How did you learn to stop caring about what other people think?

one day realized was not getting younger and that in due time I would die, and there are many things I have not done. one of them was being myself, who I really am. I was always so concerned to do what and be what others thought I should be. thats when I knew if I was ever going to be me, it had to happen. and I made it happen, so much more happy now

I was very insecure around age 16 so I started buying bizarre clothes and wearing them to college, I quickly realised that hardly anyone actually cared what I was doing. Even when I had purple hair I got 2 comments on it and that was it, people don’t care nearly as much as you think they do. I’m only the main character of my own life, everyone else sees me as a supporting role or background extra.

I still struggle with comparison, I just tell myself that wherever they are I’ll get there eventually. I give myself permission to enjoy the ride.

For that I say there’s a balance. I once read a quote that said
“What other people think of you is none of your business” which is great in theory but there are industries in which both personal and public reputation is integral, so to a certain extent you need to care. I think it’s important to like yourself first, though. Self acceptance gives great resolve. There’s an old African proverb that goes “if there’s no enemy within, the enemies outside can do us no harm”

Learning to stop caring though? The actual process of that I think first starts by learning not to take things personally. There’s a great article here that goes into that

https://daringtolivefully.com/stop-taking-things-personally

It just depends on how mentally strong you are.

No. I still give a shit about what people think of me especially those who are closed to me. Being positive for yourself is very hard unless it’s positive for catching that damn coronavirus.

Well when I compare myself to others I remember that I'm the best so I keep on remembering that.

I'm an old man. I don't have the energy to give a flying fuck about the feelings of some random across the world.

I didn't, I just learned to care differently.
I don't stop comparing myself to others since that's part of my drive to improve.
Whenever I feel insecure, I just remember that me feeling insecure is the main thing making me feel insecure. It's almost never coming from outside.

Be the best version of yourself so there's no room for others to interject their opinion of your life.

Yeah like most people say it just comes naturally in time.

I told myself that what people think doesn't have an impact on my life.

Stopped giving a shit when I got out of highschool. Didnt get the confidence for that until i went through the navy though.

Nothing specific, it came with age and experiences with people. Some people are good, some people are meh, and some are bad. All the people I have met and interacted with gave me a bit of wisdom on this thing called life.

Being an autistic sociopath helped me with that.

I feel like almost everyone I meet I could just smoke them in 20 seconds with my bare hands. Makes me not worry if they disrespect me because I can escalate it if I want to.

I haven't yet but I care less each year. Try to think of people you want to emulate I'll bet they are not bothered by what others think.
Only some people's opinions matter most for not

A good place to start is to remember that most people are too worried about themselves to care about you. Even those who straight up bully others usually do it because they hate themselves and project their insecurities onto you.

A great question. I thunk you have to truly appreciate your uniqueness first. Then you won’t care ask much about others opinion of you.

A combination of inherited personality disorder and good old brain damage lol.

But in all seriousness.....probably that.