Can a straight guy to have feelings for a mate?

most of these comments are just bullshit. Homophobic crap. canadian6969 is the only one I can see with any intelligence here.

At your age it's just a case of felling a bit romantic towards your friend. And there is nothing wrong with that. Your hormones are all over the place and it's easy to get your feelings confused.

I have a friend I have known for years. When we were kids we sleaped over each others place all the time. We saw each other naked all the time. But when we hit our teens I was so buzzed at getting pubes I wanted to share it with him so we had one of those. Show me yours and I'll show you mine moments.

Sure I got hard and he wanted to feel it. I let him and we broke up laughing. Then we did a bit of holding each others dicks. Nothing wrong with that it felt good. One time we were mesuring our dicks and I had this overwhelming feeling to hug him. We were naked and laying on my bed. We wrested around and got hard we rubbed our bodies together. It felt good. I think I had a crush on him but it didn't stop us from going out with girls.

I loved him and admitted it. We dated many girls together but ocationaly we got naked and held each other when he stayed over. It was our dirty secret. But it was not sexual as we never had sex or came together.

We got older and started having sex with girls and we didn't do that anymore. My feelings for him never went away. He was my best friend closer than anyone else. I live with a girl now and he is married with a kid. I still hug him and sometimes we have even kissed.

I feel like we shared something special growing up and he has admitted to me he wishes his son finds a friendship like we have. I asked him what if his son turned out to be gay and he said I don't care as long as he is happy.

Love doesn't just happen between men and women. There are many kinds of love.

The important thing is that you do love.

I went through a stage where i though i was bi, but i wasnt,
although now im starting to have feelings for my friends... i know, it is a bit weird but us two flirt all the time, usually as a joke, but sometimes it makes me feel good... >< i know exactly what ur feeling

I think it's perfectly normal. I don't know why it's always a double standard that it's normal between two females but never between two males. Sexuality isn't black and white, people.

Ha. Funny. Because I think two guys kissing is one of the hottest things ever. I'm a chick, so maybe it's the same as guys finding two girls kissing. Although I find that pretty hot, too.

I don't get why people freak out so much about bisexuality and homosexuality. It's such a normal thing, really, and I can (very much so) believe that most guys have been curious/thought about/dreamt about doing stuff with another guy. It's called human nature, people, subconcious slips through eventually.

Once again, Kinsey Scale. A majority of the population is actually bisexual with either a preference for once sex over the other or they claim 'straight' and bury their 'abnormal' feelings. It's really not a big deal.

Also, for the original poster:

I think it's adorable. Don't let people say you're a freak, or that you're 'gay' for having these feelings. You're not. Bisexual like most of the population? Maybe, but you obviously prefer females. I wouldn't let anyone make up your mind for you, if there's a possibility your friend feels the same I'd let it grow from there. Chill, sit back, and let the tide take you where ever. If you jump ship too soon you may miss out on something great.

Good luck to you!

I'm going through exactly the same thing you are-- I''m like the straightest guy in the world and it's not like I like GUYS it's just that I have these feelings for this ONE GUY. And I still like girls-- so it's extremely f*cking confusing.

There are three choices as far as I'm concerned-- ignore the feelings and hope they go away; keep the feelings and hide them from your friend; express them and hope he feels the same. As for your sexuality, I don't think it qualifies as making you bisexual or homosexual or even straight for that matter-- just an individualist. You develop feelings for someone based on their inner individuality. Most often it's a girl, but sometimes a guy might come along that has all the qualities about girls you like. Don't worry about it and just go with what you feel.

I had a boner once and I let a gay guy suck me off. I had to tell him not to make any noise and i had to shut my eyes or I couldn't blow my load. It kinda sucked so I doubt I'd ever bother again.

what does it matter, if you feel love then all i can say is that love is blind, no matter age, race or sex.

If you're not sure, why not mess around with someone a bit? Have some fun. And if you are gay, it's not a problem, my sister's a lesbian and she's great.

everybody t some point in their life questions their sexuality. the whole point of being a teen is to experiment so why not

Started skipping over comments when it turned into an argument...

If you're attracted to the same sex, then you're bisexual. Nothing wrong with it. (disregard people who tell you otherwise) What is important, is to recognize that you have been attracted to at least one person of the same sex, even if you never acted upon it.

