Do you want to marry? (for guys)

I should hope so! It's happening in a month. ^__^

I think the institution of marriage is pretty excellent. Aside from the fact that there is risk in anything you do (or don't do - like a live a life of loneliness) it is admittedly not for everyone, especially - sorry to say it - big losers. And for some of the few others, it is about personal values.

The typical concerns of those on IIN, most of whom have pubic hairs barely a decade old, are about supposed property rights, duties and obligations. What a huge laugh - immature, lame and not ready for prime time nonsense. Get real: no one wants you nor can imagine a lifetime with huge pains in the ass. Who cares what you have?

The fact is marriage has risks and huge benefits for the normal. But for the foolish, imprudent, and well ... generally stupid ... it is another story. You can't fault marriage itself for the shambles some people make of it because the witless make a mess of most things they do anyway.

I'll have to admit, if I were a man, I would DEFINITELY be more conscious AND cautious of who I marry.

In the real world (not on the internet, but the real world) men are generally expected to put up with more shit from women, and to say "She wasn't this big of a bitch/this adamant on having kids NOW as she was BEFORE we got married" will make you sound like the biggest dick-face on the planet.

Not to mention that men usually get the short end of the stick when it comes to divorce. Poor pitiful woman demands alimony, custody and child support AND makes you look like a douche. Not that there haven't been divorces where the guy probably deserved it for being a genuine douche, but there are divorces like that where the man isn't a douche and I wouldn't want to be known as a douche because some woman decided to cheat or because of a personal and irreconcilable conflict. And thanks to that, I lose my kids and half my paycheck because I have a penis. Awesome.

I am not saying that I wouldn't marry or that I would secure an air-tight pre-nup but I would definitely be a lot more considerate of who I choose as a mate if I were a guy, knowing what is at stake should the marriage fail. My husband has a lot more courage than I might. A woman with a history like mine would raise many red flags for me.

Don't worry, men, women have their fair share of shit to worry about when selecting a potential husband (i.e. will we commit to a life together and then once the baby comes along, he decides that I've become too much of a mess for him with all of the hormones and such and decides to find another young hot tottie, will he cheat, will he drag me through countless legal battles just to get my fair share of child support etc.), but I would say that it is safe to assume that the court is usually on the woman's side. As a man, the courts are against you. Choose wisely.

I came here with an open mind, but NeuroNeptunian scared me, so my answer is No.

No. Marriage is just a way for women to financially rape men.

No, but thanks for the proposal. Want to grab a bite to eat instead?

Someday I really hope I will. Not for many, many years though - probably not before I'm at least 30 - and hopefully by that time the law will have evened out so men and women are treated equally and I won't have to worry about being treated horrifically unfairly if we ever divorced.

I have a strong natural urge to have a fluffy, perfect, fairytale romance (as a guy, that takes some level of bravery to admit :P). Sadly the world doesn't work like that, so unless the laws have really changed I'd probably like to have some measure of pre-nup just to be safer.

Not if I don't have to.I have better things to do with my money.

Never going to marry. NeuroNeptunian pretty much said everything I had to say.
Far more risky for men to get married than for women.

I don't plan on putting myself in a position where a woman can take everything I worked hard for, while she done barely anything to get the things she is trying to take from me, then still be considered the asshole. I'm not going to let a woman do that to me by society allowing women to do such things to men.

Sorry to say, but I just don't trust women enough now.

Marriage is betting someone half your shit you'll love them forever.

It seems like a good idea at first, but in this day and age most of the couples have sex before marriage, women don't cook or clean like in the past, so basically all you're getting is a roommate and if this won't work out you lose your house, car and pay alimony every month, lets be honest, when it comes to divorce the man gets the shaft.

I really would still like to comment even though Neuro basically hit the nail directly on the head.

Being a man, and being a man with assets that probably wouldnt be protected entering into a marriage I am VERY reluctant to get married. Thats not to say I am totally against marriage, but I think for many people marriage today isnt what it was 40-50 yrs ago. There is no stigma on divorce, if you get upset with your spouse, just call a lawyer, there is probably one around the corner from you. And because of this there is no incentive to work through problems that arise in the relationship/marriage, the mentality today seems to be if it aint working then cut your losses and move on. Which isnt what marriage is supposed to be at all.

Its also difficult in being a man when "cutting losses" because on average the man makes out worse in a divorce ruling then a woman does. And that is always compounded more when children are involved.

At the very least men should be immensely cautious about who they marry, and if bringing any sort of assets into it should get some sort of pre-nup just for their own protection.

Yep. I think about this a lot recently. I want to get married and start having kids.

A red wedding dress on the bride is a bonus.

No.

hmm.... well i'd like to, but really i'd be more than satisfied with just a permanent relationship with somebody that I deeply care about. My priority is to find someone I love, and spend the rest of my life with them, not to sign a piece of paper that says I will.

I might fuck one of those girls in the halls tho omg a nacked girl fully naked

I don't think collage is the best place but that's more of a womens thing

Probably not.

I really don't think it's realistic to expect someone to love you their whole life and stay faithful.

Getting married would kind of ruin my all-male harem plan.

Dunno. Depends how much things have changed in the future.

If it happens it happens, if not then that is okay too. I am not going to marry just for the hell of it like some seem to do.

Only if she's 10 years younger than me.

No i want to kill, kill, kill!!!!!

Eventually (Not now, maybe later)

I WANTED too.

Yup. Guilt-free sex.

No.

Ain't gonna happen

Mutual cohabitation without marriage. "Do you love me, or are you just trying to get a free house?"

If I ever find a woman that I genuinely feel is worth committing to, sure. You really have to be certain though.

Not for a long time. Maybe never. If I do though, I definitely want an iron-clad pre-nup.

don't think i would like to say thnak

Thank you, my name is Hamid. When I come to usa I plan to purchace a many wifes for serve me.
hello,
Hamid

Being asexual, I can't picture it ever happening for me. But then again there's much that happened that I never foresaw.

Who can say what the future holds?