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I do. A LOT.
I'm just wondering if any other women are like me. I can't really bring myself to ask my friends about this.
It's funny, because as a kid I thought something was wrong with me because of these thoughts. And what really weird is the idea of rape creeps me out, badly, and I never would want to be raped. And yet rape fantasies are something I've had since I hit puberty. Then again, like they say, rape fantasies are not rape. Two totally different things. It's more like a power play. Not knowing what that person is going to do to you.
Generally guys that rape would not be high on your list of romantic partners. Rape means bruising and tearing of fragile vaginal and anal tissue. It is not a sex act, it is an act if degradation and violence. You're confusing rape with being ravaged by someone you're attracted to. Now that's sexy.
Totally normal, when i was younger it was a constant adolescent fantasy.
The thing is that women don't really fantasize about rape, it's what it represents; being sexually dominated by a virile and dangerous male.
There is a fine line between fantasy and reality though cuz being raped is much more than a violation of the body but leaves deep mental and emotional scars.
P.S. Just find a freaky partner and act out your fantasies in the bedroom you'll havea god time without the scars :-)
Are you fucking kidding me. Rape is horrible what if a dirty old man came up to YOU on the street took all your clothes off and started shoving his dick inside you and you didn't want it!! Tell your story about it being "totally normal!" To any rape victim cause they will disagree with you and agree with me. So if you want to get raped sure go out on the street saying I WANT TO BE RAPED cause I'm as sure as he'll you will!!
Well who knows how relevant my opinion is since these comments were 7 and 3 years ago but I have been raped and before and after that occurred I have always enjoyed sexual domination. Which is different than rape, but I'm sure that's what the poster means. "Rape fantasies" is just another way of saying domination.
This is a normal and surprisingly common fantasy.
I was/am very much like this and I am only sexually aroused when a man is rough with me.
You can have this in a trusting relationship, where you give control to your partner and he can use you. Being submissive in the bedroom is normal (even if you're quite outgoing and confident outside the bedroom). Dominating men are very sexy. Look into Mark Davis - dominant/bdsm porn star.
Yeah, it's normal.
BUT ANY PSYCHOS READING THIS THINKING, "SEE THEY LIKE IT" IS WRONG.
lol... i think the same way but sometimes i rape girls in my daydreams or i get raped by girls.
but i never hurt them i just try to make them enjoy it. My favorite daydream by far!
For some reason I have dreams where I get raped by someone who i think has a crush on me and i dont like them. but then I end up liking them... :| weird
I think people confuse rape with being dominated. I fantisize about "rape" but would I actually want to be raped, obviously not. Rape is a very bad thing but imagining someone having control over you can be a real turn on (for some people). It comes down to a power thing. Sometimes I have my bf tie me up and blind fold me so I am completely helpless/don't know what he'll do that way I get that feeling but I know I'm safe because he'd never do anything to hurt me...if I were you I'd find someone you could do that with, its a very sexually rewarding experience
There is nothing wrong with having fantasies. Some fantasies you would like to act out some others are just that, fantasies.
I have been searching for just such a woman my whole life. I have always wanted to paly out a rape fantasy but never could find a will woman to do it with. I would like to solve both our needs with you and me in just a fantasy like this. Maybe Im the one who is sick but I have always thought about this and I always will. I just wish I could find some woman who feels the same as I do.
Marry me... Lol.. Jk.. I've wanted a man to act out a rape but it was always lame...it's just a taboo thought i get off too... Obviously if I were to be raped it would be scary... But we can think and act out consentingly what 2 adults or more wants
I don't know why but I have fantasized about this for a long time...I would never want to actually be raped and find the act to be disgusting and horrifying. If the guy and I had some type of mutual understanding but still contained the element of surprise...that would be perfect!
