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Some days I look in the mirror and think I look ugly, then the next I'll look and think that I'm attractive. Do other people also have this ever-changing view of themselves?
yh same, somedays I think "eew I am sooo ugly, I should just cut my face off and put it out of its misery" and others I think "wow, I'm pretty cute :)"
i so understand that! its like this * looks in morror* hey goodlooking and then the picture comes out and its like WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED?!
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lol me too. ill be shirtless in the mirror( im a guy) and feelin sexy as hell lol then i always look stupid and ugly in pics
You are always more self critical of yourself than other are of you at least I am..
I once heard the reason for that is that we see ourselves in the mirror more often then in photographs. The image in the mirror is therefore more comfortable and "normal" to us than the non-mirrored photograph.
This is so me! I feel like when I look in the reversable camera in my phone the dark spots on my face ar major highlighted
I am the most attractive man in the world, but other people just can't seem to see it.
yes, i feel tha same. One day I look at the mirror and think im a princess and smile @ myself thinking bout my good look then the next day i dont even want to look at it while brushing my teeth .and think on how ugly i am and that shriek the ogor from the movie looks million of times better than me lol
I'll walk past a window or a mirror and say either:
Dammmnn Lauren looking hot.. Wonder if anyone else thinks so?(;
or...
Fat ass get back to McDonalds, 'cause that Ronald McDonald statue is the only thing that will look at you and smile.
Both of those statements are true...Sadly the mcdonald's one..
Same here, and I also think sometimes that a look super freakin ugly in pictures, but in the mirror I look pretty hot, lol im totally psycho :P
Why do people stare at me so much??? I think I'm pretty in some ways but in other ways I think I look very different from other people. I get a lot of attention from men and I actually don't like the attention so unfortunately I'm very shy and anti-social.
I think some people think they can walk all over me and when I blow up in their face they do not know what to say. I think some people think I'm more social, talkative, flirtatious and when they discover I'm not they don't know how to react.
I really could careless about my attractiveness. I feel so distant from other people. Like I'm not normal, but sometimes I want to be just like them. I wish I knew how to fit in with other people.
I never fit in... stay different everyone wants to be the same it takes courage to be different
you blow up at people when they walk over you. I'm going to name you land mine!
give us an example of where someone walked over you and you blew up at them. I'm asking this because I think I may know someone like that and you may be able to help me understand them a little better...
Kind of feel like you do, but I do care about about how I look because is the 1st thing people see, and if I looked less sensual, people would think of me in a different way, like in a more spiritual way, lets put it that way.
ha, wow. Sounds just like me. Besides the attractive part. I'm a very strange looking male, I don't get much attention.
People always think they can walk over me because I'm very quiet and introverted. I come across as insecure in my actions cause I'm usually lost in thought. I'm very non-violent and hate getting mad but when I need to I always stand up for myself.
the same thing happens 2 me. 1 day, i think i look pretty. & then the next i feel lik i'm ugly. it's weird & i don't get it.
yes it happens to me too. :) some days I think I'm pretty, some days I think I'm fugly >.>
yeah its normal i go through this 24/7 i think im ugly one day and the next day im like damn i look good lol im 19 and i still do this but idk its weird sometimes it happends by weeks instead of days i think i am really ugly i hate pictures i think i look wierd lol idk what else to say because im a boy and i still think like this i seriously think im hideous but every body tells me im gorgus or hot or beautiful so dont worry about it it is something you will grow out of
so normal. the important part is to not let those thoughts decide your attitude on life for that day.
Yeh it's normal because our self-esteem and confidence always changes. And there are so many variables to consider such as how much light is in the room, how good your skin is that day, how clean your hair looks, how much make-up you have on, what you are wearing, how you are feeling at the time, current mood etc.
yea thats normal, some days i have about 28 pints of lager then look at myself in the mirror and i find myself sooooooooo attractive, so i rip it off the wall and fuck myself in the mouth
Of course I do, everyone has good and bad days. Most of the time I feel way more attractive than I actually am, it's just some sort of defense-mechanism.
