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why are men developed so different than women. for example usually if a man gets hurt once he turns into a player (not all men) . I also wonder if ur not like this, how were u raised?? I know many men are taught to not show emotions so that could be why. do u think the way we raise men in this stereotype to be strong and emotionless is a harm in society
Women are just built emotionally stronger. We put up with more shit than a man can.
Have y’all seen the videos of men using a “menstrual cramp simulator”? Chicks can go through all the settings without flinching. Dudes crumble. Bc women carry men. 🤷🏾♀️
I call absolute bullshit on that one. Society caters to women socially where we rely on emotions to navigate through the world. This idea that women are just "emotionally stronger" might be true but there is no justified reason to assert it yet because they exist in a social environment that expects little of them while giving more to them that would suggest the complete opposite.
When women claim they put up with more shit than men it just gives me the vibes of some rich kid living off the teat of their rich parents complaining to some kid growing up in poverty that their life is soooooooo hard.
You guys, I can hardly believe I'm hearing this shit. Do you have a 2 year old girl or boy? Just put old clothes on the kid and tell her/him to go play, go fall down, go catch frogs. Their personality is theirs to discover. Kids that young are incredibly resilient and adapt to everything. More importantly, they adapt in the way that's best for them.
This cultural intervention is way over done. Teach your toddler to count, and say the sounds of letters. Everybody's got to be literate. Encourage fairness and let them discover you - quit force feeding their brain. I mean, what the fuck. They want to be appreciated for being a kid just like you want to be appreciated for being their caregiver.
Here's a song. It's called, "In My Daughter's Eyes." Listen to it. This is how it's done for both boys and girls.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1pzuWP0xHMc
I have a fresh coffee so I'mm'a just word vomit my thoughts on this type of general topic of how boys should be raised. I'm tired so this may come across as preachy but I find it relaxing.
I'll tell you how I feel about how boys should be raised and how I believe I will raise mine. I fell into the trap of thinking boys just need to "open up!" and show their emotions but the reality is that such an upbringing only works if you are certain what/who he will be opening up to will react positively to his open emotions. We know that isn't the case for men and it's a woman's perspective to assume it is.
I grew up thinking men needed to be allowed to be vulnerable and finding it abhorrent that our culture just doesn't care about men but now I know that our culture will never care about that subject and if I was to have a boy it is my job as a man to prepare him for that.
I've thought a bit about what I would teach my son if I had one and some can loosely be relayed as such:
- No, don't be open with your emotions. Be strong, they will give you nothing, they won't protect you.
- If you're in a vulnerable state then only fall back on family if necessary.
- Have pride. You're building YOUR life, not theirs.
- They won't want you until many want you (Remember this point).
- Respect your body, a strong man is a necessary man.
- Protect your own and nobody elses. You're not a hero, you're a man.
- Competition will define you, so compete.
- Women must prove themselves to you just as much as you do them.
- A malicious man is no longer a man.
- An eye for an eye doesn't leave the world blind, it deters people from taking your last eye.
- Sex is fun but don't let it rule you, don't let it motivate you.
As a woman growing up you've had time to adjust to the fact that you can get something for nothing from a large pool of people (the opposite sex) but men have to put in so much more work before they get to that point and even when they do they're still the ones giving. Sadly a lot of men that reach the point of worth fall to the cliche hedonistic lifestyle of being a whore once the opportunity is open to them because all of a sudden all of those women that would never fuck him? Well now they're all fighting to do so (The point from earlier), and instead of respecting himself and building any meaningful relationship with a worthwhile woman for HIS future he fools himself into thinking "fuckin' bitches 24/7 broooo!" is worth anything when it only hinders the time and resources he has to finding a woman that would be worth the things he's worked so hard for.
Honestly I dont think it's a contest. We all come from different places.
Your pointers for your future son are good ones, follow those and you will definitely not be a soy boy or a fuck boi. I perfer the Ron Swanson's pyramid of greatness.
I like my girlfriend as a partner because we both know our roles when it comes to raising a child. I love being the strong man protecting my woman. She loves it too. So it works out all the better. Fighting tooth and nail for our future.
I don't know a single man who was told to ignore/not show his emotions/feeling by his parents. Most that I know don't do it because it comes back to bite them in the ass & from what i've seen, mostly from women they opened up to then a few months later when they get in an argument they throw it in their face & make fun of them for it to make them mad.
I don't hide mine because I can just turn mine off like a switch If someone was to use them against me, though whether that's because I'm a Man, Autistic, a Sociopathy or a combination of the 3 I don't know.
It annoys the shit out of me that there are women out there that will tell men to be open about their emotions, and by emotions they mean cry, but then clearly find the men that are less likely to emotionally fold in the way they suggested far more attractive compared to the men they try to create. Some men who don't know any better do it too to other men or boys growing up and I'm sure those men were the few that actually had that constant emotional validation growing up similar to women that most men do not experience.
It's a pet peeve of mine. Imagine trying to train boys/men to be something you aren't attracted to only to then prefer the men that didn't listen to your training and then leaving those boys that did listen to you to grow up without a backbone necessary to have a good life as a man and to win the fancy of the very type of woman telling you to be that way. It's pretty gross when you think about it.