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Many people around me are starting to have sex or have been more experienced than me. It makes me really sad because I'm starting to think the reason why is because I am not pretty or sexy enough to be thought of in that way. Friends, family, and even strangers say I'm beautiful. But I think they're all lying because if I was really that attractive I'd lose by now.
I mean that makes sense. I am very introverted and don’t speak to anyone unless I’m spoken to. All those girls who be having sex are social butterflies. I just turned 19 recently so maybe I am still young and my sex drive is still low. I’m just concerned bc ppl my age are already experienced or already having sex.
I respect virgins. They have a willpower I lack. Then again if i could go back in time i would just tell my younger self that sex isn't "that" good.
No, not at all. It's just when someone has sex. Having sex doesn't always equal attraction, either. Some people only care about the sex and how readily available it is (in other words, will gladly settle for anyone willing to put out).
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age, and in my opinion, it's something that you should only lose when you personally feel ready, with someone you feel comfortable with. It's not a race or a competition, and everyone should do it at their own pace.
Having not had sex even if you feel ready doesn't mean you're not attractive, either. You could be less outgoing, have not met someone right for you yet, etc. Also, you could absolutely have someone interested in you for more than sex who is not making it obvious or is afraid to shoot their shot. I think we've all had people who've crushed on us that we never even knew about because they kept it to themselves, especially at young ages when it's more awkward.
Also, there are plenty of people who lose their virginity at later ages, they just aren't as vocal about it. There are also young people who might lie about it because some people heavily pressure others about it. Really, your virginity is no one's business besides your own, anyway.
I wouldn't worry about it though. Virginity doesn't define anyone's worth or beauty, and there's no rush to lose it. Do what feels right to you.
There is a lid for every pot if they don't immediately find you sexy they aren't worth your time. You are doubting yourself as humans tend to do. Our brains are not rational you should trust the majority and believe that you are beautiful. If the majority says you are attractive than they are right. Humans are very good at self doubt they are seeing you without that lens. Trust them.
People are required to find someone sexy? And what is this nonsense? "If the majority finds you attractive, then you are."
I never said anything like that. And yes if society calls you conventionally attractive then yes that makes you attractive.
Yeah, you did. Also, just because society calls you attractive does not make you attractive. What you just said is untrue.
No. I didn't. Sex is a large part of a relationship if someone does not find you attractive you are not compatible. And you wouldn't constantly get called attractive if you weren't attractive. I don't see how you are getting "you should be forced to find poeple attractive" out of "if they don't find you attractive move on they aren't for you".
Being sexually immature and underdeveloped as an adult should not be put forth as standards. It’s a harmful thing to propagate.
A person saying they can’t have sex with anyone at all due to standard implies they are better than everyone...which is completely delusional.
That's not what I'm saying. My standards are impossible to meet, because I am only attracted to the "unattainable." So that's why I'm a virgin. I don't think I'm better than anyone else - those people are just not meant for me. I guess NO ONE is meant for me, because they don't give me THE FEELING.
I lost mine later than all my friends and honestly the first is just awkward and can be painful because of a breaking hymen. It takes a lot of practice and communication to figure out what works for you and its not all cracked out as its been portrayed as. Everyone's experience is different so I don't think you should compare yourself to them. They might of just found partners they had for a long time or got along with well just the same and you shouldnt feel like throwing yourself into losing it until you're absolutely sure about that
Being young is weird. Don’t over think it. Plus the concept is really misunderstood. Like you think it’s gonna be wonderful but the reality is that young dudes don’t even know how to get a girl off properly. They’ll climb on top of you and only last 30 seconds and it’s really never worth it.
Ew really? HAHA!!! I must not be missing out on anything then, huh? Though, lots of girls said they had a good time. Must they be lying to me?
I have the other problem I cant cum. So Im fuckin for forever until the chic is like "hurry up and cum". I end up having to choke her or something just to finish.
No way. It just may mean you’re not ready or into casual sex. Stop being so hard on yourself.