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i (19F) used to have what i assume to be romantic feelings but i haven't felt that way for years. i don't see myself having a partner anytime soon and i'm okay with that. i see romantic relationships as friendships but with more responsibilities, and i'd rather have friends. i want to consider myself aro because it'd be much easier for me to explain that i don't really care for romance anymore
If you don’t feel romantic attraction you can call yourself aromantic, people’s orientations sometimes shift over their life. It’s worth noting that you don’t have to be aro to not want to date or be in a relationship, sometimes you just need some time to work on yourself.
There's more than one type of love, and romantic love is not the end all, be all of existence!
You are 19 and you said you havent felt it "for years"... Romantic feelings coming from a child is not real so i'd say yes, then again you're still young and have likely not dated seriously yet.
I'd also say it's definietely possible to stop falling in love after having repeated negative experiences and even trauma from past relationships, though I think that is unlikely at your age to have had tons of negative experiences. I'm not talking unrequited love here, after all. Even then I wouldn't call it being "aromantic", but rather having a lot of crap to work through.
Not likely. If you once had romantic feelings... you can likely have them again IF you meet the right person.
Example; I'm very much into sex and romance. But, I am very very selective - and if the Lady does not meet my criteria then there just are not going to be any romantic feelings (no matter what she is wearing - or not wearing - or doing to attract sexual interest). That's true of most people.
Not being interested in romance with any individual is quite common. Most people do have some kind of standard.
I think you are thinking too much of which label fits you. This is something young people are big on now. People want to have a label that defines them. Just do you I wouldnt worry about whether or not you are aromantic honestly. Just go with the flow.