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I am a lass (obviously) my bf isn't really doing anything with me. He never holds my hand or anything. I have only been going out with him for a month. What do u think I should do?
To answer this we need more info. 1.Virginity(yes or no?) 2. is he shy 3.has he ever dated before? If you answered no to all these it could be he has no idea what to do, is scared how you'll react and is too nervous to try.
I have dated people are who are either too shy, are virgins and or never dated before and lack of experience tends to do this to people.
I would say make the first move and if you don't want to be the lead I would say try someone else who has experience. However lack of experience wont necessarily do this. Some people are naturally confident if they have done this or not. Those kind of people are generally easier to hook up with.
I would say talk to him and ask him whats up. If he is nervous take the lead and if you want someone who takes the lead find another partner. It can be difficult when your on level 8 and dating a 1. Since the 1 is going to be reluctant and not know what they are doing at all.
Seriously? A month? What you do is you walk up to him hold him by his collar and tell him what you want.
He doesn't like you. He REALLY doesn't like your grammar. I don't either.
If he doesnt hold your hand or do things like that it doesnt mean he doesn like you. Maybe hes just taking it slow and thinks you want to take it slow.
one of the rules of this website is that you need to be 18... somehow i don't think you meet this qualification
I'm going through a similar situation, if you guys do nothing but have sex...it's only for the sex :P
hes probably nervous, or doesnt know how much you like him or something alone the lines of that, and if its his first time, he probably doesnt know what to expect/ probably hasnt read any girlie books to point him in the right direction
Ive been in a situation like that, instead I didn't want to hold the boys hand and showed no emotion to him, mainly because I was confused. If it's bugging you then talk to him and try to see if you can sort things out
Second that, he is often retarded.
Guys are often afraid to make the first step and if he is with you and not making a move, odds are he really likes you.
Why don't you let him know how you feel about him and start something for once. This is a bullshit double standard and guys are afraid of looking like an ass a lot of the times if denied.
If he is with you he likes you and odds are your rather cute, better looking than him. If he is a good guy, he is just afraid.
Ahh, the throes of young love. So emotional. So heated.
You'll get over it, I promise.
Well you know, is too early in your friendship to tell him how you fell, wait a little longer but dont wait too much. This is a girl whom is in love with her bestfriend and told him and was rejected, but now that he knows I fell better. And who knows maybe he likes too and it would end up in a beautiful longlasting relationship.
Depends on your ages and how much experience he's had. When I was younger and inexperienced I didn't really feel like I needed to hold my girlfriend's hand or do things - I was just damn happy to be with her at all. Haha ^_^
Communicate with your man. Ask him these questions instead of posting them online. Good communication makes all relationships better :)
As Halle Berry recently said, a women is responsible for her own orgasms. If he's not getting it done, perhaps you should make a move. Just be nice!
i have the same problem, my boyfriend is really shy, so i was told just to be really flirty with him, grab his but and run your fingers threw his hair and just be a flirt(:
it WORKEDD
Talk to him about it, if you dont you will both get hurt. But you might want to see what he wants in a relationship...maybe he just doesnt want to go to fast with you cause he doesnt want you to get mad and break up with him.
have you tried holding his hand??? a guy shouldn't have to make the first move all the time.
When I was starting dating I was reluctant to hold a girl's hand because I thought she would reject me. Looking back on my life, I am aware that girls may have thought I was rejecting them. You have only dated this guy for a month. Give it more time. If several more months go by, take the initiative. (By that I mean, hold his hand. Don't try to have sex with him. You might frighten him.) Also, if several weeks go by and he doesn't call you, call him. Don't ask him why he didn't call, but make it clear that you like him and have been thinking about him. Good luck! I wish I was young again and could use insights I learned by making mistakes I could not recover from.
As for xxsexilassxx, He probably likes you a lot and get really nervous around you because he doesn't want to screw up. Talk to him and tell him how you feel about him and try holding his hand. open and honest communication is the key.
Ok, to gizzie and cabinet, knock the fucking shit off. Seriously! You are suppose to be commenting on this girls situation and helping her so knock the fuckin immature shit off and use the site as it was meant to be used assholes. If you have a problem with eachother, email or call eachother, hell even meet and beat the hell out of eachother! I don't care! Just knock the shit off
Gretchin, is this Really you?
Honestly, princess, IF you are going to stick around here (Which I doubt) you'll need to grow a slightly thicker skin.
In the meantime little girl, shut up and look on the internet for men seeking a pampered plaything - you'd fit perfectly.
IIN Diva who tells it like it is.
Tobra Marie
I dont care what you think. Everyone on this forum is a fucking loser! I have my own business. But coz I think all you guys are married to losers and you dont know wat it is like to be pampered. Thats all I was looking for, being a lil mollycoddled and pampered by the person who claims to love me!
Miss Oct- I hope you end up with no one coz anyone who gets married to you will end up killing himself anyway!
WHORE BITCH!! DIE AND ROT IN HELL!!
@Gizzie and Cabinet,
You two are really cute, like a couple of old marrieds - I definately feel some homosexual curiosity going on here. ROFLMAO!
Seriously, why don't you two just pull your pants down, take some pictures, post them and COMPARE!
