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I will sometimes see posts on Facebook by people writing to their dead friends or relatives. WTF? They are dead, they don't get Facebook or even WiFi. Spare me the pathetic drama, we all have deceased friends and family. Am I the only one who feels this way?
Who said anything about funerals? I'm talking about people who put posts on Facebook to people who have been dead for a year or more. Maybe even passed away before the internet was invented. Makes about as much sense as writing them a letter and sending it to their former address.
I talk to dead friends/relatives in my thoughts or go to their gravesite. I don't post it on facebook.
It's a way for them to deal with their grief. Just let them do as they please. It's not hurting anyone, why get mad about it?
What does it matter to you...I seriously want to say fuck you.
Leave people to grieve however they wish...these people are deeply missed and leaving a little comment help you feel a little connected to that deceased person... also it can help the family see how much their loved one was cared about by others.
I have an online friend that passed away a little over a year ago...I think its nice people leave comments on their profile(on a website) I like to read threw them. And if I feel like leaving one to I can do whatever I please.
What does it matter to me? Because I'm dead and I want to rest in peace.I don't want morons disturbing me with their bullshit. Now eat my rot.
Pft like you will care when you die.
And it still shouldn't matter to you its not you who is dead and people are posting on your profiles...and if you dont like it no one is forcing you to post on someone else's profile who is dead... and if you dont like it dont look at it...simple
If it bothers you so much dont put up profiles places....if it really bothers you in your will you can have soneone delete all your profiles after you pass away....problem solved stop whining.
You shouldn't care what other people do if it doesnt effect you or hurt you or others
Its more classy to leave a message on their Facebook than write it sloppily on your car in white chalk "RIP Papito! Welove U forever! "
The Mexican side of my family are big on public displays like that they all get t-shirts when someone dies. Idk.
They're obviously having difficulty with coping. Give them some empathy.
For some people, the Facebook account - or any personal account online - is a sort of digital shrine.
Many find it cathartic to say what they couldn't say to that person before they died, or to 'let them know' the deceased is in their thoughts. It isn't necessarily broadcast for the benefit of everyone else - though I think it would make sense to set such statuses to private.
My friend from school hanged himself, and his Facebook account was taken over by family and left up for around a year. During that time, it acted as a sort of public memorial; people left messages directed to him, saying they miss him or reminiscing on good times gone. It was a far more positive place to express grief than talking to a piece of rock.
I should have phrased my original post better. I have a cousin who posts notes addressed to our grandparents on his status. It goes into everyone's news stream. Our grandparents died like 25 years ago and never owned a computer. To me it just seems stupid and like a play for sympathy and attention.
I think for someone to post something on a deceased persons Facebook page is an entirely different situation and understandable. Maybe I'm just not that much of a public person.
Ah OK - I get what you're saying.
My guess is those statuses are really intended for other people, then. Kind of like when everyone wrote 'R.I.P. Robin Williams' on their walls; that's not for Robin, that's to tell everybody else they're sad about Robin Williams.
I've seen people write statuses like "Miss you Dad, 10 years since you passed away" - which are usually 'liked' by friends and family. I guess the concealed meaning is "Everybody, I'm letting you all know I'm missing my father." To some extent it must be reaching out to people for attention, like you said. Maybe a comforting word or two.
I can understand why you might find it annoying, especially in your situation where it's 25 years since your grandparents died! Still, can't be worse than those statuses like "What the fuck just happened?" - without any context - fishing much? :P
what when it's the other way round and the dead people are posting to you
How people want to grieve is their own decision. Different people grieve in different ways. What's it got to do with you? Nothing.