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I'm under then impression that women don't even like to have sex and that they only do because men break them down.
Is that true?
Would you really *want* to have sex with a woman who you had to "break down"? Having sex with a woman who'd rather not be there sounds extremely unappealing to me.
Of course there are some asexual women, but the proportion of them doesn't seem to me to be significantly different to the proportion of asexual men.
What might be true is that the way you enjoy sex is different from the way most women appear to sex enjoy, which could be the root of your confusion.
Hi Dom180
I've never had sex. Had a few chances to but was too shy and nervous.
Plus I felt like I would be humiliated.
I'm pretty messed up in the head.
What is the difference between men and women enjoy sex. Honestly I'm amazed women even have sex.
I grew up very obese, not anymore, and so was ridiculed by most people.
Men and women enjoy sex in a whole lot of ways. I wasn't implying men are different from women, I was saying *you* *might* be different from *most* women :P
Women have body parts that feel pleasure. They have body parts entirely dedicated to sexual pleasure. So yeah: most women like sex :P
Do you see a therapist? I don't know you, but I think you would benefit a lot from therapy.
You're incredibly misguided. You have the mindset of someone scorned, or neglected, attention wise, regarding women.
It is not that they do not enjoy sex, or are coerced into doing it, it is that the female body is much different, women think with their mind and body, regarding sex. So if a guy (and we know a lot do) just get overly excited and pump, or try to unleash TOO much pent up excitement and sexually charged thrusting, how is that enjoyable, when they take a lot more to warm up, to fulfill their own desire and reach climax? Imagine being a male, who receives only penetration, and a girl (had she had a penis) just gets in there, to cum -- you're probably not going to be incredibly aroused, if it's over before you begin, just the giver being satisfied quicker.
I know plenty of women who enjoy masturbation, yet can't get off with their husband or boyfriend, because their partners use sex, to satisfy themselves and genuinely believe the girl came, in their 2-10min session.
As far as your misconceptions about women, it doesn't sound like you know what you are doing, either. You already have bitter responses to "how women are", for guys who have dated genuinely amazing girls, I can't say I would ever claim what you have. Beautiful women are amazing to please, especially when you know what you are doing and take all the time THEY need.
It's nice to hear all of your comments. I don't really have anyone else to talk to.
yeah women also hate chocolate, flowers, back massages, and really anything that gives people pleasure
Damn that chocolate! Ew! And those flowers, burn em'! And don't even mention those god awful back massages! And pleasure...PLEASURE... *camera zooms and fiery background appears* ...I despise pleasure.
Thanks for replying. But are you being sarcastic?
See I was raised by some very dysfunctional and destructive patents. Made me think that even talking to women was shameful. And that women hate men.
Some men/women do not like sex and its for a number of reasons. Some people wait to have sex for a number of reasons top one I could think of "Religion". Some people are incapable of having sex because of medical problems(probably more rare). However if someone is not having sex with you its probably they do not find you attractive and I would bet money its something you are doing not them. Women also do not always think like men sometimes you have to win them physiologically and arouse them psychologically, not just physically. Women also have a lot more pressure placed on them to NOT have sex less they be a whore. This is not the case with men that society often encourages to bone everything with two legs.
Yes. Oh holy fuck yes. And we enjoy it more than men too. At least some of us do. We have the pleasure of multiple orgasms while men cant do that. We can go and go and go while men poop out and have to reload. Nature designed us that way. If we didnt enjoy sex, we would never ever go through childbirth and that wouldn't be good for the species so yes, women want and enjoy a good fuck just as much as men and in my opinion, we want it more.
You are asking if women like to have sex, and the answer is YES. But this has turned into something else...
Don't play the gender card. That's worse than playing the race card.
Why don't you take charge of your life?
As a man, you can argue that it is more difficult to be a man than a woman. As a woman, I can argue that this is still a man's world and that we haven't come far enough. But is that going to get us anywhere? No.