I am not complaining, and I certainly love seeing you two sniping at each other, but what is the point?
You two are just so Cute!
Tobra
Thanks Tobbs me and Gizzie enjoy our arguments on here glad you like well do some more just to please you
Lmao! Yeah Cabinet we might put on a show once in awhile just for shits and giggles.
@ Tobra
Hun I don't have a gay bone in my body, and I mean that seriously. I am 40 years old, and I still think about pussy every day; I just love the female gender.
Ah sweet, I KNOW you're not gay, nor is Cabby. It was just to much fun not to put the needle to y'all a lil. (Feel free to return the favor if you must - MY sexual perversions are well known to old timers here.)
Luv ya both. :)
Tobra. (Tobbs? Hmmm, kinda like that.)
Y'know gizzie, I would get right, erum, On that - but I hear you're married.
Would hate to be a home wrecker, but maybe Cabinet could help ya out (OMG! How's That for a menatal image...)
Now if you wanted to pee on Moi..... :) :) :)
ROFLMAO! (Which is good, I am deeply into things tonight)
Tobra Marie
when your walking with him just grab is hand and act like you did nothing out of the ordinary...he'll get the hint
Males in general are notorious known to withhold such emotions at times.
Don't take his unwillingness to not hold your hand or his lack of showing love as a sign of some form of deterioration in your relationship.
Neofalcon is correct young guys havent developed all those skills yet women mature much more quickly than guys as long as he treats you right that is whats important. Dont think going with his best mate will be any better if you like this guy give him a chance dont make any rash decisions think things through carefully.
I think he is just a virgin young man that isn't quite sure how to approach you when it comes to intimacy sometimes that can be very hard. Just be very patient with him and things will come naturally.
@ Tobra( I gotta admit, your trash talk is cute tho.)
Wow you really surprise me, I didn't think you of all people would accept such shit talk about women I actually am kind of disappointed in you.
I am very glad to see back I really missed your "divine" personality.
I don't "Accept" shitty talk about the siterhood, lol. I am trying to let things go by more often now and not jump on Everything said that pisses moi off.
@Poster, well like I said, if you are youngish, he might be feeling the same bit of frustration as you - not knowing how far he Can go and not wanting More frustration on top of it.
Communication is the key. If you really fancy him that much, talk to him, gently and in private. Men, for all their other Great qualities, can be like little boys sometimes - insecure. Actually, it is rather cute. I mean, you like him, but I doubt you'd want him groping you 24/7.
Talk to him about your feelings/desires AND HIS.
Tobra
Wow you really surprise me, I didn't think you of all people would accept such shit talk about women I actually am kind of disappointed in you.
Gizzie when are you gonna wake up to what this site really is. You can clearly see that you can give funny replies and serious ones and the fact that you cant see that was humor and you tell Tobra your disappointed in her for one comment tells me exactly what I was suspicious of all along. You come here acting the big man who tells it like it is to these women well let me tell you I know exactly what you are a pussy whipped hen pecked little faggot. I have forgotten more about women than youll ever know. I would bet anything that you have a different persona for you friends the people on this site and your wife I have a friend exactly like you who has been divorced once and will end up being divorced again. I thought we had made our peace but once again you feel the need to defame me on these boards. I have just told it like it is deal with that.
Cabinet I will admit this now that you are being so truthful about your thoughts about me, from the first comment I read of yours until now I have always thought you are a total and complete jackass/idiot! You are a rude crude mother fucker and if I was to get a chance I would beat you so bad your own mother wouldn't recognize you.
"I have forgotten more about women than you'll ever know."
I don't think so you little maggot, I have been happily married for 14 years, and I know how to make a woman happy, otherwise I guess I would be a lonely little destitude faggot like you. Cabinet pull your fucking head out of your ass you stupid prick, I knew what you were saying was in humor, and what I said was meant as a joke also.
Oh and I don't have a "different persona" around other people I am me and tell it the way I see it on here on the job and at home. After observing your conduct on here I know you have different personas otherwise you would be getting your pussy ass kicked on a daily basis.
Oh and one more thought FUCK OFF AND DIE!!!!
I think the first three month of the relationship are the most emotional, therefore i dont think he really has emotions invested in you. I dont know why he would avoid doing that unless he is embarrassed or doest give a shit.
ignore his mate that would hurt his heart even if you ended with him and dated his bestfriend
listen her might be shy...
i my self have a hard time just to talk to girl's... holding hand its a big step for me..
i get highly unconfortable if i girl sit's next to me cuse i cant stop looking at the girl
especially if shes attractive... id start to sweat and blush... poor me... ._. lol
Rule number one - Disregard Anything Cabinet says regarding relationships.
Now, you've only been going out for a month, and how old are you anyway? What do you want? Hand holding? Touching? Kissing? What.
It could be, if y'all are rather young, he is unsure of how to proceed.
Find out and get back to me.
Tobra Marie - IIN Glam Girl
he might or he might not. Just because he doesn't hold your hand doesn't mean that he doesn't like you. If you would rather some more affectionate guy dump him, if you want him to do stuff with you then take off your bra, then ask him. that doesnt work then take off his pants... and yours.