It is completely normal. Rape can come to mean a lot of things (some of which it doesn't.) For example, a person who is fantasizing about rape may view rape as validating their sexiness (someone wants to rape me therefore I am sexy.) Or, a person who is fantasizing about rape may feel guilty about having sex, and therefore not want to be responsible for having it yet still have it (few who believe that sex is morally wrong would still think less of someone for having sex via rape.) Or, a person may just hate themselves, and want to be objectified.
Real rape is quite different than these fantasies. And few who have actually been raped would ever fantasize about it (and those few who do, are probably just trying to cope with it by lessening the offense by convincing themselves that they wanted it.)
It's not necessarily "rape," but someone taking CONTROL of us. We haven't been dominated or taken over. And the initial thought is "rape." If you haven't been raped, nor dominated, it's hard to decipher in fantasies.
I very much agree with that first comment. On another note: Boys, this IS NOT a green light to do anything remotely similar to rape!
I feel awful about this because I know how horrible it is for people who have actually been a victim to rape, but yeah, I do. Obviously, in the fantasy, it's all fine, but real life is a different matter completely. I can't say that I do it alot, but I remember when I read A Clockwork Orange ages ago, I fantasized big time about Alex.
It's pretty normal. I have the same fantasies, but I'm such a hardcore feminist that it makes me feel guilty. It's really hot to live out these fantasies by roleplaying them with someone you trust... just be sure to have a safeword! So that they can tell the difference between you wanting them to stop and just "acting" like you want it to stop.
im a lesbian and i fanatics about being raped by some hot chick tying me down and having her way with me.
rape, or being forced to perform sexual acts is a rather common role-play scenario in the local kink community. someone even staged a kidnapping/abduction and rape scenario. best done with someone you've met tho, not arranged online.
i soooo thought i was the only one. i am the same way its good to know im not alone.
When I questioned my female friends regarding this fantasy they admitted that it was quite common. Be it monsters, caveman or tentacles they thought about it. However, it is foolish to compare real rape to your fantasies. I really doubt anyone would fantasize about getting elbowed and beaten until your face is a bloody pulp and then penetrated by some fuck who gets off at your suffering. This are two different things entirely and in fact it is a disservice to females who had been raped.
Well, a lot of people are agreeing that they do, but no reason as to why. I think that it's because our culture seems to make sex a dirty act, something a person (namely a woman, there is a double standard there) should feel guilty about. Rape (as imagined by those who have never been) is a sort of release from that guilt- sex without guilt is a wonderful thing. They don't have to consent or say yes to receive pleasure. Real rape is totally different. Some things are best left as fantasies.
There are so many reasons why, and not all of these are best left as fantasies. We call it rape, but it's more like 'a forceful but trusted taking' however that sounds stupid. It's a tie in to the bdsm culture that a lot of people are still to scared to get involved in due to the over exaggeration of porn and other media on it.
I want it because one of my biggest turn ons is being completely powerless and abused, if only I can make it end.
yes. I'm always thinking about it.. in every situation. Being raped.. gang raped... humiliated sexually in public. being tied up and used as a slave. Its the best way i get horny.. idk maybe something wrong with me too.
well sadly I'm a woman who is being blackmailed with police action if I don't submit myself to the desires of the disabled old man who I work for. It is my fault I did a wrong thing and I got caught. I can't afford to lose my job or be arrested. So I give into the demands of this pervert who uses me as his sex slave. Every week I bring his shopping do some ironing and a little cooking... that's my paid job, but when I'm finished he takes his cock out of his pants asks me to kneel infront of him and suck him. He squeezes my tits too hard and calls me his filthy whore. Nothing wrong with your fantasies but the reality is grim. Not sure how to get out of it so I'm trying to make myself enjoy it but really i don't.
Okay, seriously, short of murder what he is doing is worse than whatever you did (I'm assuming stealing). Get help. If you don't feel comfortable with calling the police, then find a victim advocacy group, women's shelter, social worker, or something similar. If you really don't want to contact anyone, just secretly tape him demanding sex from you, and blackmail him back. He doesn't turn you in, you don't turn him in, square deal. Honestly though, this would be a last resort way of dealing with the situation. Whatever you choose to do, you deserve to be treated like a person, not a sex slave.
