Fear of abandonment

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I have a horrible fear of abandonment. I don't know where it came from, my father never left me as a child or anything like that. However, whenever I get into a serious relationship I can't help but constantly think that he is going to leave me. Even if there are no problems between us I still have this irrational fear. It tends to ruin things between me and the guy sooner or later, and I have no idea what to do about it. Is it normal and what should I do to help it?

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64% Normal
Based on 14 votes (9 yes)
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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Until you both build up trust in one another I would think this normal. But I would suggest adding some spice to your life both in and out of bed so the relationship doesn't get boring with the "same old thing" all the time. Don't be afraid to switch it up with some surprise once in a while to keep your guy interested. Don't be shy to push your or his bounderies. You can try a little bondage and light s and M.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      The sex is great and never boring, there are no problems in the bedroom it's only my own insecurities making me feel this way.

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  • RavenStarr
    5 years ago

    Same here. I haven been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder... It sucks... What you are saying might be one of the symptoms... Do you feel over-attached to someone so much that even a minute without him/hurts and you get worried that he might not want to be with you anymore?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      YES omg it's so bad. I hate being this way so much

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      • RavenStarr
        5 years ago

        Oh hun... I'm the same... It's horrible *hugs you*

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Aww thank you so much for your support !!(:

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          • RavenStarr
            5 years ago

            You're welcome hun... Feel free to comment on a post whenever you wanna talk :)

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Maybe you are living with an undiagnosed personality disorder? Have you ever sought professional help for your fear of abandonment?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I'm seeing someone right now for it, and it's helping a little but it's still pretty bad

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      • McBean
        5 years ago

        Here's something to ask about. It may not apply to you. https://themighty.com/2017/08/fear-of-abandonment-bpd-borderline-personality/

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Keep up the good work!🤗

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Normal. It’s an insecurity that you have to work through to overcome.
    Not sure how you can do it beyond thinking ahead of what is the worst thing, he leaves, you survive. I try not to think ahead too much, I try to be in the moment with relationships.

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