And you may never have this feeling again, or you may have this feeling a lot more!

For me, I had my first attraction to another woman at 18, and we sat down and talked about "will this ruin our awesome friendship if we go further and make it sexual...!" And this was in 1984. Yes, I'm older.

I didn't have another attraction to a female until maybe 1992 or 1993...even in my own fantasies.

But for you, realize that there are no rules to attraction, and of course we all know about gay-bashing and homophobia and all the other fear-based violent BS that exists in this world.

Be true to yourself, and don't beat yourself up. About anything. Protect yourself, in all ways, emotional and physical, and know that this does not "label" you anything. You alone can decide where you fit into life's panorama of sexuality, and there's no rush. Good luck, brother.

I think it's natural to think like that. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be even closer to an already close friend. Also, its common for boys to feel love for one another though they may be straight. Of course, few if any of them would ever admit it, it does happen.

I wonder if your friend feels the same way.

Its normal, every guy has that exact same feeling for another guy at least one time in their life, if they say no they are lying. Either way he is probably just a really close friend to you and you love him in a friend way. That once in a lifetime feeling plus your friend love for him probably made this happen. You just said press against him and kiss that signals wanting to be closer, but not totally sexual. Dont worry, just go about your daily life and it should all pass. If it doesn't maybe by some chance you are denying you like him and you should really think about your sexuality

...Do yourself an enormous favor: DO NOT SELF-LABEL. People are attracted to others for myriads of reasons. The fact that this male friend alone provokes these thoughts leads me to believe that your feelings aren't "bi-curious" at all.

No, you're not straight.

you sound bisexual

In my opinion, based on your feelings for this friend, I would say you ARE gay BUT these gay feelings may be ONLY for him.

When I was coming out I sat down with my fraternity brothers at a bar and I told them that while I was away for the summer I discovered I was gay. After a few oohs and ahhs, and being asked if I like it up the bum and how does it feel, the 'president' of our chapter said out loud, "Hey, you never know who's going to sweep you off your feet. It may be a man, it may be a woman. What matters is if this person makes you happy. If this makes you happy then we as your brothers are happy for you."

I'll never forget that moment ever!

You might be bisexual matey

Dude ur so gay, come out already and stop being in denial.

Sounds like someone fancy both male and female.
Your bi silly be proud :P

Canada is so on point!

What's done is done. Why analyze it to this degree. Sexuality has many many facets. So, one encounter (you say no sex/no cuming) doesn't Necessarily represent your sexuality. Just a deep, untapped affection, which you guys ended.

You are bi or latent homosexual

That's not "straight" - being completely straight means you never have those kind of feelings for anyone of the same sex. You may be heterosexual-oriented but perhaps you're lonely or something and that's triggering your crush. If you're young it's normal for some people to want to experiment like that. Or you might just be bisexual. My suggestion is, don't go through with it unless you are absolutely sure about it.

Just because you like a guy doesn't mean you like every guy. Sometimes you just fall for a person, sex not important. I hope you can figure this out. There are much worse things than being bi sexual though. Men have been bi for thousands of years. It's in the bible! It's natural. Sex feels good and when you like someone you want to make them feel good too. DOn't let society scare you from fulfilling your needs. Good Luck!

Sorry, if you're attracted to BOTH sexes, then you're bisexual...not enough coffee tonight. All apologies.

Okay, I honestly don't think you are homosexual. There are several articles that basically state if you have been friends with someone and are close, that sometimes you might even get that feeling. I remember when I was younger, I was having a sleepover with this girl, and I was minding my own business, and we were playing a card game, all of a sudden she leaned in to kiss me, of course I backed away... and she was like "I'm not a lesbian, I don't know what's going on with me?" We had been friends for about 2 years or so, and we were extremely close. So yes, it is normal for you to feel that way around him if you guys are close. Otherwise you could be. Who knows, I'm not in your shoes. :) Good luck.

Bromance, bro. lol. When anyone is that close with another person, it just eventually carries some sort of romantic element. Pretty natural.

Maybe your'e in love with him? Love leads to sexual desires.At least you have feelings.I think it's great when someone can express their feelings..and your body naturally reacts when you get turned on by someone..it's pretty basic.Just follow your instincts.

thats not normal ur not gay but bisexual.u got to accept it but thats just me

Oh! Can I join? *Arm falls off*

...Ohhhh...