Don't worry mylilsecret. There is nothing wrong with you! :D I am the same way. Being tied up makes some people horny also. It's TOTALLY normal.
Yeah see, girls say this and then we have so many false rape charges filed.
Knowing people in policing it is very difficult to draw the lines, on the one hand a guy can be " forceful " with a girl and she gets turned on and they become exclusive couple with the closest relationship you've ever seen.
Another guy tries this on another girl and he gets 5 years in prison.
Would be better if everyone was on the same page.
I do this ALL THE TIME.
I feel bad, cause of actual rape victims, that have their life shattered, but OMG I JUST WANNA DO IT!
Seriously, i think being gang raped by about 10 hot horny guys would be fucking amazing!
Biting me, slapping me, fucking me..
Ohmygoddd...
You disgust me. And no, it wouldnt be rape cause yer loose ass ***** wants it. Go to a dark alley naked. I dare you -,-
That ain't a rape. You are wanting it, at that point it's not even close to what being rape is. You don't want that, you may want to be dominated and enjoy S&M but that doesn't even make it a rape fantasy.
Honestly this isn't abnormal, I have a fair few friends who enjoy the idea of getting raped to a greater or lesser degree and, (and here I'm so glad this site is anonymous) a friend who has been raped and actively searches for people to do it again.
A lot of people have desires that seem strange to them, but it's nothing to be ashamed of or anything. Also it's not disrespect to those who've had it done to them, their experience may have been totally different to the one you may have and certainly is to the one you're fantasising about, don't make a huge deal out of it.
Can't you people just pick up a damn dictionary for once and learn about the meanings of the words you fail to completely have any understanding at all before jumping into discussions to display your complete ignorance? If they want and welcome it then it's not in any sense of the word a rape to any degree. Your friends misapplied the word rape in place of the correct word to describe accurately what they mean which is they want to be dominated to greater or lesser degree...according to you that is.
When you fantasize about it or act it out with a willing partner, it is NOT rape. It's called ravishment.
www.ravishu.com is a good site, NOT porn, but it has stories and lots of other things.
I love the idea myself...I'd enjoy it...it'd be totally different from the real thing, I wouldn't want that to happen! But I don't have any problem with enjoying a beautiful fantasy.
i use to do that only when i was really horny.u may be bored in a realationship and you want more excitement
That Is My Favorite Fantasy I Always Think About That When Im Horny. I Think That Megan Fox Or Jessica Or Beyonce Raping Me For Their Fun I Think It's Awesome. I Would Say It's Very Normal Even If People Wont Talk About It. Or Them On Top Of Me And Playing With Me.
omg same. i thought i was a freak until i read this post! i don't think i'd actually want it to happen but i like the fantasy...
i've always fantasised about that since i was a little girl, i don't get horny because of it, but it makes me feel good
now i feel i'm normal too, thanks all
i'm sooo glad i'm not the only one.
i think its so hot, i get my boyfriend to tie me up all the time :)
Actually it is the #1 most fantasised thing ford women, so you're totally normal in this scenario.
I think its normal. They have websites where you can meet people with the same interest as this. (don't know any off the top of my head) if your not into having sex with random people. Start your next partner off slow. You don't wanna scare him. Dirty talk, or being tied up is always a nice to to start. And slowly as you and your partner become more comfortable slowly raise the stakes. I have yet to meet someone interested in that type of fantasy. and often when i bring up tying them down they shy away. I hope you have better luck then I...
You don't have any websites you can name off top because they don't actually exist. Do people ever re-read the shit they type on here? What you are describing is not rape. There is no consensual act involved in rape. You are confusing BDSM with rape. Two entirely different acts there.
OMG Im the same. I thought I was rather strange, but then i realized that more woman fantasize about this than we can actually care to imagine.
Just be careful what you wish for cause it might come true.........