You know those people that say they never look good in photos? Or people that are surprised by how good they looked? Well, that's because in a photo they're confronted with an undistorted and unfiltered real image of themselves.
When looking at yourself in a mirror, the brain interprets the data and basically modifies it to fit your idea of what you look like. The same mechanism comes into play when judging other people's appearance in real life. Negative thoughts, low self-esteem and depression among other things make you think that you're uglier than you really are, and vice-versa with narcissists etc. If that makes any sense.
idk lol i mean that happens to me... but i constantly try t convince myself that im pretty. and i always get yelled at for not taking compliments very well.... so.... it makes life easier to believe ur always pretty. :)
Whenever i get a compliment from somebody saying that I look good, i think they're just trying to be nice. I hate the way I look. ABSOLEUTLY HATE IT. Im glad you have confidence. =]
That totally happens to me too!!! Sometimes I get all dressed cute and look great before going out, and then when I go to the bathroom at the club, I'm like 'whoa, hello', and sometimes the opposite happens, I leave the house like 'uhh, I look blah', and then later I see myself even in a photo or the bathroom mirror and it's like 'whoa, hellooo!!!' ...I think it's probably how you are feeling at the given moment, sometimes you feel good, but sometimes you don't!!
Happens to me everyday. I wake up and pass the mirror and think "Damnit! Another damn homeless person breaking into my house again!" then I take a shower and do my hair and say "DAAAAAAAAMMMMMMNNN MAMA! LOOKING GOOOOOD!" (lol, I don't really say that....sometimes. ^^)
Our looks change on a daily basis depending on how well rested we were or what we have been eatinv (you are what you eat). So eat well and sleep well and you will be pleased with your reflection in the mirror every day
don't worry there is nobody as ugly as you and nobody and hot as you either
NORMAL! this happens to me all the time. One day, i will get ready and then look in the mirror and be like "dayummmm i look good", but then days later i will do the same thing and think "why do i bother to go in public?".
apparently mirrors make you look prettier than you actually are.
don't worry - this happens to me all the time too. one morning, when i slept for too long, my face becomes really bloated and so do my eyes and i just look really weird (more like ugly). but the next day for reason i slept very little and look tired but i when i try to look at the mirror all optimistic and stuff i look pretty! ok weird. i know. but i think it happens to everyone right ;)
YES! And also, I can't ever really grasp what I actually look like, even though I spend tons of time looking in the mirror and at pictures of myself. I just feel like I always have a biased opinion even though I try not to.
Same here,
I know when I'm hot, I know when I'm ugly.
Even people spot my good days or bad, and I always agree :)
When I look in the mirror I see two ugly people. Side by side. One of them slaps the other so hard that his shoes fall off.
I do that! I always get called pretty, and some days I look in the mirror and think 'Aw, maybe I can be pretty' buts that's only when I've made the effort, and there's other times I look in the mirror and pick out all the things that bug me, like...
I have an odd shaped noes
My teeth are stupid
My hair is disgusting
Why can't I be barbie...
You get what I mean?
i always think i look ugly but if a girl calls me cute or something i think about it all day
Yup, I can't stand the feeling of looking ugly one day and good the next.
Totally normal. I can look at my self in the mirror one minute and think that I'm decent and then, like, an hour later I look again and think, "omg, what happened?!"
when i have make-up on and i look in the mirror i think i look quite nice as i have a heart shaped face ie. rounded with a pointed chin, niceish eyes and good jawline. then i see some of the photos i am in and i think GOD I'M GHASTLY. i think its something about my nose or my skin colour..
i don't look good in pictures straight on and i have pale skin so in some photos my nose and cheeks can look pinkish which is really attractive (!)
i have pale eyebrows because i have strawberry blonde hair and pale eyelashes too. my features look bland when i don't colour them with liner or mascara. wish i had dark eyelashes!
camera flash is my enemy. black and white photographs are so much more flattering. i wish i lived in the age of the black and white camera.
hahaha ... a mirror never lies. I find looking at videos I get a pretty consistent idea of myself because its like looking at you from the viewpoint of another person. But looking in the mirror I can never figure it out. Best not to look too much fyi.
