Do you think sex out of marriage is okay?

Sex is just another function of a human being. You get hungry, you eat, thirsty, you drink. Your body develops through time and brings different impulse for different things. We're not animals so we can reflect on these impulses, take a step back and consider the situation. I think it's wrong to discard sexuality all together before mariage. As you have to know yourself emotionally, psychologically, tec., you have to get to know yourself sexually. What if you were to postpone knowing yourself sexually until after mariage and find out afterwards that what you are sexually in not compatible with what your partner is. All this waiting and making plans for nothing? Or staying unhappy for the rest of your life? ('cause if you're one to wait until after mariage for sex, you might be one having trouble with divorce?) Personnaly, I think it would be unfair to you and your partner not to discover who and what you are sexually before making the bigger commitment. Enjoy the journey and respect yourself and others in your search.

i just have to say to all the "bible thumpers" out there i am a christian. i read the bible and you should to before just believeing that everyone says about the bible. the bible does not actually say pre-marital sex is a sin. it says to commit adultry is a sin. so as long as your not married but sleeping with someone else you are fine. also if that happens.. chirstians believe that our god is a forgiving god. and in fact the bible does say that all you have to do to get into heaven is believe in god and believe that his son jesus died for our sins. its like the people that say the bible says being gay is wrong. that is in the old testament, the rules that applied before jesus died for our sins. the old testament also says you cant eat pigs and that if u sin u have to make certain animal sacrifices to god depending on said sin. some even have to be burned all is to be done on the altar... i mean the list goes on and on. now i am not a bible thumper i just know what im talking about. i could count the times i've been to church on one hand and i am 21. going to church does not make you a christian anymore than standing in your garage makes you a car. so my answer in short is if you love someone and you feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with them it is prefectly fine. if you dont believe me get out your bible and read it tonight. just be safe. :)

Why get married if all you want to do is have sex with other people?

I think as long as you love the person you are having sex with then you do what your heart tells you. Have safe sex!

tO me is yess, but it really dOesnt matter its ur desicion if u feel riite still beiin a virgiin till u get married then go ahead do watever u want nobody is going to stop u unless u just cant wait till marrige and just have sex its my opinion

@dulce8
But they do NOT know everything, specially your mother since she only speak with experience and not exactly with knowledge.

And of course is fine, no one said anything about engage sex with other people (it could be with a bf-gf), just have sex outside of marriage.

Also sex is a lot of fun if doing it with the correct protection and common sense.

But oh well, who are we to judge?

I suggest to live what you have to live, don´t limit your self.

i think waiting is actually kind of dumb. i understand the save it until someone you love. but there was a couple who waited, got married, and it turned out the ladies husband was a woman.... yikes. plus its just sex... wait to have kids with someone you live. you cant waste the first half of your life having no fun... sex isnt bad its natural and with a bf or gf is amazinggg u dont havta be a slut. plus waht if the person you marry sucks at sex, not that thats what relationships should be based around.. but still lol :)

I'd say it very much depends on the circumstance. As long as no one gets hurt by it, then I'd say it is okay. But it is so easy to cross that line. Getting a girl pregnant out of wedlock or getting an STD is very much hurtful. So are emotional entanglements, where one partner has different expectations than the other. How often guys have lied to a girl, saying "I love you", just in order to get in her pants. Now that is not fair, and far too many young females are naive enough to believe these would-be Don Juans. And there, on the other hand, are girls who will sleep with a guy in order to get pregnant so he will have to marry her. These are just ways of playing games with sex, and everyone usually loses. Sex CAN be fun, but it can also become a nightmare. When all is said and done, perhaps the safest form of sex is..... masturbation.

To the people saying its wrong because of STDs- Me and my partner are both clean, We've both been tested. and We've both only ever been with each other
To the people who say God says no to premarital sex- I lost my virginity to my Fiance after he proposed. We are getting married, Is that so wrong?
And you know, not everyone in the world is a christian. Not everyone believes in your god or even a god at all.
Truth is. Premarital sex, whether to have it or not, is 100% up to the individual. Just be safe(: Dont sleep with sluts! :D

Sure, it's okay. I dare anyone to give me a single reason based on logic and science as to why it isn't (and no personal reasons either).

Because God says so

its just bad
the bible and my mother
say so and they know!!

nothing wrong with it.............