I'm not a girl, but I can tell you right now this is more normal than you might think. Reason being is fantasizing about a rape means the girl wants to be taken control of, so thats really all your fantasizing about is being taken control of.
Omg. Me too! I sooo want to be raped. But, I have these standards... Lol. They have to be hott and have a decent sides penis. Lol. but, I still get turned on by pretty much any kind of rape. I love reading rape stories, imagining that a creepy guy that just passed me is gonna hide behind a tree then attack me as I pass by, etc.
i agree with you and i would like to be that person hiding behind a tree with your consent
That wouldn't be a rape then. It's either rape or it's not. There is no make believe or role play rape sex. Rape is completely nonconsensual on the part of the victim. Consenting sexual partners means that it isn't rape. Non-consenting means one has to force sex on the other which is rape, at least one predator and one victim involved.
Imagine the person you find the most disgusting to rape you, if you still feel like you want to, then there's something wrong
I think all women love powerful men that refuse to obey the laws of feminism. Sexual harassment and rape are both extreme forms of flattery. Cavemen and type-A Alpha males who are really dumb (like me) get all the chicks.
i will often jump my girlfriend when she comes out of the shower in her towel or is getting changed.
she always struggles but as soon as i enter her , her struggle stops and she becomes submissive, it really turns me on and makes me cum way to quick.
now i know it is totally different from a real rape , especially a violent one,
but here is my question and i dont wish to offend anyone , if a man rapes a woman and doesnt beat her up or anything , just strips her ties her up and does lots of nice things to her,
even though she may 100%% not want it , will she still not enjoy it ?
i know if a woman tied me up and say performed an oral act on me , no matter how much i might not want it to happen i know it would still feel the same and end with me cumming .
It's still rape and she's not going to like it. Even if she does feel some sort of pleasure she's probably going to be pretty psychologically fucked up for years afterwards, if not the rest of her life.
It's like you say; if a woman performed oral on you without your consent, you would still feel pleasure--that's your body responding to pleasurable stimuli, however, a real rape and a fantasy rape are different, after a real rape you'd likely experience guilt, anxiety, self-blame, and low self-esteem. It would be the same for a woman, she might become aroused, but if she didn't give consent it would cause a huge knot of conflicting negative feelings.
it's not the same for women. for us it has to be someone we trust and want, otherwise the whole time he's being nice and caring I'd be thinking he's going to cut me open as soon as he's done, so definitely not, if i don't ask for it (and by that I mean literally say the words "let's act out my rape fantasy")I definitely don't want it
I fantasized about being raped, then I was raped, but I still fantasize about it. Honestly whenever I hear of someone else being raped I feel disgusting, horrible, and incredibly sad for that person, but I still get turned on when I think about being raped myself(though thinking about the time it actually happened makes me feel both gross and horny). I do like the idea of rape being mistaken for ravishment, and I think I'll try to redirect my thoughts.
Ultimately, I think it would be great if we could all clarify what we fantasize about as ravishment, BDSM, or domination fantasies, because those things are normal, while fantasizing about actual rape may be common, but is an indication of something not being quite right.
Ravishment and rape are very close in nature. Being taken by force and against your will is a lot like kidnapping. As you do not want any part of it and want to desperately get away and end your scary predicament before you lose your life or are victimized against your will. You are failing to grasp your chosen words. I think what you mean is being dominated not actually raped or ravished is what possibly turns you on. I may be wrong but I find your admission to be a bit a suspect.
Im a guy and since its the internet i dont care about sounding creepy haha but ive been fantasizing rape scenarios since high schoo but ive been through many stages of trying to purify my thoughts and stuff haha and all it does is cause me impotense haha my current relationship with my gf is great one time i tried to shre with her my fantasies nd she freaked cuz she actually was haha raped persoynally though normal sensual sex was always my dr.eam haha when i first started to choke it around 7 haha and then after being turned down for sex so many times i began imagining taking it haha however the way i imagin it is the girls enjoying it haha but doesnt want it where as in real life youd have to be violent which i would never do that haha besides ive discovered that imagintion 9 times out of 10 if you weigh the pros and cons haha of masterbation to real sex masterbations just less work haha less messless awkward haha you always get what you want when you want it anyway id never rape anyone but myself haha
I'm 14, when I heard there was a petafile on the loose, and that we needed to be careful, if walking home, I felt horney. When walking home from school, I felt a slight surge of hope, that I would meet the petafile, and he would rape me.