Also everyone has different ideas of what is attractive or not. You could be fighting over different ideas of what a person's perception could be. People who don't watch too much Miss Universe would see the beauty in most people. I personally have been surprised by some of the people Ive been attracted to!
I am just like that! It's normal. Some mirrors have better lighting than others, some days you are in a better mood, and some days you look more tired than others. Most likely, you still look the same to everyone else.
It's a perfectly common thing for people to do, I've never in my life, met a person that doesn't.
i feel a bit different but the same too. i've always seen myself as an ugly person because im a bit overweight, but every now and then i will look in the mirror and say waw i dont look that bad. i think its just something we all do to keep ourselves moving toward a goal to be attractive. its perfectly normal =)
Of course it happens alot. Some days you're just focusing on your nose or your eyes or a specific body part,thus making you feel attractive or unattractive depending on the body part at hand.
I do it allll the time, normaly depends on how close i am to the mirror tho. Lol
yes :) but u probably look fine to other people, nobidy notices what u look like most of the time coz they busy worrying about how they look lol
It all depends on your mood and energy. Attractiveness has much less to do with looks than it has to with self confidence and positive energy.
A person can be really hot looking as far as societies ideal goes but they wont get far if they dont carry themselves well and have a good attitude.
Superficial appearances may get you a foot in the door so to speak but if you are flaky, rude or boring etc etc you will be shown the exit pretty quickly.
Those time you feel you look great are probably also the times when you are feeling most confident. People are attracted to confidence like bees to honey.
It is normal. When you are down, feeling low or tired, everything looks a little bleaker and any flaws one has seem a little more glaring than usual.
Get over it. You are great because you are YOU!
The Divine Ms. O.
yeah, same for me!!
i think, when you take care of your self it happens more and more.
Yeah, i get it all the time. I especially get it when I haven't slept really good and I get that blue looking color under my eyes. I hate it. But when I put cover up on there, it disappears and I think i look much prettier. What do you find not attractive on those days?
Sometimes I wish I wasn't attractive. Or that I was at least born into a family where being attractive isn't cause for ridicule.
I think my life would have been so much easier if I was ugly. Is this normal? Or is my depression getting worse..?
If you have doubts you are probably ugly but "fuckable." My recommendation is to stop worrying if it is normal or not. Make yourself skinny and sexually attractive. That's what guys like me want. Also, you have daddy issues. You should get that checked out but send me your number first.
i have'nt had it personally with being hit on by guys but i'm lead to believe that people generally do think i'm Gay, and i dunno but i think it's only because i'm not all macho. it sucks
what can I say. some girls look better without makeup, but they can't see it.. or rather, they might associate the effort they put in with positive results. same with men ofc. on the other hand I think natural is best, but maybe I'm just lazy. I also think I'm a very pretti boy, even if some photos don't show that.. I KNOW IM PRETTY OK. I'm like a princess
Wait until you turn 60, then decide.
Beauty has always been and will always be in the eyes of the beholder.
Chances are you're attractive to someone if not many. My guess is your attractive to many!
Don't worry. A winning personality goes a long way and I'd rather marry a "7" who was a great person than a "10" who's a bitch. Also 7's often give much better sex and that's important to a man!
Also guys have different tastes so some guy is going to find you very attractive and fall in love with you!
Stop worrying, just be HEALTHY - eat right, excercise - and look your own best and you'll do fine in life!
This is called "body dysmorphic disorder". I'm a 25 year old male and i have this too! It really sucks. Counselling is available if it is causing you distress...