Well, well, well, where to start...when I began reading this post, I was prepared to get my fingers moving on a nice, motivational comment, a little reassurance that most women do indeed enjoy sex, perhaps some helpful suggestions, but I see now that this conversation has quickly devolved into slinging based on what seems to be quite a bit of pent up aggression.
I suppose it is true that there are SOME women out there who connive to use men. To be fair, the same can be said of SOME men. There are some men that emotionally manipulate women in the interest of finding a cock socket/cum dumpstress (pulling out the classy words for y'all). Truth is there are assholes on both sides, because the human race as a whole has it's fair share of assholes.
True partnership, fuck even good casual sex, is about both parties giving consideration to the other, whether we are talking sexual pleasure or something more.
So for starters, ALL women are not fucking vampires. And as a woman who does enjoy sex, I can assure you that judgmental, angry, bitter people who play the victim...dry up my vagina!!!
Well I do thank you for writing that.
You're right not everyone is an asshole. Maybe I am playing the victum. If you walked in my shoes you'd understand better where I'm coming from. I am angry, not aggressive. Having been crapped on most of my life I can see that now. It's hard not to be angry when most of everything that counts in life has been taken from you. You're lucky to have a choice and have had people who care about you. You've probably very nice looking too. Anyways thanks for taking the time to reply.
CountessDouche, would you please, please, pretty please be my Cock Socket?
As a woman that doesn't "want" sex.. 2 things- I am apparently a minority in that, and secondly it's not necessarily that men "break them down"- maybe they just want to please him even if they aren't all that interested in it- if they love the man they would want to make him happy.. Just like doing housework.. You don't "want" to do it, it's just part of life.. As sex is part of a relationship.. Least that's how I feel about it, not sure if its normal or not..
Thanks for replying.
I grew up hating myself and still do so that someone would actually like me is pretty scary.
Why did you hate yourself? If you don't mind me asking.
and I guess I have kind of an inferiority complex myself so it makes sense- I can kind of get what you mean about it being scary- I can't believe someone would actually like me... it just feels like they are either patronizing (for women) or desperate (for men)..
Money and status are the 2 main reasons, then alcohol, then the desire to reproduce and coming in last place pleasure.
Sorry ladies, some times the truth hurts.
I don't even care anymore.
For me it's too late. I don't have enough energy to convince a woman to like me and there's way better men than me. Survival of the fittest. When your an ugly loser you get dumped on by life. You get to be alone.
You don't convince people to like you. You are yourself and do your best at being a good person. If that is not enough for someone, then they are not worthy of your time anyway.
To be honest I am an ugly loser but I have never had trouble in romance when I dated women. Guys are very lucky in this sense as personality can mean a lot more than the other way round.
My recommendations is to get out there and take the journey of being more social and making some friends of both genders. You will be alright if you get out there. Being social is a skill like any other, do it enough and you will get good at it then finding a partner is generally pretty easy.
I used to get annoyed when my ex wanted sex. He was incredibly selfish and too rough in bed. With my current boyfriend I'd bang him anytime anywhere. He makes sure I'm satisfied ;)
Sex is a bit of a conundrum! You also have to find someone with a mutual vibe, Don't forget YOU have to want Her too! Not all guys want to get with women, it doesn't mean they're Gay though! Women look great but When You've "won" them as Your trophy they morph into Your BOSS! So that's why some Men say "Goodbye to Romance".
Women enjoy masturbating and the associated physical and psychological feelings. Most women want to be pleasured and want to find a man who will love and respect them and have sex with them. However, it's true that plenty of greedy, selfish, and manipulative women do exist.
Whether or not a woman wants sex depends on whose asking her for it.
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Exactly. Let me demonstrate...
"Oh, RoseIsabella. My rash has cleared up and the doctor says that strange outbreak on my testicles is probably not contagious. The orange color all over my penis is completely harmless, too. That is just because I eat a lot of Cheetos while I watch porn. By the way, want to have sex?"
They want it when they are both horny and it is convenient for them. How often both of those stars align varies from woman to woman.
No. All women hate to have sex and only do so because men want to have sex......................................
