Guys find me more attractive now?

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I go to university and I'm in my early twenties. I've only had one boyfriend and that was in high school, I've always been quiet and slightly antisocial (mostly because everyone at my uni is a drone and not distinguished in their personality at all).

I've been playing guitar for ten years and I'd never told anyone until recently (mostly because no-one asked) but I played a little gig at the music hall for a charity thing and a lot of people in my classes went and it was a real surprise for them, afterward everyone was talking to me and being nice, it was a bit of a shock for me since I didn't even know the names of a lot of these people. Since that night, about 5 guys have asked for my number even though the only two things the know about me are my first name and the fact that I play guitar. Even worse is that two of those guys used to pick on me in high school and I can think of no (polite) way to reject them.
is it normal they only approached me because I play guitar?

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    It could be for reasons you're not expecting. If they've never seen you do anything noteworthy, they might not have known how to approach you and how to get a conversation started. Playing an instrument is a massive inroad (especially for someone like me who also plays an instrument and has a wide interest in music).

    But I would also say that it's attractive to me if someone can play an instrument, or if she can sing. Not all instruments (cornet wouldn't do much for me) but guitar is definitely one of the good ones.

    As for the two guys who picked on you, I don't think you need to give them a polite rejection. In fact, it might be useful for them to be reminded of their actions and told you're not interested in dating bullies. It might make them think twice about how they act.

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    • shade_ilmaendu
      11 years ago

      Hey now, you dunno what you're talking about. I'll play that trumpet so sexy you're gonna need a change of pants.

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        Ha! I almost needed a change of pants when I read this because I nearly peed myself laughing. Christ, this amused me! :D

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    If some the guys used to pick on you, don't even bother being polite if you want to reject those guys. They're just superficial if they're only attracted to you because of one thing. If it was me I'd really rub it in their faces that your popular now and they're not. Some people don't deserve a polite rejection.

    EDIT: It's probably normal, by the way, in that having the confidence to perform and playing an instrument are attractive qualities. But it is superficial.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    I think they found you just as 'attractive' before. You shared a piece of yourself with them and they felt it. You connected with them. It's not just superficial. They truly enjoyed you and your music.

    appreciate that.

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      I totally agree! Most likely it is not even specifically your playing that sparked their interest but the fact that for once you managed to open up and give these guys a window of opportunity to connect with you. If you would have performed a tap-dance routine or whatever you would probably have recieved similar attention. As said, most likely these guys already noticed you before, but never had any opportunity to engage.

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    That's the fucked-up ways of the world for you.

    They don't care about your personality, just that you can do something that is considered "cool".
    You should try reject the douchebags that give you that impression even if you have to do it in a harsh way.

    Do try to sift out the trash from the good ones though. There is a small chance that some of these may be genuinely interested, but just only noticed you now that you've done something to stand out from the crowd.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Maybe because of the level of confidence you showed while performing.

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  • Hunterhemsworth
    11 years ago

    What song was it?
    It was probably a nice piece of music you chose

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    maybe they liked you before but after you showed more of your personality they feel more comfortable opening up to you

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  • TheHornyOne
    11 years ago

    Hey bitch, wanna sleep with me? I am cheap!

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  • Short4Words
    11 years ago

    Yes a girl playing guitar is super attractive.

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