Very normal, I feel like one day I'm the prettiest girl in the word, and the next I'm the ugliest thing to ever crawl the earth.
I just want to know which one I am..
That is the problem.
I hate how other people obviously perceive you differently to how you perceive yourself. I wish i knew how others saw me! :(
Not normal yet not abnormal. yet you sound like an anoying attention whore
I'm a man, so I don't bother with makeup, but I had this same issue until I decided I didn't give a fuck because people who care about that shit aren't the crowd I want around me. Now I always think I'm a little bit above average, but not by much. And it's just fan-flipping-tastic that way.
This happens to me daily and i believe i look more attaractive without shirt but i can not go shirtless to my college
Your GORGEOUS ALL of you and when YOU too can SEE THAT this crazy world will FINALLY heal!
Okay, so all people have different opinions. But here is a quote I got from the internet. I absolutely love it and I'm sure you and all other women who don't like their bodies will to. " Dear girls,
Don't be insecure. You don't need makeup or nice clothing. You are all fucking beautiful.
Fact 1: ninety percent of the flaws you notice in your own face will never be noticed by another living person.
Fact 2: we tend to be forgiving of our own faults when we're feeling good, and we have a way of filtering our own image in the mirror, and focusing on what we like on days we feel good.
Bottom line: We see ourselves quite accurately when we take both facts into account. Your looks are probably truthfully seen by others somewhere between how you see yourself on a good day and on a bad day. We look worse in pics because we can't use that third dimension to focus our eyes on certain angles, we're forced to see a flat image of ourselves with all of our features, good and bad, equally in focus.
It's not just about the problems with photos themselves either, it's the fact we train our brains to only examine our own faces at certain angles and in certain lighting in our real lives. Sure you look cute contorting yourself in the mirror, looking into your own deep limpid eyes, but do other people see that ideal version of you when you're talking a mile a minute and making stank faces every five seconds? I don't think so (:
I look terrible on most photos but okay on video and in the mirror too. So do a lot of celebrities. I think it has to do with how much of the face/body you perceive (which increases with movement). Viewing from just one fixed angle can make anyone look terrible, especially if you really focus on it like you'd do with a picture of yourself, as opposed to a picture of someone else, where you don't really go into the details, just take it as it is. Try watching a casual video of yourself, like from the distance and angle other people would look at you. That might answer some questions.
cover the mirror my girlfriend did that and got rid of these issues, it is all mental
It's OK. It's not an abnormal problem. To be more exact, it's not a problem at all!
When I look from afar, I see that I look not so attractive than when I looked from close up.
I think its just because sometimes we look too closely at all the details and watever and others dont see that. or maybe were all just fucking disgusting.
I get like this all the time.
It's like, sometimes I wake up and my eyes look really bright and big and I have smooth skin and my hair is tangle to fuckery and my fringe is all nice, and I'm just like, aah. *content sigh*
then SOME mornings I wake up with chinese looking eyes (no offence), severe bags, and I look like I've been dragged through a bush.
I seem to look better at night and when I have nowhere to go, but in the morning and when I have to go somewhere I look like a damn wreck.
sometimes i look in the mirror and feel awful. Then when i go out and someone compliments me on my looks i check the mirror again and feel pretty again :D
Come to terms with what YOU think you are; don't compare yourself to others, but just look at yourself from another perspective (;
Some people are completely egotistical and always think they're attractive...
Some think they're always unattractive and have poor self-esteem.
........
It is better to be versatile.
yea, some days i look in the miror and i say " Wow i look like a complete dumster fire." and other days im like "Damn im sexy." its normal
I truly believe that everybody looks worse in pictures that aren't well-lit and professional. Normal lighting is just way better than the flash.
