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I am female and am starting to feel like a lot more men want children than do women (although this might just be the people I associate with). I would like to know if this community shares my sentiments about not wanting children. I want people to include gender for obvious reasons. :P
| Yes. Female. | 66 | |
| No. Female. | 59 | |
| Yes. Male. | 73 | |
| No. Male | 47 |
Female and I don't want children. I'd rather live my own life than pay for someone else's.
Yes, but not on my own. I'd need one (or more) mother(s). I left the sign-up form out at work but nobody took it seriously. I'm going to have to start going door-to-door with this thing.
Aww, just think how good-looking they'd be. Not sure it'd survive in the mail, though. You might have to come here and get it. :P
Male, would like children.
They can go and pick pocket for me whilst I sit stroking my beard and whistling in our den.
Female. I want children, I love children and have a philosophical fascination with raising children. I worked with children, especially my siblings and they never cease to amaze me, enthrall me or make me feel younger and more appreciative of the world.
If I can't have my own, I'll adopt. Hell, I might do both.
In a previous post (on another topic) you said your 'husband' wants kids too.
So quite obviously you are both trying? Good luck with that. You DO come across as someone who is quite able and responsible enough to have some (at least just by seeing your posts)
Kids amaze me too, the joy they bring is well worth it.
I'd have more any time (if that possibility ever eventuated again with me. So far I can't see how though.
I'm currently not trying at the moment. Both my husband and I are still working on our degrees. We'd love to have kids once college is finished, it'd be rather irresponsible of me at the moment but I look forward to doing so sometime in the next few years.
My husband, however, does not give a rats ass about the timing =/
I don't know if you're serious, but I was. He grew up in a poor family of 4 kids and 2 parents and said his childhood was cool without much money and said that he doesn't like the yuppie mentality of waiting until you're in your thirties to have kids so you can also have a nice car.
He's fucking nuts.
LOL :D
The LIFE enjoyment of children far out ways anything in life, including money. ;)
I'd rather be with my kids in a 'dwelling' of not much value, than to live in 'high society' without seeing and being part of my children as often as I am now.
I have come from above average long term wage (generally 80K PA) to the last 10 years (only) on ~15K, due to circumstances of me looking after my kids. It has been the BEST time ever.
As lame as this may sound but I've always wanted kids by age 16 I was already obsessed with having one and now 4 years later I still want kids. You got to university or whatever get your education, work, live life as an independent person with or without a partner but after you've done all that having children is the next step. what's the point of life anyway without children, & fuck that notion that the world is over populated as it is. Have kids if you want to.
kids put such a financial and emotional strain on one's life. if you have kids, your potentially throwing away great opportunities. and it's overrated. people say it's better to be different, yet they have kids like everyone else.
i'm glad i got sterile. i figured that i'd rather deal with the $500 for that procedure, rather than deal with the $1,000,000 one would have to spend throughout their kid's life.
Female here, and the husband and I agree that we don't want children. We direct our energy into caring for each other and our relationship.
Female, I do want children. But I'd be fine with just one child. Although my husband and I have a tendency to take in strays. Once a child is present, the average age of strays will likely change.
I've thought about it, I don't think I'm in the financial situation for bringing any children into the world.
I would want my child to be born into a place where he/she never had to worry about living in poverty as I did when I was growing up.
Yes. I think of all children as beautiful and wonderful. I'd like to have a child of my own to hug and love.
I'm a female and I've never wanted kids. Sure it will change eventually, but...meh
I'm a female, I'm childfree and an "early articulator" I've never wanted kids. My fiancé is also childfree though he never had strong feelings either way before he met myself.
I can't wait to be a mother. A few years ago I would have said the opposite.
I'm a female and I don't want kids. I don't like them and even if I did I don't think I'd be able to care for them. Kids need time, money and patience. It would be too stressful for me and I don't think it would be very fair to my spouse to have to take up all the duties.
