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I have people that randomly show up but why it's always worst for me? I hate it. Other people meet great people for them out of no where. I meet complicated people that ruin the fun for me. I want a friend I can trust and share moments with. Maybe I'm not a perfect friend but I try.
A person filled with spite and bitterness will find enemies wherever they go. Become a friend to yourself and everyone else will follow.
The thing is, you are responsible for not just how you act but how you feel. A lot of people never realize this, but you aren't a slave to your feelings.
You have indirect control, and the best way to feel better about others is to practice self-compassion to yourself.
You can be in control of your feelings but too many negative people will still drain you after awhile. I know it's them and not me because they have the same problem with others.
Thats probably why I hate everyone. I'm tough on myself and I expect others will do the same. Of course they just bumble about through life never giving a moments thought to anyone or anything other than their base desires and the next shiny object.
Its also probably why people who where abused attract abusers. Because they are hard on themselves.
Of course, life could just be random fucking nonsense.
Everyone that enters your life, is either a blessing or a lesson. Most of them teaches you something too... be grateful
Maybe because you are just letting "random" people into your life. Set some standards for yourself and create boundaries. You'll then just either wind up alone or with good people who you enjoy. 1 or the other.
If you are surrounded by shitty people, chances are you are also a shitty person. Take this time to reevaluate your life decisions and see the good/bad in everyone you meet because everyone, even shitty people can provide a useful experience for your personal growth
Trust your instincts and intuition let those tools decipher people for you, It's all about how people make you feel if its bad move on.
I can relate to what you're saying there. I can only speak for myself in saying that I probably have to do a lot more work on myself. I think there are certain things about me that attract jerks, additionally and at the very least I probably am not adept enough at recognizing the red flags when I meet a toxic person. I'm now trying to do research and learn as much as I can about narcissists and narcissistic abuse. I don't want anymore of that garbage in my life so I have to be proactive about the process of healing and bettering myself. I have to ask what was my part in all of this.
I would suggest reading the Stephen mitchel translation of the tao te ching
It is the seminal text of Taoism. If you are familiar with meditation, mindfulness or Buddhism some of the concepts will feel familiar. It speaks of the tao that is the emptiness in which material or rather illusions will manifest. It goes in to speculate on politics, religion, business, and morals, but comes back to a central principal about non-doing, even non-being and immersing yourself within the tao. This is horribly butchered but yeah its easy to find the full text online.
Right on, but why do I feel like this is some heavy shit that will go over my head?