Guy didn't respect my safe sex rule:(

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So l met a guy l liked and decided to sleep with him but told him a bunch of times and crystal clear that we should use a condom if we hook up but the night we had sex l had to plead and convince him to put it on which he finally did after a while but the thing is he kept fucking me when he already came and a lot of his sperm spilled out the condom and went inside my pussy and l only realized after the act then started kinda freaking out but the guy acted like l was panicking for nothing and denied the sperm spilled out when it was so fucking obvious and he even said that l'm too paranoid about std's and that he's "clean" but the thing is he never even got tested for any kind of std and had unprotected sex with a bunch of girls in the past so how the fuck is he so sure? And he was so arrogant and didn't even give a good argument and kept dismissing my valid reactions.. now l'm stressed out about my health.. what can you say about these types of guys?:(

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  • Funstable
    5 years ago | pl

    Don't allow anyone disrespect your rules on sex. Ever.

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago | pl

    Why are you having sex with such a dickhead. If he complained at all before fucking me I would tell him to kick rocks.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    5 years ago | pl

    Dump him, never contact him again, and make sure he knows he's a prick. And then if anyone even hesitates in the future about contraception then stay away from them too.

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  • charli.m
    5 years ago

    Rapists aren't known for their compassion. I'm sorry this happened to you.

    Have you gotten tested for STIs and pregnancy?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      He didn't rape me but he was wreckless with the condom and didn't care if his cum spilled over then was an asshole about it when l justifiably freaked out. Anyway l'm gonna get tested next week. Thanks.

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      • charli.m
        5 years ago

        He performed a sexual act on you without your consent. That's rape.

        I hope the tests are all ok.

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  • Mark92
    5 years ago

    Hes a jerk, ditch him, find someone better and move on. Also I am glad you are aware of stds, practice safe sex and get your partner and yourself to do a momentary test. Some stds are incurable and fatal, and are graphic in appearance (just look at pictures of "kaposi sarcoma" it may not only end your sex life by disfiguring you, but also kill you). Momentary sexual pleasure is not worth ruining anyone's life. My girl friend and I willingly do regular medical check ups, and we are both clean....

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Yes, he is a selfish piece of shit! I would say that you need to go get tested, get plan B if you feel so inclined and never go out with him or accept his calls again.

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  • Shrik
    5 years ago

    Never ever have sex with someone who doesn't have moral values. He seems like a pervert so avoid him and be careful in the future.

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  • AntiArchon
    5 years ago

    What a stupid selfish asshole. If I were you I would have kicked him in the nutsack. His blatant disregard is a red flag, stay away from these types of guys. There are many men out there who would respect your rules so dump this guy and find a better one. Your concern about std's is justified, get yourself tested to make sure because most std's are asymptomatic but will still impact your health negatively in the long run. Seems this guy is a sociopath since he doesn't give a shit. Hope you turn out fine and make better decisions in the future.

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  • curious-bunny
    5 years ago

    Sounds like it's time to hire some rapey guys for revenge. I think you know were I'm going with this

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    You say you told him a bunch of times that a condom was not optional. I wonder how he responded?

    Was there anything in his reaction that might have given you a clue that this would happen? I'm not blaming you for failing to anticipate that he would treat you this way, but just wondering if there's anything you can learn from this experience which you can apply to guys you meet in the future.

    In retrospect, I'm sure you can see how you should have walked out when you had to "plead" with him before he put on the condom. If he had truly accepted that as a precondition before the event, he would have slipped one on before you even mentioned it.

    It's very sensible for women to require a condom, particularly if it's a casual hook-up. Personally, I detest the things, and I'd rather go without PIV sex than use one. That still leaves a lot of enjoyable options open, although I'm sure the asshole you were with is too stupid to understand that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yeah your'e right l already knew he wouldn't put a condom on without me pushing him but l knew he would in the end, l expected that he'd pull out though when he came coz that's obviously what you do when using a condom. Just gotta use my brain and choose better next time. Thanks.

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  • Dustyair
    5 years ago

    Choose more wisely in the future, don't let hormones overrule logic.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Totally inconsiderate.

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  • Embarrassed468
    5 years ago

    If anyone disrespects your rules about sex - don't have sex with them because they're childish and don't deserve you if they don't respect you.

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  • MR.mr
    5 years ago

    There are few things that terrify me more than STD's the idea of having unprotected sex with random girls is insane to me.

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