Confronting ex best friend and coronavirus

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I have been planning on confronting my ex best friend at a Catholic youth festival because he ghosted me. These plans have been in place since his mother unexpectedly blocked me on Facebook back in August. I want to express to him that I do care about him and I want to know what i did wrong that caused him to ghost me. Because of this damn virus, the festival could be cancelled. It's scheduled for March 21, 9 days from today. I don't know how society as a whole will hold on for 9 more days, but I need them to!!! This loss of friendship has at least partially ruined my life since I was ghosted, over a year ago. I think about it every day and even dream about it. My therapist has been preparing me for this event, since there is a good chance he'll be there. The festival organizers said that they will have a final decision today. My plan B for confronting him would be to start attending mass at his church, until I find him there. I might run into his mother, and I also to know what problem she has with me. Neither of them have ever said a damn thing to me verbally or to my face, which is the only way I communicate. If church is suspended because of this damn virus, the I'm definitely out of luck. The only reason I'm worried about this virus is because it could majorly delay or prevent me finally seeing him again. All the cancellations of major events are a cause for concern. I would rather get the virus myself than not confront my ex best friend about what happened. I just don't see how I can live a normal life if I don't talk to him about this. My life has not been anywhere near normal since he left me, quit college, and started dating a girl. This has been the focus of every therapy session and even caused me to change therapists. I'd rather have him explain this to my face than leave me in the dark. I loved being with him and I really miss him. The coronavirus could ruin my life without even getting me physically sick. Please give me your thoughts on this because I am freaking out. I will let you know what ends up happening with the festival.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    Maybe bc you seem obsessed with him. I avoid people who like me too much.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    This youth event will probably just get canceled in order to prevent the spread of Corona virus. What you need to do is to grieve the loss of this friendship, and move on with your life!

    If you actually get to attend this event, and confront this guy don't cause a scene, because if you cause a scene it's really gonna freak this dude out hella bad. Also if you confront this guy at this event in public there's also a possibility that the church might not want you to come back.

    I know you want answers as to why this person stopped being your friend, but there's a good chance that he, and his family will probably just think that you are stalking, and harassing him. I think more than anything you need in learn to let go.

    What's the deal anyway, are you in love with him, or something?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      It is cancelled until next year and now I am screwed unless I hang around the church his family goes to until I find him. the obligation to go to mass where I live is suspended for at least 30 days, so I will wait that long until I do this. I need to hear from him in order for the dreams and thoughts to get better. He will not get away with ghosting me. This cruelty will not succeed!!!

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        You sound like a crazy person. Were you in love with this dude, or something along those lines? For the sake of your own sanity you need to let this go is what you need to do.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          3 years ago

          I have nonverbal learning disorder and OCD. I do admit that I have gay tendencies, but I would never act on them because I fear God. I just want someone to share my life with. I want to know exactly why he ghosted me so I can never do that again.

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            I dunno why he ghosted you. Maybe you freaked him out? If my memory serves me well you were really jealous when he got a girlfriend, right?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              3 years ago

              Yes I am but I never told him that. I have only seen him once since i found that out. The ghosting started before I found out. I did introduce myself to his girlfriend at last year's festival by saying that he is my best friend. When we were in college together i needed to see him every day. I waited by his classes to see hin but i never said anything crazy to him. I think he if he is a good person he owes me an explination.

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  • Fugazi,again
    3 years ago

    A catholic youth festival? Sounds like a trap

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  • --
    3 years ago

    You just have to accept that you are going to get coronavirus. As of yesterday it has a 3 to 4 percent mortality rate.

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    • Mammal-lover
      3 years ago

      It's been spotted in my state as well. At least I dont go out much. Itll be my damn coworkers who give it to me just watch.

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      • raisinbran
        3 years ago

        One of my co-workers was coughing all of last week... wanted to punch her in the face for not staying home

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        • Mammal-lover
          3 years ago

          Dont be an idiot. By the time symptoms are showing its already to late

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          • sissycakes
            3 years ago

            I love your tag name- mammal-lover.

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            • Mammal-lover
              3 years ago

              Oh why thank you!

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