Sorry you were raped as a child... tht's rough and no kid should be abused ever. It's not suprising that your fantasies are so violent.
I wasn't raped as a child, but have some fantasies of rape and domination, but now one of my fantasies has come true... not enjoying it. I am being used as an old mans sex slave to satisfy his every whim. If I refuse I will be exposed and may lose my family.
It is one of th most common fantasy - just stay sane in knowing the diff between fantasy and reality. In then fantasy, you still control things. Huge difference.
Huge turn on. Always has been. Don't ask me what I want. Take what you want..... lol
Yeah you think it's a hot fantasy until you cross paths with an actual rapist who couldn't careless about your pleasure or fantasies...in fact being your nightmarish tormentor is far more appealing to him which means a lot of fear and pain that will come at your expense, that's what turns them on not the actual sexual acts but the great pain and fear that they can inflict on you. You're not a desirous sexual object to a rapist...you are a well deserving victim not worth shit to him. You just think you want to be raped but it won't include you getting you off at all.
It is normal. In a healthy sexual relationship it is perfectly possible to engage in activities like BDSM. If you find a really good and trustworthy person, you can act out most fantasies.
I struggle with it all of the time. Thought I was the only one. And I was raped pretty much all of my life and I'm almost twenty.. I feel wrong in feeling that way but perhaps since it happened so long that that became my perception on what a man should be. No rape is not ok but being forceful, to me, is kind of a turn on
I was violently abused and raped for many years by my ex. I never enjoyed it, wanted to throw up and just freak out most of the time...so disgusted with him and myself. After a year of separation, I discovered that I was getting turned on by violent sex scenes in movies. Ever since, I have fantasized greatly about being violently raped. Even a half-second thought about it turns me on immediately and I want even more then. My fantasies are extremely violent though, sometimes even ending in death through strangulation or other means while being brutally raped and forced. I am disgusted that it turns me on as much as it does. Yet, my body experiences such pleasure from these thoughts. I don't know how to make that stop or how to heal in this area and part of me really doesn't want to.
I'm so relieved to find others with the same problem/opinion. I was really beginning to think that I would be alone. I'm only partially relieved. I can't go forward with such thoughts. Though I kinda enjoy it I can't admit it or continue with it. I know for sure that there's not one other girl among my friends and family who do the same. So no one with similar mentality or problems. And i'm also beginning to feel such fantasies may affect my personality or confidence (probably far fetched thoughts). My main question is: can i stop or control it? I fantasize such things almost daily and I want it stopped, but I kinda can't help it. But then I feel bad or guilty for such thoughts.
Don't feel guilty you are not alone! I too get aroused my sexual violence, rape & strangulation, and have been for years, even thinking about it now starts my obsession off, I'm a kind hearted person, & care a lot about others. I wouldn't even harm a fly, but,we can't help what turns us on, i couldn't explain why I'm aroused by sexual force and dominance, no one would ever tell by looking at me that I have hidden dark fantasies, but in a safe consensual environment it's ok, and there is a BDSM scene where others share similar kinks
it's normal.
most women do.
especially Japanese women.
More also, women who are victim of rape somehow develop this and always fantasize about violence sex.
then let us rape you then if you like thinking about it:P
That's just an asinine statement to say the least. You don't know "most women" nor ever will meet most of the women in the world to say that with any legitimacy whatsoever. You are either stupid or too far removed from reality if you even really think like that. Think about what you are saying for once in your life instead of making a moron out of yourself.