Can people still love me when i struggle with self harm?

Yes. I have the same issue, but there are other reasons that I self harm as well. No everyone will be okay with it, some men freak out when they see my scars and then I get a weird feeling in my stomach. It feels weird when a guy wants to touch my scars on my wrists. Not many guys are totally fine with it, but some are.

I just feel a sad sense of understanding. I'm recovering from self harm, myself. I'm about eight months clean, but I still crave the pain... I thought no one could love me because of my problems, but my boyfriend always tells me otherwise. I tell him almost everything and he doesn't think any less of me. He tells me I'm the strongest person he knows. I don't know about all that, but I know that we can be loved.

Self harm is never a good thing. I have several nasty scars from when I spent years mutilating my body. I have learned that the people who truly matter in your life such as your family and friends will always love you. They care about you. They are scared of something happening to you. Seek treatment. Talk to someone about what's going on. If you have to admit yourself into the local hospital for a legal 2000 because you don't know how to stop yourself and you want to then do it. Make the effort to better yourself before it's too late. Remember Nothing that has happened in the past, the present and future is worth u harming yourself over or taking your life. No person is worth you harming yourself or taking your life. I finally realized both if those things at the moment I was in the process of taking my life. To answer your question people ask questions, stare, look at you all kinds of ways, they are judgemental. Many have assumed at first glance at me not even knowing me after seeing my scars I have problems or "I'm one of those ppl," they steer clear of me. I have to be covered up in public. Sucks not being able to wear certain clothes when it's hot or something nice to go out in that's short sleeve. Scars stay with you forever you only have 1 life.

People that know you of course. They should love you more even. People that don't know you shouldn't judge you. There is no one better than you and you aren't better than anyone else. Anyone that couldn't see you through scars and pain doesn't deserve your time or energy anyway.

I feel very sad for such people. Many causes. Some do it to punish themselves for something they believe they have done wrong. They do it because they are depressed or have a problem on their minds that is driving them nuts and want to escape into a world of pain for a while.

Don't hate them or look down on them. What they need most is love and understanding and a good friend they can open up to and help them out of their mental hell.

When I see someone with self-harm scars, I feel uncomfortable around them, and try not to look them eye after that because if they knew I saw the scar then they might believe I am judging them and somehow be able to "tell" by looking into my eyes. - And I'd rather not make them feel like they're being judged. I also feel uncomfortable because seeing depressed people reminds me of my past and my mortality, so that's never fun.

I don't think they're worse people, but I do feel it is a weak thing to do. Still, I'd be willing to be friends with someone who has self-harmed as long as they never do that while we're friends.

As for you, I think "sure! many people can love you for the good person you truly are" - just don't burden others with your struggle and get a professional therapist or your friends may leave you because it's too much for them.

Old scars? I´d Think it was a part of your past. Fresh wounds? No I´d not go there.

I would ^^
It’s sad to see the scars if I was close to you , if not I’d just be like huh that’s somethin

I have visible scars and burns on my arm and leg. No one ever said anything about it

Mine has no issue with old scars, find the right person and they won't judge. Self harm is a lot less taboo than it was but that being said, getting help for it is always a good idea :)

Yes, you are no less deserving of love than others, but self harm, and most notably cutting does cause many people to have a sense of fear and anxiety. I haven't cut in over eleven years. I hope that you too can stop as well.

I wonder if you ever struggle with feelings of dissociation? Also have you ever sought help from a mental health professional? It's possible that you might be struggling with a mood or personality disorder. Cutting is specifically quite common among sufferers of BPD also know as EID. A type of cognitive behavioral therapy known as DBT is especially helpful as is Mindfulness Meditation.

Hang in there!☺