I feel the exact same way I feel ugly when I compare myself to someone so pretty and how I wish I had their eyes or nose or hair but then I think what is wrong with me I get compliments about how pretty I am and clearly I'm not ugly but I just keep comparing myself to others...it's very frustrating
i do that too!like one day i'll think i look bad and the naxt day i think i look great and its soo weird.i think it might have to do with the lighting.
OMG.. i do that all the time. At the beggining there are comments talking about how people feel they look better in the mirror then in photos. Execpt for me, it's reverse. I think i'm very photogenic, and if i try to look bad/funny in a pic then i can be extremley un photogenic. My friends say I have the best faces. Back to the original topic, I agree and it's confusing. Most of the time when I have makeup on though, I feel pretty, and when i dont, well thats when I feel not as attractive. Which is pretty lame to admit
everyone is ugly and good looking at the same time, depends on how tehy are inside.
This happens to me always.It seems really crazy, but if on a certain day I feel like I look pretty and I go out and take pictures, I will love all of them and think I look great in all of them; even days or months later I will think I still look good, because I remember that day I felt like I looked pretty. the exact opposite is true for days I feel ugly. I think it's psychological to be honest.you can have your bad days but no one goes from ugly to pretty so quickly.
Yay! Someone like me! I'm just really excited because I finally took a good photo of myself. I think. Tomorrow I'll probably hate it. I think part of it is brain chemistry, and part is lighting, and part is styling/clothes.
Yeah . I do it 24/7 ! I don't know why, but it's just something that happens
The same thing just about happens with me! In the mornings I spend ages in the bathroom, looking at myself in the mirror because I look so attractive but once the sun comes out the lighting affects the appearance of my face, when I'm in certain rooms, looking in certain mirrors or in certain lighting I feel like crying and having a breakdown. I've had minor acne in the past, everytime I get a spot it always leaves a mark, I didn't really eat healthily or treat my skin well in the past so I'm left with a slight pigmentation on my cheeks which is visible in bright light. However I refuse the believe that I'm ugly, I have green eyes and long eyelashes with full lips and I get meaningful compliments on my eyes and smile from time to time, besides everybody is beautiful in their own way. I hate the word "Ugly" anyway, it shouldn't be used as an insult towards people, it's such a hurtful word and the people that use it don't even realise it. =[
It depends on my mood. If I'm angry or my hormones are playing up I think I'm fat and disgusting. Other times when I'm happy, obviously, I think I'm gorgeous. My self esteem and self perception depends on my mood.
But when it comes to pictures - well they say the camera adds 10 pounds. Let's hope they're not lying because I look obese in full body shots when I'm not that fat in the mirror.
Most of the time I think I look ok. I've never thought of myself as pretty or beautiful but average. Sometimes I do think im ugly, I think it depends what type of day you had.
omg ! yes , like i absoloutltey hate it when people are like omg ur soo sosooosos pretty or guys r like ur hot ! . like no i think that i am hideously ugly , but other people say that i am beautiful :( . i cant decide on what to think i am !
i totally agree with you! some days im like " i am NOT going out today" others im like " OMG! u look so good ur hair is great ur clothes are awesome! lets go flaunt it!" so yea normal
All the time. Sometimes I think "wow, nice hair today...or my eyes glow or whatever." then the next day ill go, where did my nice hair go? normal honey .
Yeah, it really kills your self confidence, because you always think other people see you that way, too.
It's normal, I think 99% of people do it... apart from truly butt ugly people.
hahahahah it happens to me all the time haha!! sometimes im like. yeah i look irresistible!! and then, who would like such an ugly guy lol
Yep. Its so frustrating. I start feeling really low on days I think I look hideous but on days I think I look good im so happy and confident. Not sure whether its a mental thing or what?
All the time! Sometimes I think I'm pretty and others I just think I'm really ugly and fat
Everyone questions themselves sometimes, just try to make it look like you dont. Thats the secret ;)
I deal with this problem a lot.
