Guys: would you care if your girl made out with random guys?

just making out?? if the guy's being that judgmental about a KISS he's a douche. If he's being judgmental about her sleeping with lots of guys then he better have only slept with one or two himself.

I wouldn't really care, but the differences in our experience levels would probably be a dividing factor in our relationship unless she was very patient with me so that I could learn with her.

I must say I honestly find myself shocked that most people on here want girls to be prudes. I have to wonder, have all the guys commenting only been with 1-2 partners themselves? Have they ever hooked up? Are they hypocrites or is this just a thread full of people with very little sexual experiences?

Onward to the question. I'm a woman so I didn't skew your poll results, but I think it's ridiculous that someone would hold a person's history against them. There's nothing wrong with having sex as long as you're being safe and you're not actually cheating in the context of a relationship. There's nothing wrong with making out with or fooling around with someone when you're single. We are a communal race, we thrive off of being close to one another. There's nothing more natural or harmless in the whole bloody world.

I'm pretty much fine with people who have said that they haven't had many partners and would be uncomfortable with someone who's had more... I'm not gonna lie I have an almost similar approach on the other end of the spectrum... I'm quite experienced. Mostly sex in the context of a relationship but I've hooked up a few times. I'm afraid to date or hook up with someone with little to no experience because of my history.

My issue in this thread is all the people who think there's something intrisically wrong with anyone who has a different sexual lifestyle than they do. Monagamy was never the biological norm. Neolithic men traveled in family groups where generally all breeding members hooked up with all other breeding members. It kept the group close and prevented jealousy or the males trying to kill offspring that wasn't theirs, because they all felt an equal connection to all of the tribe's children. Monagmous relationships only became the norm when the church stepped in and made it so. There is nothing more or less moral about choosing to have or abstain from sexual relations. Personal preferences and prejudices do not dictate morality on a grander scheme.

Key term "use to" So I don't care. Long as they did not rape, sexually touch children, or murdered someone for money or whatever.

I'm not sure how to write this without sounding like a bitch but here goes...<BR><BR>I've been offered sex more times then i choose to remember but luckily i was smart enough to know not to sleep with them and wait for a guy that doesnt see me as a skinny, blonde that they can just have sex with for the night then never see me again. I've been with alot more girls then guys and in my expericence i know my past isn't good and i don't think it should matter about someones past so long as it doesn't come back to bite you in the ass. My Bf's past has popped up alot and i wish it hadn't but i can't change that, i can only hope he keeps picking me and we carry on being so happy. <BR><BR>Don't let someone's past be the reason you break up with someone or don't give someone a chance. As long as they're faithful thats all that matters.

There's nothing wrong with hookups at all, but (using myself as an example) I prefer to date women who are more reserved because I too am reserved. If I was going out and hooking up then I would prefer a girl that has done the same for experiences sake. It's just personal preference, I don't think its anything to worry about.

The past is the past, and so long as it stays in the past it's nothing to me. Although Shackleford makes a good point.

A guy like that is a Barlow Boy and thus not worth wasting your time on

Just a side note to the fuck stains correcting grammer and what not i would like to say fuck you as this is the interweb and not a classroom if a gave a flying fuck about my spelling punctuatio and or grammer id be having a conversation with real people. and here i thought the OP wanted opinions on the question i wasnt aware they wanted some OCD asshat to pick apart everyones reply

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the bitch with the bad grammer/puntuatio/spelling

I wouldn't care if she was just making out with them. However, if she was having sex with them or sucking them off, I would think she was a slut.

Id say as long as u dont have STDs and your vagina behaves as "low mileage", then you're golden.. although i wouldnt recommend being 100% honest.. Just dont get caught lying! else you're fuct.. U dont want to undermine trust.

It wouldn't be a problem. I am a young guy, and My opinion is.
I think it would be really hot to watch, and if there was more then making out involved. I think that would be even hotter

"Do as I say, not as I do."

Its simple,if 1 half of the coupie have that much of a problem with the others past,mis matched relationship,either that or build a bridge and get over it

I've made out with some random guys and once had an arrangement with one. I called him on week ends when I was feeling bored. Do I consider myself a bad girl for having a "boy's" sex life? Absolutely not. I'm happy that I have had so much fun. Would I be considered a slut by some? Surely but I really don't care.

Anyway here people are quite open-minded when it comes to sex.

I'm a female. My opinion, I probably wouldn't date a guy who's been around the block to much, it would just make me uncomfortable. I look for long term partners, not one night stands. Not to say that implies that he will be short term and unfaithful, but I'd rather not take that path. Some women could care less though. I've had few partners, and my own morals, so I'd like the guy I date to be relatively the same. I think it goes both ways

I would think that any relationship, whether past or present would be better than fair to middling.

Please do not use the Choctaw, "okeh" (it is).

Thank you.

How else would you gain experience?

That is why I tend to not bring up past sexual questions with any girl I'm with. It always seems to create problems. I only care about what we do, not her past.

It would be best to not tell your loved one about all of your past experiences. I see how you are trying to make it seem like a guy will, "call you out of your name" but it usually is not men. Women tend to know more about other women and start rumors about other women being a whore or slut. I can only speak for myself and the male friends in my circle, but we have never called a female a slut, whore, or bitch, out of respect. Now as for my female friends, the first thing they say about another girl who is with a couple dudes is that they are acting like sluts and prostitutes. I feel women have created their own double standard on this topic.

i am a girl. that being said ive only been with 3 men. this is not from lack of offers i guess im semi old fashond. im pagan so not a religious thing. my first was a man whore i was with him a year he was faithfull the whole time (abusive but faithfull) my second was a one niter with a freind the third was a virgin when i got to him was with him 2 years and he wasnt faithfull. statisticly speaking men who "had fun" before marraige are less likly to cheat where as women who have are more apt to cheat

Making out and actually having sex is completely different. If I knew that a girl simply kissed a lot of guys before then I wouldn't mind it at all. I would avoid trying to find that out though because if I did, I might find myself wondering if she compares me to other people. Either way, that is harmless. Now if a girl had sex a lot previously, then that would be problem. I haven't yet but if and when I do, it'll be once or at the most, twice, hopefully that 2nd time will be with the same person~ I don't find it attractive if I knew that she had sex over a dozen times before me though. With sex, you can't just say the past is the past and refuse to judge someone because unlike being a bad person and suddenly being good, having sex in the past means you could have caught something that you can now share and that isn't desirable. You can get something from just one trip, sure, but I'd trust a girl more if she only did it once or twice at the most.