Compliment a woman on her ass

Recently I told a woman in my social circle that she has a fine ass. She became an acquaintance about one and a half months ago. We've been having lively chats since day one everytime she drops by my workplace to make fresh fruit deliveries. But ever since I made the comment about her butt, her behavior around me has changed. She's no longer invested in our conversations, for example, she gives excuses she has to be somewhere so we can't chat a bit at the office balcony like we used to. By the way, I should mention that I never made the comment where my workmates are within earshot, it was just the two of us at the balcony.

So, could it be that my compliment was inappropriate and the reason her behavior has changed? Generally, do women consider compliments on their backsides rude?

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  • MonteMetcalfe

    She doesn't want to fuck you.

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    • RoseIsabella

      She is wise!

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      • nopurpose

        But good old Rosa likes this type of compliments very much, you can try with her and see yourself.. 😛

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    • Somenormie

      Well said.

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  • SwickDinging

    She thought you were getting along well, and then you ruined it by being creepy and weird.

    She won't want to hang out with you anymore so don't bother trying.

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    • Tommythecaty

      An accurate answer.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Yes.

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    • Somenormie

      Your comment earned a like from me.

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    • nopurpose

      Loser white-boy mentality

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      • SwickDinging

        I am female, so I would say female mentality. But whatever.

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        • nopurpose

          Western white feminist mentality.

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  • RoseIsabella

    That's what you get for not being respectful, good for her!

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    • But her butt is indeed amazing, madam. If a woman can compliment me on my beards, why can't I do the same on her butt. I think being disrespectful would be me calling her a bitch, or a ho.

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      • mouldiwarp

        A beard isn’t sexual. You’re pretty much a stranger to that woman. Saying she has a nice butt is on the same level as someone you hardly know publicly telling you that you have a nice scrotum. And you chose to tell her when no one else is around, that comes off as suspicious and rapey.

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        • Please make me understand how anyone i hardly know would notice the morphology of my scrotum and publicly tell me I have a nice scrotum when I'm not walking around nude. Telling her when people are around would have made her certainly uncomfortable, drawing everyone present in the office room to her said body part. Besides, I wasn't sure how she would react to such mass scrutiny of her physical beauty. And how is being on an office balcony situationally rapey, if you're insinuating I'm a rapist? I mean, you have people inside the office work area looking at you through the glass windows. Conclusively, I'm failing to see the point you're trying to make.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Telling someone you hardly know that she has a nice ass can be creepy. What's wrong with saying something like, "you have nice eyes", instead?

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          • mouldiwarp

            Nobody called you a rapist, I meant, as a woman myself, that your ‘compliment’ might have made her feel like she could be in potential danger. I don’t know the layout of your building and you didn’t specify where you told her about her butt, you made it sound like you were alone. My point is don’t be creep, it’s not a comment you should be making to a stranger no matter where you are at. How can you not see how your comment would make a woman uneasy? You’re either incredibly ignorant and nitpicky or purposefully misunderstanding and trying to start a fight. If the latter, why do bother even asking the initial question if you aren’t going to listen to people and try to spin things so you are the one in the right?

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      • RoseIsabella

        It's objectifying, and sexualizing.

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    • nopurpose

      It's a truth already universally acknowledged that women don't like respectful nice guys.

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      • candylady

        It’s also a truth already universally acknowledged that not a single supposedly respectful nice guy who is unliked by women is actually respectful or nice.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Spoken like an incel.

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        • nopurpose

          Ok, you must be expert on that thing to judge

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  • COVID-19

    Um yeah... If I randomly told a female acquaintance that she had a nice ass, or tits, they would rightly be offended.

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  • Inkmaster

    If a female acquaintance randomly told you that you had a nice crotch bulge while the two of you were alone on a balcony, how would you feel about it? It's incredibly inappropriate to comment on the breasts, butt, or genitals of a woman you're not in a romantic relationship with. If I were you, I'd apologize.

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  • ellnell

    Well it can come off as pretty pervy to comment on someones ass. You said you've known her a month and a half, that's nothing and you're not even dating so why wouldn't she think that's creepy unless you guys tend to flirt with each other a lot. I would be weirded out if one of my guy friends would suddenly start commenting on my ass (unless a comment like that would be on topic of what we're talking about somehow and said in a joking manner). She might also take that as you being attracted to her since it's a pretty sexual comment to make compared to if you gave a more neutral compliment, and she's trying to show you that she doesn't feel the same in return.

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  • GaelicPotato

    That's hella inappropriate dude. You're at work. Keep that shit for when you go out for drinks or something.

    Not smoothe. Hella creepy.

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    • nopurpose

      How does it matters where it happens? The same persons, without anyone else present. That's just some social hypocricy

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      • candylady

        You should create your own IIN and ask if people think it’s illogical/contradictory to enjoy being complimented on a body part if you don’t every possible sexual act involving that body part, or if people think it’s hypocrisy to believe settings and context matter when something is said.

        Somebody was asking about posts that get 0% normal recently, that one might do it.

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        • nopurpose

          Sure, you are the one to speak on behalf of everyone. And why shall I fuckin care about your little opinion? I give no shit how anyone would vote or thinksbut if that's so important for you, you can do that experiment yourself. Or go fuck yourself as well

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          • candylady

            Weird, I thought you were all about everybody having the freedom to say whatever they want and being honest always being a good thing. I guess that doesn’t apply to people who disagree with you.

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            • GaelicPotato

              Typical.

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          • GaelicPotato

            You care. Otherwise this post wouldn't exist.

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      • GaelicPotato

        Because work is a place of professionalism. That's why.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    'my stars you appear to be sporting some highly pulchritudinous buttocks madame'

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    • charli.m

      Pulchritudinous should be used more in every day speech.

