Cheating sex is better

Fine. Then you need to react all your claims on how naive I am.

Everyone on this forum can see that you refused to educate yourself on the subject.

Your not even willing to watch a TED talk by one of the experts on infidelity who has treated patients in many cultures and all over the world to here what she has to say about the subject. Nor I suspect have you even looked up her credentials.

It does not bother me when people are ignorant on subjects. It does bother me when they intentionally refuse to educate themselves on the subject when dealing with it.

In this case (and likely on a number of the other cases you think I am naive on) I am far more educated and well read on clinical and professional journals on this subject than many.

That is in part because I am several times older than you and have had the time to research many issues and learn about them at least to a certain level.

The other reason is that in whatever I do... I tend to excel at it which requires constant education on things (I'm still reading new books and learning new things at my age... and will likely do so until I die).

I've many decades of charity mentoring and recently life coaching... and infidelity is a common issue. I had to understand the basics in order to do my mentoring and life coaching.

I do not claim to be an expert counselor on the issue of infidelity. Some people can figure things out once I explain the basics... and others I refer to experienced counselors on the issues.

Now I had also promised to provide some additional information for you.

I highly suggest that you get and read the book: The 5 Love Languages, by: Gary Chapman.

This will help you improve your own relationships and love life... both now and in the future.

It will also explain why so many relationships fail... You may think that you are telling your partner that you love them adequately. But, unless you know what's in this book its likely that you are not... and things are building up.

Overall: As far as infidelity goes. A full "love tank" is only part of emotional satisfaction in a relationship. But almost everyone who is willing to learn about love languages and how to use them is also likely to be able to figure out how to properly provide the other emotional support needed.

By the way: The 3 causes for almost all cheating is:

Biggest: unmet emotional needs (of which the "love tank" is only a part of).

Next biggest: Not able to satisfy the other partners sexual needs: Sex drive mismatch, health issues affect one party from having sex, sexual orientation mismatch (this includes both the variations of hetro & homo sexuality, people who are naturally poly vs ones that are not, and other assorted sexual interest or practice variations)

Sexual need differences, once clearly understood, is most often solved by caring couples by opening the relationship - with at least modestly strict rules for other partners (free-for-alls very rarely work long term).

Rarest: Survival situations. If long term people who pair up survive best.

Survival situations can also be triggered by relatively quick events like flash floods (and near drownings), fire in buildings, major calamities, etc. where someone rescues someone else. A very primitive part of the brain can take over in these situations. They can usually be forgiven and lived with as they are rare and apply to the situation that happened. But, it may take counseling for people to understand why it happened.

I hope all of this helps you understand some things... and that perhaps I'm not so naive as you think.

Assuming it's about an emotional attachment is unsubstantiated by reality... when it comes to men. Men cheat to get more attention or sex. Women do it for more emotions.

Blanket statements on the motives of cheating should be differentiated by sex as theres different motivations based on said sex. Which is completely logical evolutionary psychology wise. Societally it's more complex with those who cheat it's more likely that those who work with said individual will probably distrust them even more. Simply people dont trust cheaters.

Old dude boiling it down to simplicity is doing injustice to any counter argument. Talking politics and policy is like talking to a wall, I'll have a deep conversation on exactly why I like or hate XYZ. He will just have a monotone XYZ position with the illusion of substance of why.