Did i brainwash him into liking me?

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He was only 23 when we met, I was 30. He's 26 now, I'm 33. He had no friends, he was shy, reserved and barely went outside his home.

When we met he didn't want a relationship, he didn't want to date, I liked him so I was a little forward with trying to get him to try to date because we were already friends for several months by then and I was being stupidly pushy. He changed his mind went from not wanting to date to saying let's try this. We did it only lasted a few months then we went back to being friends but he had no friends and I care about him and love him so I always wanted to make sure he felt cared for and he started growing really attached to me to the point he now wants to hang out every day. I'm okay with that but I feel like it's my fault? Did I brainwash this vulnerable guy?

He also now went from staying inside most of the time and being shy to becoming more outgoing and going out almost every day and now he's telling me he can't imagine dating anyone because I'm so special and how we're inseparable. So I feel like I manipulated him into being someone else. Did I? I'm worrying.

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  • kikilizzo
    1 year ago

    Sounds like me and my ex. I dont think I brainwashed him just like you didnt brainwash your guy. People have free will and unless you were the only one taking any intiatives and staying in touch, he genuienly liked you. Doesn't matter if it didn't work out, some people you're just better off friends with and it's great if you can go back to being friends afterwards. That means it was a good relationship.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    Isnt that kind of what everyone does to get a boyfriend/girlfriend? You try to get them to like you. I dont see how showing a person you care and making them like you is negative

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  • chiisana_izumi
    1 year ago

    dude, i'm like the female version of your guy, and if this is brainwashing then i'd love it if someone "brainwashed" me XD

    but seriously, you obviously care about him enough to be making this post so i don't think there's a problem. he's an adult capable of making his own choices, one of those choices is being with you

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  • Tinybird
    1 year ago

    Just because someone is older doesn't always mean they are manipulative or pushy either.

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  • bigbudchonger
    1 year ago

    You seem like a lovely person. If you "brainwashed" him then that seems like nothing more than being kind to him and gettong him like you from sich noble tactics.

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