Have you ever experienced the death of a loved one? how did you cope?

I have lost a lot of people to death.
The more depressing deaths are when someone dies early. I don't find it very sad when someone dies of old age because it means they lived a full life.

For me it has often taken months to fully grasp that they are not coming back. I tend to not react until much later and then will become depressed and angry, usually by the time most people start moving on. I seem to have a delayed reaction to negative events in life.

It's not always death itself that is the most depressing part, but how they died. Losing people to suicide, murder, horrible illness and random accidents is much more disturbing.

That's sad. My condolences. I think everyone here had experienced it. For some weird reason, I can't shed tears to those who passed away even though I loved that person so much. Then, after a few years, I started to cry and recall about that person deeply. It took so long.

I ave known to many deaths. Father, Mother, 2 Broters
1 Sister And so many friends I have lost count.
1 friend I saw at the bar in the am when I came back
later he was still laying in is truck. I thought he had
slept long enough. When I shook is leg it was in rig.
I was camping at the river I heard people yelling and running up and down the river looking for a friend. I joined in looking. I saw his white t-sirt under a dead tree that had fallen in the river. I dove in, it was hard
to get him loose. It was really hard to get him to shore.
he was dead at 18 yr's old and learned he could not swim
What I have learned is first you can't believe it. Then you do. Then I morn. But I think a lot of the morning is for myself. So in te end my loss outweighs thier death.How is that for being self centered.

I won the lottery. Seriously.

The most memorable death was my grandfather's, who was a military man. Needless to say I've learned much from him. He would always remind me people won't last, many times not as long as you would have liked them to. So in respect for the loving stoicism he nurtured within me, I never shed a tear over his death.

If you think about it, a death can be epitomized as the end of a film. You may have invested feelings or was bored of it. Nevertheless in the end, it sinks in...then you watch a new one...and the cycle continues.

Atleast you have popcorn.

before I was 20 I lost my father and sister , my mother had me in homes all my life and is an alcoholic pretty much now . I also lost friends and other family members but that family wasn't as close to me . I coped with a troubled life , drinking and friends in that lifestyle . I am a completely different person for the most part now and after picking up a lot of broken pieces from my heart and life am hoping to move forward into a life completely different from what I've previously known . I could write thousands of words here but this is a short version .

My aunt who I dearly loved passed away a decade ago and I still think of her very often. She died of cancer and suffered so much that I was somehow relieved when she left us. But I cried and cried because she was a wonderful person. The kind of person you meet once in a lifetime. It was hard to get over it. Very often I wish she was still here. Time is the greatest healer.

Grieving is a process, sometimes it takes years and sometimes it never is fully processed. Part of getting to play the game is agreeing to give up one day.

I would just remember those fond times you had with that person and do your best to not take for granted the important ones who are still with you.