It doesn't matter how much or often someone else tells me I'm beautiful or attractive, I still do it. There are days when I feel like I look amazing and I'm full of confidence, and then other days, I feel like I look terrible and there's nothing I can do about it.
I've always had issues with self-esteem, so maybe that's the cause of it.
I often wonder what other people see when they look at me, like when I'm having conversations with someone or interacting in crowds.
Everyday of my life.
I noticed when I'm happier I look better and when I'm depressed I look like a fat hog. It's all in how we perceive ourselves which is bull spit cause we won't ever really know what we look like to other people.
Believe me for someone who has never seen you, you're probably Ugly..
But your eyes are use to seeing you, so they may think your hott or somthing
definantly i do that all the time(well kinda) sept i normaly dont look at my self like im pretty i acually think im quite ugly :p
That's the story of my life. Some days I feel gorgeous and confident with my appearance, and other days I just want to break all the mirrors in the world. So yes, you are normal.
I do that too lol some days I feel fat some days I look different it's pretty normal
yes! i usally try to trick myself though and say hey maybe i do look pretty and i convience myself its true but its notxD and im sure your gorgeous so dont worry about it;]
yes its just your insurcuritys happens to me all the time. but dont let it try and fool you.
exactly the same for me, i cant stop looking in mirrors to see how i look. and each look fuelling the next as im dissapointed how im looking =S its horrible.
yes, me too, however, I also have the reverse- I look in the mirror and think I look really good but then I feel like others dont really view me as attractive as I feel that I look!
Yeah I usually think i'm pretty good looking but sometimes Im just not, especially when I look at myself in the mirror when I'm beligerant at a party somewhere...
Yeah I feel the same. It like depends on how you feel. If your glum, down, sad, or depressed you have a frown and your features sulk. If your tired, you might have dark circles under your eyes. (on me I was born with dark rings under my eyes!) If your happy your features are perked and hotastic!
No, not normal, nor honest.
I look in my mirror and think im ugly, but then again, I am honest.
You should be too.
Post pics and then we'll all say you're ugly regardless of what you look like, just to be pricks.
Most definitely, however it doesn't fluctuate based on the day but rather the time of day as well as other factors. My clothing, my hair, my skin. One minor blemish can change my entire opinion of myself, and if someone calls me attractive that makes me feel even more unattractive until I reflect on the compliment many hours later. Sigh, I hate my insecurities but they keep me from being arrogant about my average looks.
Absolutely! This happens to everyone with no exceptions. It could be because of what someone told you, your mood at the moment, or even just the lighting in the room that makes you feel different about your physical appearance.
You're NOT crazy. I also have ever-changing view of myself. I think that it's normal. ;)
YEAHH!!it s the fuckin truth, it happens to me all the time... in sum picz I look really ugly and I hate myself, but I ve got others uploaded and I get comments from hot girls giving me lots of compliments, so I really don t know... I just think it this way: if supermodels or hollywood actors were that good looking why would they need like 10 people to do a photosession or people to edit their photos??, and even more impressive, is that they don t look for regular people to do that job, they look for people with degrees and studys and excperience and all that stuff...
yes its normal i hate when it happens though i want to look good all the time but sometimes i think i look like bad it sucks!
I get exactly the same; mostly with the whole without makeup situations. Sometimes I feel I like good without it, others I just have to put loads on to make myself feel even half appealing.
I believe I am insecure about my appearance and every person gets like it. I mean sometimes I feel like the ugliest person alive and want to just shove a bag on my head and be done with it.
:) At the end of the day, they say its what you think and not what others think, but when you feel like that; everyone else must be thinking it too.
We are always seeing women who are looking beautiful, it is natural to compare yourself to them. The magazines and tv shows are full of beyond perfect women. It is completly natural to feel not so pretty sometimes. It is not ditzy at all. Just because you're perfect doesn't mean we all are.
WAY normal. I do it all the time. My facial hair hasn't really started growing but I hate the little hairs! I think it makes me so unattractive!