea i'm really happy..And yeah it took a lot of courage for me to stand up to them!Thanks for the courage ^^

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  • RapidlyRotatingPanda

    Is the American high school, "mean girls" stereotype actually true??

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    • Ellenna

      Not American and not just girls: if you read her post properly it was boys

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    • Sia

      Uh..I don't really know XD I know for one thing, That high school life on T.V is so not true ^^

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      • RapidlyRotatingPanda

        That is a relief at least.

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  • Nearly everyone is talked behind their backs, it's normal. SOmeone can be the nicest person possible, and people would still talk about them at some point behind their backs.
    If you didn't want the situation to get worse, you shouldn't of confronted them. They were talking to eachother on their opinions of you, just as I'm sure you or the people you are friends with have done it to others.

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    • Sia

      Yea they have.I don't know why i stood up for myself, I just got angry (Witch is very very rare for me) And i snapped..I'm sure everyone who has had it happen would of knowing why i did it..Because i was still confused on how i got the courage to walk up to them!But thanks =) I take all comments into Consideration Mean or Like yours Awsome!I really am happy about the support even people online are giving me ^^

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      • Being upset by what they have said is normal, and it's completely understandable. As much as you didn't want to hear what they said, I am sure they didn't want you to hear it just as much.
        STanding up for yourself is good aslong as it's in a situation in which they are trying to clash with you, but if they are trying to just talk amongst friends about it, not wanting the person to hear what they are saying, then you should just carry on walking. Unless it has gotten to the point that they are trying to make everyone to think of you in a certain way, then just try walk away. Remember, some may think of you that way, some may think the opposite.
        I myself have been talked about behind my back, and I was irritated, but I remembered that they are entitled to their opinions, just as I am for doing it to others, so I carried on walking.

        Keep your head up, and don't let what people say put you down. Some people may believe what they were saying about you, and others will dissagree with what they said. None of us are perfect, everyone has this happen to them, so don't let yourself feel down for it.

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        • Sia

          I'll keep that in mind ^^ It doesn't really bother me, Since i found out the boy that started it all only did it because he had a huge crush on me and was trying to act cool XD Not exactly a thing that would impress me, And that he's not my type, Because everything is about him..Guess i'm not like other girls who rush to the boys side -Shrugs-

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  • Boo!

    You're going to meet many people with domineering personalities: the loud, the obnoxious, those that noisily stake their claims in your territory and everywhere else they set foot on. This is the blueprint of a predator. Predators prey on gentleness, peace, calmness, sweetness and any positivity that they sniff out as weakness. Anything that is happy and at peace they mistake for weakness. It's not your job to change these people, but it's your job to show them that your peace and gentleness do not equate to weakness. I have always appeared to be fragile and delicate but the thing is, I am not fragile and I am not delicate. I am very gentle but I can show you that the gentle also possess a poison. I compare myself to silk. People mistake silk to be weak but a silk handkerchief can protect the wearer from a gunshot. There are many people who will want to befriend you if you fit the description of what they think is weak; predators want to have friends that they can dominate over because that makes them feel strong and important. The truth is that predators have no strength and no courage. It is you who are strong, and it is you who has courage. I have lost many a friend over the fact that when they attempt to rip me, they can't. They accuse me of being deceiving; I am not deceiving, I am just made of silk. It is they who are stupid and wrongly take gentleness and fairness for weakness. There are many more predators in this world, so I want you to be made of silk. You are silk.”
    ― C. JoyBell C.

    You see I saw the title and got this ready because I love this quote. After reading your story I dont know if it fits anymore. :/ I hope you like it though. :)

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    • Sia

      Thanks ^^ To be truth full, all of these lovely comments have helped me! =) I'm actually feeling more confident!And i loved your quote..I know my title didn't really match, But i did get bullied a long time ago..But i don't like it stopping me now so i just put it behind me. <3

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      • Boo!

        You're welcome. I'm glad I could help. You should, I thought you were really strong, you stood up for yourself and not many people can do that. Yeah, I want to be like silk too just like the quote so I keep it to remind myself I'm silk. :P Good, I'm glad your moving on and I hope you can get through this.

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  • baybabe

    honestly, you sound pretty young, and school at your age is a loooottt worse than highschool. People tend to be more accepting in highschool. I had an awkward stage at your age and grew out of it by the end of HS. I feel that i am really pretty now and i have a great body, so you should probably grow out of any awkward stages.

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    • Sia

      I am actually young ^^ I'm going into High school in 1 week and 3 days, Nervous but really excited.I understand that high school has more mature people in it and that they tend to mind there own business, as long as you keep out of there's, Thanks for the comment =)

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  • BonnieTheBunny

    Same, though, not on the same level. My friend, Mystikca, got cat-called before, though she hated it. I stuck by her to make sure no pretty boys hit on her.

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  • IceEye22

    Based on what you said it sounds like you will be one of the ones who GROW into there beauty. Lots of girls like to gloat about how good they look I. High school but the funny part is girls like that loose it quick there youthful beauty they loved so much in grade school leaves them by the time they are 25. YOU on the other hand are normal. Matureing at a normal rate. Keep your wonderful personality and REMEMBER the boys that mocked you its a good reflection of there charator whenever they go for you when your good looming!

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  • Anyabeauty:)

    It's all jealousy! Kids who don't have a life, or they themself gets picked on at home or somewhere else. They find someway to fit in and make themself feel better. It's pointless stuff that everyone goes through!

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  • saddeningalien

    I'd just stay away from those people if I were you.
    That includes the doctor who told you about the "puppy fat". Yes, puppy fat happens, but never in people your age. However, the good thing is that at your age it is very easy to lose weight. Just trying to eat a little healthier and staying away from junk food for a few months will do the trick. I mean, I lost about 20 pounds like that in a little more than four months like that, and not to brag I feel much better, even thought I was and still am in the "underweight" BMI range.

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  • fuckyourself

    if your getting bullied in high school, do martial arts for god sake, the teachers literally dont give a single fuck, just kick their arse, i done it plenty of times either my friend (has aspergers syndrome, who is quiet) is getting bullied right next to me, i would break them like a kit kat bar, i have been suspended 9 times kicking the fuck out of bullies & im proud of it, if you are being bullied out there, break them like a kit kat bar.

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  • UhhhOK

    Bow chika wow wow

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  • Wendell

    What a butthead

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    • Sia

      We'll excuse me for being nervous!

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      • Wendell

        Not you damnit! The person you said was a jerk

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        • Sia

          Could of made it more clearer XD

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