Family treats me like garbage

It doesnt matter if they are family. If they've treated you so poorly, fuck 'em. They don't deserve an explanation. Just move on with your life and be happy.

I'm estranged from most of my family. It's really not that bad.

I suggest that you ask yourself why you should make a grand announcement of your decision, and what could possibly be gained by this.

If people are truly toxic, telling them that you want nothing more to do with them will only result in them trotting out self-justifying excuses, and then they'll attempt to put all the blame on you and accuse you of being unreasonable or stupid or delusional.

Once a person becomes an adult, there's no law that requires people to spend time with their relatives, and there's definitely no law that requires you to like, respect or even talk to them.

It sounds like you have issues that need to be addressed and resolved, but those who were nasty to you don't need to be involved in that process. I can understand how you'd like your views to be listened to and respected, but the fact is that some people just aren't capable to giving you that.

You've obviously survived whatever was done to you when you were younger and made it to adulthood. You need to figure out how to accept that you had the misfortune to be born into a bad environment, and find the strength to put that phase of your life behind you and move forward. That may well be easier without regular reminders of what you've been through, so you definitely shouldn't feel bad or guilty about cutting the malignancies out of your life.

I haven't seen any of my family for over three years (my mother's cremation,) they don't even know which continent I'm on. It's better that way.

Sometimes you have to create a new “family“ and leave them behind. But, don’t rush to anything. Relationships are transactional. Maybe talk to a professional about this one.... this is a hard problem to have. Ate up YEARS of my life. You need support.

Don’t insult garbage you trash

You can cut them out in a subtle way to where no one notices. Just move away and barely ever text back or call. Maybe only talk to them 3 or 4 times a year or less even.

Mine dose too...you'll get used to it.

So do it. Save up and get your own place and just don’t give them your new address and don’t talk to them again.