He puts in so much effort to see me upset...but i don't know him. iin?

There's this guy at my university, who's been mean to me since the beginning of the school year. Since we're in the same faculty, we had a lot of classes in common, so there was not a day where we didn't see each other.

From the very start, he would try to upset me with every chance he got. This included: pointing at me (with a dirty look on his face) while whispering to his friend, talking bad about me to everyone around him (turning them against me), and shouting out rude things whenever I walked by, such as, "f-ing bitch!" and "she's f-ing retarded". However, he would never directly do anything to me.

But it wasn't just when we saw each other that he would think to pick on me. He went as far as finding out the time and location for one of my other classes, and got his friend (who has already taken the course) to attend the lectures, just so that his friend can bother me in the same way that he does.

I have talked to the campus security a few times, and at the moment, trying to decide if I should file a formal complaint. I see no end to his behavior, and feel like he takes it a step further each time, knowing that he has gotten away with everything up to that point.

I have never done anything to this guy, nor have I spoken a single word to him (and no, I'm not ugly). And because of this, I believe that he just sees me as an easy target, and is doing this for the fun of it. But is it normal for him to take things this far, just because he's one of those people who get enjoyment by making others upset?

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Comments ( 31 )
  • Sweetz

    Take it to court and scare the shit out of him

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  • emilydoll

    Sounds like a loser, think about it, what compells someone to do this?

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  • rayst

    Sure go file a complaint, you're in uni, not high school.

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  • He sounds like a total freaking nutjob or just a really nasty jerk. I'd of already told him to fuck off by now but file a complaint, go to the police. He has no right to terrorize and bully you like this.

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  • georgienne

    He's doing this BECAUSE you haven't said anything.
    If you haven't filed a complaint already, next time he comments you, walk on up and set him straight. Tell him you let him have his fun, now you're filing a complaint with the school (his response to this is irrelevant, even if he apologies or stops, file it). Tell him you'll also file a harassment case with the police, and do so.
    You've ignored this long enough, time to kick him.

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  • Ldizzy1234

    No, it's not normal. And even if you weren't that attractive, it still makes no sense for someone to act that way towards you. The guy has issues. Period. Maybe someone said to him that you said something about him, and now he's on a mission to take you down. Maybe he has mistaken you for someone else. Either way, it doesn't even matter. He shouldn't be doing what he's doing. Just ignore him. Go on with your life, and pretend that he's not even there. The more you react to it, showing that you actually care what he's doing is just boosting his ego. That's what he wants. He wants you to be bothered by it, he wants to see that you've noticed.

    If it gets worse, then take more action. Maybe confront him yourself, or get the cops involved. Make sure that he doesn't follow you anywhere. Don't let him know what kind of car you drive or anything. There's a lot of sicko's out there that would plot some weird shit out, just so they can move up with their reputation or something. I don't mean to scare you, but I would think of a gang member if I heard a story like this. Is he older then you? Nevermind, thats beside the point. Just always have your guard up, and see if you could walk with a friend around campus rather then being by yourself. People are fucking sick!

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    • Newerfucko

      nice

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  • Lil-wayne

    Tune him back maybe

    Tell him : " Save ur breath for ur blow-up doll later ... "

    Or

    " you know what they say about boys with a big mouth , They are small everywhere else ... "

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  • Duke

    Grow some lady balls and say somethin to this dude. Just don't let him do that shit to you. Where's your backbone? Show some pride. I do mean this in all respect.

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  • As soon as I read the title to this thread, I thought of /b/.

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  • Avant-Garde

    He sounds like a psycho and he won't stop until you do something about this. Make a complaint to the school and get the police involved and a restraining order!

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  • kit-kat-bar

    Formal Complaint!!!!

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  • Wolfgang_Amadeus_Mozart

    He's a damned bully, who enjoys causing harm to others for his own enjoyment. You should definitely report it somehow, or even stand up to him.

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  • walrus101

    maybe he has mental issues

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  • walrus101

    have you ever hurt anyone's feelings or done something that really pissed them off and 4got bout it? maybe that person knew him. but this guy is a douche.