Its actually kind of a fear of mine that I'll go through my entire life without having at least just one. But yeah, totally. Sometime in my future I'd like to have kids. I need to get some of my life together first though.
I have three. Don't want any more. I didn't vote because I'm not sure I fit the demographic you're looking for...but I thought I'd drop a comment, hoping it won't get deleted this time because I really don't think it's offensive to say that.
I do, and I'm a female, and I want to adopt only. Hopefully I'll be a good parent when the time comes.
IIN is not the site to get answers to this question because as you've seen/will see, it attracts a lot of out of the ordinary people. So.. you'll see a lot of women who don't want to have children. Nothing wrong with that, it's just probably not the same answer you'd get if you asked a hundred young women on the street.
I'm aware that this is not the best place (although these trends do follow with my own experiences), but this seemed like the easiest place. Do you know of another convenient location to post a poll like this?
I'd probably get punched in the face for saying Y!A, but when I have a common, general poll, I post it there. Sodapop is another popular poll site... I probably shouldn't have said "isnt the best place". There's no one place that's best... haha. Don't worry about it.
I wasn't actually aware that Y!A did polls. I'll check out those places, though. Thanks! I'm not worried about posting this kind of thing in the wrong place because I really do know how these things work. I'm a psych student, so we have to take courses on sampling, and there really is no GOOD way to do a random sample. So in this case I took a convenience sample, which, again, isn't the best sample, but is better than no sample. (For example, if I were a prof doing research on this kind of thing my population would be mostly 18-22 year old psychology students.)
I'd love to have a kid (male).
The weird thing is... I'd like to be a single parent (no clue why). I'd love to dress my kid, teach them, show them how to play sports, etc.
Naming them would be one of my favorite parts.
I guess since I'd like to be the only parent I should probably adopt (in the future). Who knows, maybe I'll find the right girl?
I would love to have kids, but at my rate...I'm not entirely sure if it's going to happen. I'll have to wait and see. If I don't have my own, I'll happily become a foster parent.
I would like to have children but not until I'm in my 30s or later. Raising a child would requires dedication, responsibility, and all these other things that drain me of a life. Thus, I want to have some fun before I have a child. Also, I don't want to have a child until I have the financial resources. I think I'd make a great father but not now, when I'm older.
I don't want to give birth to a child & raise it all along, instead i am very interested in adopting kids as many as possible..
Female and no. I can tollerate older children (6+) in mine or my fiances families in short bursts, he's the same way. Growing up I've (unwillingly) babysat enough to know that if stuck with one 24/7, it would be dangling off the balcony by the ankles by the time it reaches three. The world is already full anyway.
Yes, but not for a long time. At least 10 years, maybe a bit longer. Someday I'd like to though :)
EDIT: Silly me. Male :P
Female and I don't know.
I kind of do... but I'm terrified of the entire thing. I have a lot of stomach problems already and I'm nervous that it would be a rough pregnancy, and the whole giving birth thing...
I'm a very self conscious person. I'm terrified of the idea of being spread eagle in a room full of people while they all think how disgusting I look. I'd be afraid my bf would never want to sleep with me again.
It makes sense.
I love kids, I really do, but I'm afraid of what it would do to my body, how slow my metabolism would get etc.
I'm also afraid to adopt because I have heard stories of people adopting kids and next thing ya know, Mom gets out of rehab and wants her baby back.
A lot of scary variables go into having kids =/
That actually happened to my parents, though I didn't think there was a really long window on parents taking kids back...
My parents first adoption, the mother decided to take him back the same day.
And yeah, I'm sure it's stuff I'll get over.. I'm just worried for my health and also extremely self conscious. XD
Yeah, that's exactly what I am afraid of with adoption. I would have to adopt abroad in order to secure my child as my child and I know people that have adopted from abroad and legalization is a very difficult process in and of itself.
I understand what you mean too. I am also very self conscious.
I'm just 18 but everytime I see a kid I think "aw i want a baby noooooow"