Sex out of marriage is fine under these conditions: 1.you want to have sex, 2.the other person you want to have sex with wants to also have sex with you, 3. you have safe sex-they're are STDs and pregnancy you probably want to avoid-use a condom! 4.you're both emotionally stable-sex is usually a very emotional thing for women. When I was younger, I waited to have sex bc of religious beliefs, but now I don't believe the same. I think sex is great if everyone enjoys!

Of course its ok! If your at a stage in your relationship where you can see a future with your partner, then marrage has nothing to do with it.

Get rid of all that rubbish about "God says No". If you love him/her, why the frick do you need to wait until your married? Its just a note on a piece of paper, after all.

Getting married to express your love is just like having sex to express your love... except with sex you do it again... and again... and its better :L

I think so I do it all the time!

God never said anything about marriage and sex. Religion did. God didn't write the bible. Man did. Man created religion to control other people. Religion suppreses mans reason and critical thought. Both of which are gifts. Marriage is a religious institution and has nothing to do with love. BTW christ never said "Get married and make babies and go to church or go to hell" He said be happy, share happiness and be good to each other. Decide for yourself. Make a mature informed decision. Don't put your decision in the hands of a deluded religious zealot by any means.

Hey this is year 2010 not the 1800's

Was 5 months pregnant when I got married

i have un married sex once a day :) proud of it

If you think about it, sex has existed from the beginning of life. People have always meant to have sex with one another, it's natural. I can't really see cavemen and women saving themselves for marriage or anything like that because marriage didnt even exist then. I respect people who've wanted to save sex for marriage decisions, but it all seems a bit silly saying that sex before marriage is wrong. I'm sure that people thousands of years ago would have had a quick bit of 'fun' without going through an entire ceremony.

Yes its fine, sex is awesome! I don't believe u have to be in love or married blah all that matters is that its two consenting adults. Birth control= no babies, condoms= no stds

enjoy ur STDS people

Sex makes life a lot more fun. Marriage doesn't factor into it even remotely.

Sex = ok, I disapprove of having children out of marriage. :P

I'm Christian, and I'm okay with sex out of marriage. As long as your safe, and your parents are okay with it it's fine.

no no no,,,,,,,

Well, God had sex outside of marriage and His partner later gave birth to the Messiah, so I think He must have decided sex outside of marriage is okay as long as you are responsible and/or have infinite power over all of the cosmos.

Is ok.if u ok about it

it sucks if you only get to have sex with one person your whole life, that's why i'm mormon

Sex out of marriage is ok but not with every one

Yes, I think you can have love outside of marriage too.

If you are mature for sex then doing it is 100% normal both out and in of marriage.

i don't. it's an issue of respect. of course, that's why i just jerk off most of the time.

Yes, but only in a long, monogamous relationship. You shouldn't risk your health with diseases for someone that doesn't matter.

Christian, Pagan, religion or no religion; it doesn't matter. I've never cheated in a relationship or in marriage. If my "Other" desires to continue shopping around, then we do not need to be together, period.

As it is till people get married, it is out of it either. It is just a decision that both parties must agree to it. If it works, good, if not same either.

I am NOT a christian, because I don't think religion is correct. it was invented by man to control others. and the bible is a bunch of shit, too. I have my own beliefs, and I do believe in God.. just not the same god that christians believe in.I say that since we all have the instincts and urges that make us want to reproduce, we should. nothing wrong with that. "no sex before marriage" is a dumb concept invented by dumb people who wanted to control dumb-er people.

In the words of the great Seth Rogen - "LET US FUCK."

I'm Christian buy I say its OK cause let's face it we all have needs and I hate those extreme Christians that hate on me for thinking its OK its MY choice

Have you heard of polyamoury? It's not the same as swinging but is about loving more than one person and maybe having sex too. But the cornerstone is not cheating,lying or deceiving. It is only acceptable if it is all done openly and with total mutual agreement. Read up about it and discuss with your partner. You both may benefit.

aint nothin wrong wit it, its jus sorta selfish towards the one you love cuz it aint special if you eva get married, its like if you wait its alot better, but you dont have to. btw christians are scatter brains and mostly dnt know wat to beleive, the bible is hard to understand, this is comming from a christian btw....

I think it's okay if you're in love and have been 2gether awhile. (:

Im a christian i go to mass every week and i think its ok to have sex outside of marriage with the person you love and see a future with. The bible says to respect yourself and others so i think it might be wrong to sleep around or have sex for unjust reasons. A person certainly isnt going to go to hell for it anyway. It isnt anyones place to condemn another person to hell thats betwenn them and God.