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  • Subfinmatic

    Shove a shiv up his ass, that will make him stop. If he likes you he wouldn't do such mean things, I know some guys are like that but to actually go that far is ridiculous.

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  • FocoUS

    PUNCH HIM IN THE FACE

    you need to learn to quit taking shit

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  • Just1question

    You should slap this nigga cunts arsehole.

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  • whatifwedothis

    I thought people outgrew that kind of behaviour in middle school? Seems like I'm too much of an optimist about humanity. He's the ass, you're not.

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  • niles402

    True guys don't do things like that..I mean a little teasing is okay but this goes too far...Put him at his right place..It's really awkward for someone to do like this...Maybe you resemble to someone who has hurt him long ago..Even if it is the case that's not your problem...Set him straight.

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  • DannyKanes

    Do everything mentioned above, file the complaint, take a RO against him, you need to finish this before it gets way too crazy

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  • CuppycakeXD

    Fuck that guy > : |

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  • JoeSchmo

    He is a moronic loser. File a complaint! And stand up to that jackass, tell him you're sick of it and after the complaint is filed, let him know if it happens again you will take him to court for harrassment!

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  • Queeny

    Honestly if I were in your shoes I would have directly confronted him a long time ago. This is out of hand, finding out your schedule and getting his friends to harass you? Seriously, what guy does that to a female? Or what person does that to another person period? I would approach him and ask him does he have a problem with me. If he says his problem then it can be discussed and hopefully solved from there. If he takes the immature route (which is more expected from him) and refuses to tell you or wants to play stupid, tell him everything you just listed. If he still wants to act like an ass, I would simply say "ok, you want to play games? Consider yourself reported, and from here on out I will report anything else you try with me. Keep messing with me, I dare you." If you show him you have "balls" and won't take anymore of his crap, he might back down. Its seems to me he keeps targeting you because you have been so passive of his behavior and have continued to let him get away with it.

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  • Faceless

    Stab him with a swiss army knife. Day saved, im going on break.

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  • overweightdoomsayer

    Watch"Kill Bill" and go black mamba on him.Fuck the asswipe!

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  • coldharbour

    next time he does that, report to school and also the police department...
    they usually have a separate wing for ladies and harrasment issues. lodge a official complaint there, and also to the school authorities. tell the school ppl, if they dont take action, the police will...
    and tell this guy straight the next time you meet him, it's enough, stop it, and if he doesn't , then slap him, and tell it some good guys you know, who will set him right...
    This is not good, i think the boy has issues, maybe like a bad childhood, or something silly, whatever, it has to stop.....

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  • Lil-wayne

    There could be various causes why some ppl act this way
    Jealousy
    Wana boost his self esteem
    Same thng happend to him
    Only way he gets friends
    Family problems

    Maybe find out what's his background and take it from there

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  • Yaunie13

    Ask him if he likes you. I'm serious. Just make sure it's in a fairly empty place because it seems like he's trying to show off for his friends. Putting him in that situation will most likely make him come clean. If he says he doesn't like you, then ask him why he doesn't like you. Don't leave until you have a resonable response.

    GL

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  • TyLee

    I would go up to him and say hey do you have a problem with me? I get the feeling that you dislike me. This same situation happened to me once. I started a new job and all of the guys were hitting on me and stuff except this one guy who was really really mean to me. So one day when he was outside I just said hey what's your problem with me? Why don't you like me? And he said what are you talking about? I don't have a problem with you. He said I'm sorry I can't talk now but give me your number we can talk later. Eventually we began dating... One night I said remember when we met it seemed like you hated me. He revealed to me that it was all just a plan. He needed something to set himself apart from the other guys after me so he was basically playing hard to get in a sense. He said he planned it all out and his plan worked. So maybe this guy really likes you!!! Who knows! Guys are crazy! Just looking at it from a different point of view. Good luck!

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  • aoi2108

    Try asking him directly what it is that he doesn't like about you. It might be something you're not aware of. In any case I don't think that's normal and you definitely shouldn't let it go on.

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