Found out my bf cheated on me

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so i’ve been having suspicions lately that my bf might be talking to girls bc he wouldn’t let me see his phone when i did have doubts. when he left his house to go see his friends i went on his computer and found a video on his computer of him showing the camera a convo of him snapchatting a girl, probably hoping that the video he’s opening is a nude but it was just a regular photo. i saw a bit of the convo and it was him saying he will paypal a girl and calling her hot. then he proceeded to jack off. over his underwear then stopped the video. he came back and i acted as if everything was okay. i’m with him right now at his friends house and he knows somethings up because he knew i went on his computer and then just kept asking if i was okay. i’ve never been in this situation before and i never thought he’d do it.

he has a past of being a sugar daddy yet he doesn’t even have that much money. it’s ridiculous. how should i confront? he told me he would never cheat on me and he says he’s been cheated on the last two times he’s been in relationships. i’m just sad and don’t want this relationship to end

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  • kelili
    3 years ago

    He won't kill himself if you leave him. A lot of people say this when their partner finds out something they've been lying about or hiding.
    I would not be the one to provide advice about leaving or staying in this relationship. I already told my husband that I do not care if he sleeps with other woman but to use protection. I honestly do not mind. But that's me.
    I guess it is also a cultural thing. Western societies are very much into monogamous relationship and view cheating (that's why it's also referred to as such I guess) as a terrible mistake and one that usually should not be forgiven.
    What annoys me most is the lying. WHy do you have to fucking deny when you've been caught? Why do people try to make you think you're crazy and imagining thing before they admit? This is what really gets on my nerve.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      I once found out someone was cheating on me, and I kicked him out that very night!

      Where are you from? You said that you don't care if your husband sleeps with someone else. Would your husband mind if you slept with someone else?

      As far as I'm concerned if someone lies, and cheats I don't care if that person threatens to kill themselves, because it's usually just a manipulation tactic used to attempt to control me. I'm happy that no one has threatened to kill himself like that with me, but I figure the best thing for me to do is to call 911 so the proper authorities can send the guy to a mental hospital where he belongs, then I can move myself out in peace, and quiet.

      I've been single, and haven't attempted to date since September of 2017. Honestly, at this point I'm really happy, and content living by myself, and I hope to God that I never have to live with anyone again, because I love the peace, and quiet that has come into my life!

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  • S0UNDS_WEIRD
    3 years ago

    You could save yourself a lot of pain and time by leaving him now. It's not going to work out.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      YES!!!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    3 years ago

    UPDATE: he lied about it at first and denied it. said the video was from before we dated yet he was wearing the ring i got him in the video and pictures i did were hung up. took him forever to own up to it and just started crying. told me he didn’t deserve anything and that he wanted to kill himself..

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Dump him anyway, and call 911 if he threatens to kill his sorry sacked lying shit ass! You are not in any way responsible for anything he does to hurt himself. People who lie, and cheat are just garbage anyway, and everyone knows that garbage belongs in the trash! You are, however, responsible for yourself, and protecting yourself from liars, cheaters, and manipulators!

      I don't have children, but if I did I wouldn't allow my child to play with toys that are broken, because my child might hurt him, or herself with the jagged edges of the broken toy. There's only one thing to do with something that is broken, THROW IT AWAY! Your relationship is broken, and if you stay with that piece of shit you will get hurt, believe me! Kick that sorry ass sack of shit to the curb!

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      • S0UNDS_WEIRD
        3 years ago

        Rose is right. I've had to do this to someone and she never pulled that suicide talk again after spending a couple nights locked up talking to therapists about something she was never going to do anyway.

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        • RoseIsabella
          3 years ago

          Thanks!

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  • NickNickNick
    3 years ago

    Leave him. Nobody should be cheating on their partner for any reason other than a life or death situation.

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