Can i actually get some decent advice ?
I never get any genuine advice on here anymore what has happened to this site ?
Anyway. I’ve been speaking to this lad online, he flirted with me from the start off, and it was fun. He then said he’s starting to fall for me... which was nice. Anyway we chatted and he started asking questions, we bounced off each other. We even sent each other our voices. He kept saying he wants to meet which was nice... can’t believe my luck he is so out of my league but I’ve never really looked at myself as anything nice. He says I’m besutiful even without makeup.
He started asking about my past relationships and when I last had sex... and well I haven’t. Idk if he was joking or being serious but he told me to go to town and get experience basically which Idk it’s hadd for me to say I’ve never been with a man. I have social anxiety so my thought process is warped.
He got quieter with me and things changed.. but this may be in my head.. I asked him if he was okay. And he basically said he was lonely (his job) so I gave him advice and he said he was glad he had met me.. he then said he was sad again and that he was a loner (I thought he didn’t mix with people well) but he said he was lonely. I was trying to figure out if he had many friends and he said he only has me really. Yet he’s gone all quiet ?! He also said he is having family issues so maybe that’s why he’s gone quiet.
I do really like him. But he’s getting to the point where he is ignoring me less ? But I usually message again because I think my anxiety is like keep him here or he will find someone better.
Once someone I like doesn’t message I start panicking and idk how to stop or how long to give them before I message.
The last thing that happened was we were flirting and he just stopped messaging so I said ‘I guess you’ve lost interest?’ And he said ‘defs not with you’
So I don’t know. If he stops replying how long do I give? He’s also said he’s different and weird and that he’s not usually this deep with people. He is blowing hot and cold, saying he’s interested but not acting it. Then again it might be me being weird. Just always need reassurance And I always feel like I’m being judged. Specially by a hot guy like him.
So I’m trying to read between the lines. But I don’t want to annoy him to much.
So advice because I have 0 experience with men. The only thing I’m good at is fucking things up.