Can i actually get some decent advice ?

I never get any genuine advice on here anymore what has happened to this site ?

Anyway. I’ve been speaking to this lad online, he flirted with me from the start off, and it was fun. He then said he’s starting to fall for me... which was nice. Anyway we chatted and he started asking questions, we bounced off each other. We even sent each other our voices. He kept saying he wants to meet which was nice... can’t believe my luck he is so out of my league but I’ve never really looked at myself as anything nice. He says I’m besutiful even without makeup.
He started asking about my past relationships and when I last had sex... and well I haven’t. Idk if he was joking or being serious but he told me to go to town and get experience basically which Idk it’s hadd for me to say I’ve never been with a man. I have social anxiety so my thought process is warped.
He got quieter with me and things changed.. but this may be in my head.. I asked him if he was okay. And he basically said he was lonely (his job) so I gave him advice and he said he was glad he had met me.. he then said he was sad again and that he was a loner (I thought he didn’t mix with people well) but he said he was lonely. I was trying to figure out if he had many friends and he said he only has me really. Yet he’s gone all quiet ?! He also said he is having family issues so maybe that’s why he’s gone quiet.
I do really like him. But he’s getting to the point where he is ignoring me less ? But I usually message again because I think my anxiety is like keep him here or he will find someone better.
Once someone I like doesn’t message I start panicking and idk how to stop or how long to give them before I message.

The last thing that happened was we were flirting and he just stopped messaging so I said ‘I guess you’ve lost interest?’ And he said ‘defs not with you’

So I don’t know. If he stops replying how long do I give? He’s also said he’s different and weird and that he’s not usually this deep with people. He is blowing hot and cold, saying he’s interested but not acting it. Then again it might be me being weird. Just always need reassurance And I always feel like I’m being judged. Specially by a hot guy like him.
So I’m trying to read between the lines. But I don’t want to annoy him to much.
So advice because I have 0 experience with men. The only thing I’m good at is fucking things up.

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  • bob7

    first , how old are you ?

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    If he isn't talking nearly as much then he must not care as much as he did the first time. Don't keep sending him messages is my advice. If he is truly interested in you, he will message you.

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    • If I don’t message he messages.. then stops again I asked him if he was interested and he said yes. There’s something more too it but he says he’s teasing me by not saying :|

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  • JonathanOo

    I'm your age but have little experience too. But I do know that when he stoos communicating he is either very busy or something is bothering him. It's ok to meet people in person. Just be honest and take things slowly. If he is really far away it'll be harder of course. If the guy truly is genuine it'll likely be worth it. Don't fret about messing things up, you've done nothing wrong at all. Just be patient and figure out what's going on with Him, then you can decide what to do from there

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    • If he’s truly into me he will message right ? He didn’t message and I thought I’d leave it and he messaged me and I replied then he stopped AGAIN. Also he asked if I fancied him I said yes and his reply was ‘you cutie’.... I feel like he’s a closed book. But don’t want to be a pest.

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      • JonathanOo

        He's definitely closed off but interested in you. You'll have to be patient, he will message you in time. More frequently after a while again

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        • I don’t know he didn’t message but messaged me this morning ?? Then he will stop again uh. So hard to read

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          • usuallytXtwall

            I'm assuming he's a little younger, based on the conversation, actions, and language he uses. He likes you, but thought you had experience that he was hoping you could or would share to alleviate his loneliness and give him practice, physically, sexually, mentally and emotionally, for a real relationship, which he knows he's not ready for. So when you weren't the experienced woman he could learn from to be a better man for his eventual lover or even lovers in the future, he was conflicted about cutting it off, because either he didn't want to admit to himself that's what he was looking for, it developed into an actual relationship with a person, which he wasn't expecting or prepared for, and he's still playing the field with other females he's talking to, but probably feels a little guilty while at the same time wondering if you could still go get experience and become the person he imagined you were so he can go ahead with his original plan, before he loses interest and/or bails.

            Congratulations on getting the attention and appreciation of a hot guy. Now pretend he's not hot and behaved the same way. Would you be as accepting? Or wouldn't you care?

            At the end of the day it's about who doesn't make you question if they actually like you or not, even if they do.

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  • lordofopinions

    It sounds like he was disappointed you didn't have any sexual experience and figures he won't get any as he figures you want to stay a virgin. Just saying. Maybe you could tell him you would like a physical relationship but you have been waiting for the right guy to come along and that you think it may be him.

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  • Iszzy123

    There's no real answer you can wait or you can go follow your heart

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  • Nickvey

    so in his mind he built an image of somebody that didnt match up in real life. you are done. thats life time to move on and stop whining over it. he wont even fuck you . get it now. guys would fuck a virgin in a heartbeat but tell you to get it done someplace else. you are not even one night stand material. im a guy so i know how guys think.

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    • bob7

      and does that man live somewhere close that you can meet?

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      • He keeps saying he wants too. People make it work from different countries

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        • bob7

          where are you from and where is he from ?

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          • Uk!

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  • xfg66

    stick your pinky in your tiny, hairless vagina

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