Cold person

I've met a cold-hearted girl online and we talked nearly a month little by little and only in the evenings. She has experienced a lot of crap in her life. She rarely writes first and sometimes skip the messages. Her replies are always short. No follow up questions. I can't handle it sometimes because I prefer deep conversations. We had a couple fights because of it. But I'm afraid that next argue gonna be the last.
I almost talked about everything with her, i was too opened but she is not.
Sometimes i think that she is just arrogant.
Once she said that it's very difficult for her to get along with somebody. Trust issues are obvious.. How long it will take to get use to?
(Unexpected fact: we confessed that we love each other at the beginning of the conversation but it was just emotional. Then we both faced some difficulties)
What do you know about cold people? Share in the comments below

She just doesn't care 6
I want to see the result 0
It's gonna take some time to get use to her, just wait for it 5
It's disrespectful, give up on her 4
Your answer 2
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Comments ( 16 )
  • litelander8

    I think you’re invested in something that isn’t real..

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  • LloydAsher

    Every womans different. Got to wait to figure out what runs through her head and how she thinks.

    Guys on the other hand are remarkably simple. All you got to notice is 3 intrests and who they work for and you can make a reasonable assumption on what kind of person they are.

    My fiancee has rainbow unicorns flowing in her mind, yet won't hesitate to break your kneecaps if she perceives you as a threat. My kind of woman :D

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  • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore

    You need to put your emotional well-being first. Do you really *want* a relationship like this if she doesn't change? She has to want it to.

    Don't start a conversation with her and see if she starts one herself.

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    • Nick_23

      I agree with you

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  • anaesthetize

    Never Chase anyone. Short and simple advice....

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  • RoseIsabella

    This situation sounds very one-sided.

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  • Tommythecaty

    Cold heartedness and arrogance always coexist.

    You’ll just see one trait more pronounced than the other.

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  • kikilizzo

    Lol man you talked online, stop taking it so seriously... Online relationships aren't real. She likely talks to you when she's bored, the rest of the time she has better things to do (in the actual real world). I've told online contacts I love them before. It doesn't mean shit. Only online contact i'd say I at least care about is a friend i've had on the internet for many years now and even that contact, to me, started out as me texting him ironically when I was bored.

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  • Tinybird

    Maybe she's just going through a difficult time. I become like this when I am depressed, I withdraw socially (online obviously cause I don't have any friends irl) and I ignore messages, I don't bother talking, because it will just be the same old thing that I don't wish to discuss with another person, because they will NEVER understand, so there's no point trying to bother explaining.

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    • Nick_23

      She says that she always hyper distant with people and it's not even about daily problems in life. Thank you for your reply!

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  • dominick86

    Stop wasting your time with her if you dont have the strength or patience to deal with such a person.

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  • normal-rebellious

    What you need to do is talk to her longer and see what she likes and dislikes, and what she hates. You're doing fine, you've done nothing wrong, so keep it up.

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    • Nick_23

      Thanks a lot! Actually since I've written this post her attitude have changed already. We had a warm conversation few days ago

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  • 555

    I think she wants to be left alone, maybe you're bothering her

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  • Nick_23

    Guys, thanks a lot for your replies! Very interesting point of views!

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  • Gravybubble

    Give up

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