Guilt/virginity

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I was in a 6-yr relationship, lost my "V" to this man, last year our relationship became rocky because I no longer want to have sex with him, I want him to marry me because I believe that was the only thing missing in our relationship, and then he cheated,He only admitted when I found naked pictures sent to him by the woman and then he confessed they had sex more than once, I was left heartbroken and devastated,we tried to save the relationship, but I feel like I was going crazy, he was remorseful and would cry everytime he sees me, but I can no longer look at him or love him the same way, so I decided to cut all the communications and block him on soc med.
Now, I am troubled if anyone would still accept me because I am no longer a virgin. I did love him, but what he did to me was too much, I was depressed and suicidal for months.
Now I no longer know what my life is going to be or if someone would still love me, I want to have my own family, but I guess living life as a non-virgin now, it'll be hard for me to find someone to accept me, plus the trust issues.
I am healing and still praying that one day God would send me the right man, accept me as I am, and create a life with me.

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  • ospry
    1 year ago

    Your value as a person or a partner isn't tied to your virginity, whether you've lost it, or to whom you 've lost it. What your boyfriend did was terrible and he deserves to feel all the remorse and guilt he feels. I know it feels awful, but it's not a reflection on you or how desirable you are

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    • AyLL
      1 year ago

      Thank you so much. You're comment just made me feel better. Thank you for being kind

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  • HarmonysHarp
    1 year ago

    He was your first sexually, likely in many other ways as well. You’re naturally overcome with emotion, and with good reason; 6 years is a long time. Continue doing as you said and heal. You’ll know it’s time when you’re no longer so consumed by the pain but instead excited by the possibilities.

    Remember that seldom is your first your last/only.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    Being depressed and suicidal because a relationship didnt work is a sign of some deep rooted issue. I dont know what to tell you about the other thing. If youre in the west most ppl dont care if you're a virgin. In fact if a girl told me she was a virgin it would be kind of a turnoff.

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    • AyLL
      1 year ago

      Thanks for your comment. I have moved past the depressed and suicidal phase. I am actually doing better now.

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