Does “nice guy syndrome” come from being physically ugly?
This does NOT refer to truly nice people who serve and do good because it’s in their character. It’s about the fake nice guys who always compromise and do what the woman wants at the drop of a hat just to have a chance at dating her.
It’s scummy period. But why do some men do that? They’re ugly, fat, dress poorly, etc. The issue is when they talk to a girl they like, it becomes clear that she isn’t showing interest in him back after the first talk or first week of meeting each other. She’s out of league and is probably skinny and good looking but he’s not.
The problem with “Nice Guys” is not just looks, but their bad character that makes them feel they have to manipulate someone. True nice guys would call it off and accept her as a friend.
But the fakes compensate by buying flowers and taking girls to nice dinners and even helping her move out of her old place because of their warped thinking that they can buy her affection through favors.
I had this problem myself a few times and it probably comes from Quasimodo fantasies of just treating her like a queen and yada yada: nonsense. When I started losing weight, things became more natural and I didn’t feel a lot of pressure to do things to get a girl to like me back. Just be polite and take interest into what she does. She’s just in to you or not. Simple