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    • litelander8

      When you put it like that..

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  • Mini69

    Women are not sexual objects put on this planet for your pleasure. We are human beings with thoughts and feelings. Why do you think you have the right to comment on this lady’s arse?

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    • nopurpose

      Bca there was supppsed to be free speech?

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      • Mini69

        Free speech does not permit you to be offensive.

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        • nopurpose

          Doesn't it anymore?

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          • Mini69

            It never did. Free speech is about having the right to express your opinion in a way that is not offensive. As opposed to oppression where you do not have a right to your own opinion and therefore do not have the right to express your opinion.

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            • nopurpose

              Then it's not really free by definition. What if an opinion is offensive to someone. Like that president X is a dictator? They will be definitely offended. Shall such opinions be silenced? Who defines what 'offensive' shall mean?

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  • a-curious-bunny

    By saying that you told her you arnt interested in her as a person you just see her as someone you want to fuck.

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    • nopurpose

      He was honest, that was supposed to be a good thing?

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      • a-curious-bunny

        Honesty is good but so is keeping infor.ation to yourself. Especually on sexual attraction. Girls don't want to know guys are sexuslly interested especially if its just friends

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        • nopurpose

          Well, that's exactly what he wanted to do, moron, break out of the friendzone

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          • a-curious-bunny

            Yea and he fucked up. Doesnt take an intellectual to tell you thats not how you do it.

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  • Tommythecaty

    You an anus pervert!

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  • Somenormie

    It could be that your compliment had put her off or she is making an excuse to never ever see you again, you're better off with another one.

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    • So much for that 'She gets such compliments from men all the time' bullshit, huh?

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  • Bazinga

    You must be very careful when complimenting women. There was a woman where I once worked who had a very pert ass. She loved the attention when guys would tell other guys how they loved her attractive ass while she was across the room. Once a daring guy complimented her to her face. She thought it was too confrontational, and felt threatened.

    The female psyche is confusing. Only the most perceptive of all males can play with a woman's mind.

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  • my_life_my_way

    I’d just take it as a compliment but maybe she was offended

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    • nopurpose

      You must be really confused, all the time contradicting oneself. One time you say you didn't like it in the ass, next time you'd be flattered by attention from the rear. Last time?

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      • my_life_my_way

        You seem to be the confused one here, there’s a big difference between a guy saying “you have a nice ass” and getting/giving a rimjob

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        • nopurpose

          The logic is as following:
          If you don't like anal, you don't see your butt as a pleasure point and are presumed to not pay much attention to that body part. Just like let's say someone compliments your arms and feet - you're gonna find it creepy, aren't you (unless you are into foot fetish which is highly unlikely). So if you are butt-stuff negative, why would you take a creepy comment about your backside as a compliment?

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    • I see you cleverly had to include the word 'maybe' in your comment to make the "...she was offended" bit less critical. Thanks for your contribution here anyways.

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  • DADNSCAL

    It depends on the context. If you used t as a pickup line, you blew it. If you said while making out, it would’ve turned her on more.

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  • nopurpose

    You are probably very inexperienced in this game mate, so let me tell what you're in the wrong about. Women like to tease. Why - to keep control and add value. If she squats in front even of the hottest guy just at the sound of a catcall (or a butt-compliment) she will be the slut, she will be the easy one who's been gotten advantage of. Women like men to be assertive and pursue them. Chances are she is testing you - are you really into her, how far are you gonna go to have her, are you gonna fight for her.
    Now, this doesn't mean you shall bite the bait since women don't like needy guys either. If you act needy this will reduce your own value.
    So what shall you do about it? Pursue her, but not openly. How do you do that? Look for ways to keep the contact, without looking desperate. The best and most easy way to achieve that is by negging and teasing her back.
    Example: next time you get her alone, yoi can try this: 'Hey, Jane, sorry about that booty-compliment the other day. It was really dumb of me. I only later realized - that this ass is not really worthy of compliments, so I take it back.'
    And this done with a casual smirk and a condident deep voice, with the proper tempo and pauses so it's not artificial and forced (you can practice these at home to be prepared - don't think Silvester Stallone or anyone successful just shows up on set and starts improvising). You can make use of some cool new jeans or jacket or some accessory or perfume as confidence and attractiveness booster.
    Then watch what happens. If you perform each as prescribed, there are very high chances of a positive reaction. Most likely she'll laugh it off and you go back to normal, but a step closer now that you've already brought her ass to the table. đŸ€«

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  • darefu

    Agree with my life, I would have replied, thanks I got it at El Corte Inglés or Macy's. If I thought you were pervy about it then that might explain relationship change. Sometimes I think we are all too sensitive or quick to judge. Blame the system or media idk, but I don't have a problem with someone saying I have nice legs, butt, eyes, hair, I don't get much on the chest. Two things, 1. if I'm putting them on display like shorts, tight clothing, short skirt, make up, you get the point then I'll take the compliment however if I'm in my grungies and look like I just woke up, then I'd think you have alternative motives. 2. Terminology, cute butt vs nice ass, nice figure vs f..ing hot, nice eyes vs f.. me eyes. There is always a polite and tactful way. When in doubt you can always say you're very attractive, opens the door, if she responds with what about me do you find so attractive or something in kind, then the door is open, if she just responds with thanks, then leave it there.

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    • nopurpose

      Ah, another brainwashed western feminist.

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  • Meowypowers

    She is dissapointed, and rightfully so, you weren't somewhat subtle and punny in telling her the has the best peaches or apples.

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    • nopurpose

      Peaches and apples?! Weren't these supposed to mean boobs? Or in your case, they can describe you glutes as well? đŸ€š

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