Oh they want it, it's just everything else that comes with it that's the problem
Is asking a woman if she wants sex bad?
Isn't that a disgusting thing?
women like getting fucked, that is why they masturbate, or put something up their V-hole the like it 8==>X they love it
oh and not trying to make women an object that you fuck, some girls don like it, but to be honest they all like it
Well they seem like they don't.
Do any of you agree with what ^ he said?
Well thanks for the reply but I'm not gay.
I'm just someone who has been screwed over by life and passed up by women and life in general and I'm very angry about it.
Pretty much everything in life has been taken from me.
i don't get it are you asking this question because you want to hurt women or something else, if you want to pleasure one to slow and steady but if the opposite to as hard and fast as you can so like that if you want to pleasure your self then slow and steady then fast is a good option
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But you are incredibly incorrect and it is your personality that is the biggest problem, here. If you blame your parents and your weight, so incessantly, it will get you nowhere passed where you are. It is evident this is a matter of you being too self loathing and using excuses, like how you were raised, weight, stigma etc, as constant scapegoats.
You are an adult, correct? You can make changes in your life, you can think for yourself. I do understand that how a parent can instill beliefs in a child, can effect ones mindset, but after so long, it is mental laziness, you cannot use that excuse forever, how do you think the rest of the world lives?
Not has parents who choose to instill "perfect" or politically correct, views in a child, but that doesn't mean they cannot think for themselves and prosper in ANY aspect, they wish. I've seen some of my friends who were homeless/abused (which is far darker than imaginable, not just "sexually" misguided) to then overcome circumstance, to prosper and become incredibly well rounded and successful.
But no to keep steering from your sexual misfortune. You are the cause, not women.
You make such ridiculous conclusions, based on, "My parents told me women hate men". Even if they said this, you know it is not true, you can see the world through your own eyes and see or believe what you want. That's your misconceptions, for being ignorant, which sounds like you choose to be, as well as lazy regarding this and not try; just assume women need to sleep with you, "just because", while you put in no effort to be desirable (not physically) even though you claim your were overweight or obese, but personality wise. All of your lamenting is bitter and ignorant. What makes you appealing? Or enjoyable to be around? Not sarcasm.
I personally LOVE sex. I urge to have it all day, I can't help but think about it, just as much, if not more than the average guy. Who I would have it with is no longer based on "looks". After dating incredibly good looking men (as I modeled for awhile and met men during shoots) I got over strictly physical appearance. Most were dull, some controlling and mostly, just not my type. My longest relationship was with someone who was out of shape (he had undergone surgery, bypass) to lose weight and had a lot of excess skin. This did not bother me, in the slightest, regardless of my friends questioning, "Why are you with him, over Shane?" -- my ex from college, former athlete -- but those attitudes were irrelevant, as they were immature. Point being, the guy who did not think he was good enough, was beyond expectations and his personality was incredible; he was outgoing, intelligent, funny, he made me laugh all day, everyday. He didn't come from money, he actually lived in a smaller town, than I, and lived in a trailer, when we met. I didn't know that he was finishing his Masters in business, until much later. He was ashamed of where he lived, when I was with him, when he had "nothing", as he put it, ultimately he made a great life for himself. There's no appeal in money, to "all women", society has it's flaws in the pecking order, but it's not what you believe. The one thought the "model type" would never him, was evidently incorrect, that's nonsense. I loved him before he attained stability in his life.
If you believe your weight is an issue, or was (as you said you were) you can put your negative energy into getting your body healthier and your mind, because being attractive, is not just looks, it is so much more, especially to women who are well rounded. If you want judgmental or shallow women, you already assume that's unattainable, and why waste your time on someone like that? Let go of predispositions and work towards bettering yourself to attract someone who actually likes you and wants to be around you.
Yes, men and women can have different reactions to sex, but humans will always be innately sexual beings, we all need it. Who it is with, depends on who you are, not solely how you look. There's a right fit for us all, out there. You just need to be less pessimistic about this matter.