Anyway, maybe you're bisexual.

http://www.bisexualindex.org.uk/index.php/Main/BisexualScales

But, you're probably a 1 or a 2. If you aren't a 0 you aren't straight, though a lot of people lie and at a 1 or 2 will say they're straight. (Which I dislike. It promotes ignorance.)

U could be a closet homosexual...nothing wrong with it...if ur gay then ur gay..u gotta deal with ppl calling u gay and queer etc. oh well, congrats

nope never

that's BS, not every guy has that in their lifetime. But you can't really say that you're "Straight" now can you?

Well, it is normal to get like that. A lot of people do. It could possibly be a phase that you're going through. A lot of people go through that. It's normal. And it usually goes away. It's cool to experiment with sexuality, so you know. But if you're straight and you're having feelings like that, could it possibly be that you're bisexual? I'm just asking. Do I think it's normal? Yes, I do.

um na i feel the same about girls sometimes

I wouldn't say it is too strange. It's pretty normal for people to feel like they like another person regardless of their sex. It also may be admiration to him. I can honestly say I'd kiss (by the cheek) Michael J. Fox and hug him real hard. I also had the same feeling for a male friend once. I can also say that I'm completely straight. I'd have intercourse with women and will only have a romantic relationship with women. I'm no way bisexual. I don't like men the way I do with women. I like almost every women that looks cute and feel sexually attracted to them. For men, they are just men. Hang out and all and it just feels gross to think about kissing any guy on the street oppose to a girl.

sounds like your a very very slim bisexual. its ok but dont like force him or guilt trip him into doing stuff with you if he doesnt feel comfortable.

you can be atracted to people of the same sex and not be gay.

but the fact that you want to kiss him and rub up against him (whatever that means) sounds like you have other feelings for him.
and maby your in denial or confuzed of your sexuality

Sexuality isn't black and white, unfortunately. Just because you're attracted to girls and have always been doesn't mean you can't some day meet a guy and figure out you want to be more than friends. You aren't the first person to have turned out like this, and it's nothing bad or wrong. After this point some people "turn" and start hitting for the other side... as for others it's just a one time thing and the feelings never come back for another person... and so on a lot of things can happen. I would suggest you not beat yourself up about it and just go with the flow.

If it would disturb you mentally in the future and you know it would, I suggest not acting on your feelings. It's esp. very difficult if your friend is a proclaimed straight guy. Acting on your feelings might scare him and destroy a good friendship. If you really can't be around him without having these thoughts, & you don't want to tell him how you feel, then I don't really see how the relationship can continue. It's up to you though. If you feel up to telling him, then you may, but look up stuff on the internet 1st and consider the consequences of the risks deeply beforehand.

thanks for the advice and stuff, it helped lookin through it, the issue kinda half resolved itself now so, ahm, thanks!

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maybe you're just too close

sounds like you are bi sexual. if that's what you are, that's what you are.

Now, the question is, should you act on your impulses? well, that's always a question to be answered with the phrase "it depends".

OKK. dude. get a grip. you're developing a man-crush or sth.

what you need is what they call a "Girlfriend"

these awesome "Girlfriends" meet all kinds of needs. You'll find them to be time consuming as well. That will definitely bring you back on track.

eventually.. you'll be chilling with your buddy.. beer.. talking abt hot girls.. and everythings gonna be just fine.

btw... don't kiss the poor dude. its worse than backstabbing him.

You're unknowingly bi-courius

Yes sounds like your bi sexual if your sporting wood for your guy friends.

Stop all contact with this friend until you sort your self out, or else you could loose a good mate.

You could be mistaking genuine affection for a good friend for sexual desires.

2 women can kiss each other and its normal not sexual a man and a woman can kiss and its normal and not sexual but if a man wants to kiss another man in 99.99999999999%% of the cases your arse is the next stop

im with warlord, i got thrown out of a straight club the other day cos i told the fags next to me to stop kissing and fuck off outside, apparently i aint allowed to say that,
bollocks i dont like it, so why should i be subjected to it, if ya wana be a fag do it away from me. and i aint got a prob.
i dont force them to watch me get with girls, they choose to go to a straight club in the same way i choose not to go to gay bars.