How do deal with an unorganized friend?

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I have a friend that I truly appreciate, and he’s quite intelligent, but almost unbelievable unorganized.

Whenever we hang out with a group of friends, he always needs a ride. And he shows his appreciation of this favor by nearly always being 10-15 minutes late...or more.

To make up for this burden, he almost always forgets his wallet.

I think he has bad aniexty and never knows how to prioritize, which I’m sure this why is forgetful. But how do you help this person?

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    I have a friend who shows up 2 hours late most of the time.

    I got used to it and ask him to come 2 hours before I want him to actually come.

    2 hours is an exaggeration.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    Go without him a few times if he's late and check he has his wallet with him with money in it before you go anywhere with him. He's using you and his other friends: why are you letting him? He sounds VERY organised to me, organised to rip off his friends

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      The only reason why I disagree that his actions are intentionally is that he seems too stressed to know how to prioritize. His mother is overwhelmingly protective and I think this may have caused permanent damage. You could be right though.

      It's almost painful to get him to decide to do anything, he nearly always considers every pro and con before we make a decision.

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  • megadriver
    5 years ago

    He sounds like a slacker that rips you off. Conveniently forgetting his wallet. Also being late is just lame.

    Talk to him. Tell him to be on time.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    He's using you. Showing up 20 minutes late for a ride and "forgetting" his wallet. Wait 5 minutes then leave. If he shows up ask if he has his wallet this time. If he doesn't then tell him next time remember your wallet. If he is already in the car at this point just tell him to get out. Get tough and don't be such a sucker.

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    If you're willing to tolerate his annoying habits, then continue hanging with him. If his chaotic approach to life is starting to cause you stress, then tell him he's free to behave however he wants, but you're not willing to continue acting as his substitute Mommy.

    Lay down some ground rules, and stick to them. If you agree that you'll pick him up at a certain time and he's not ready when you arrive, leave without him. If he doesn't have his wallet, then refuse to loan him money.

    If he's as bright as you say, he'll be able to figure out ways of starting to act like an adult.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Maybe ask him if he has wallet as soon as he gets in the car? Text him that you’re at his house several minutes earlier?

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  • howaminotmyself
    5 years ago

    You accept them despite onvious flaws. Learn from behavior and expect him to be late. If the wallet thing gets to be too much, tell him. Remind him. Check in with him.

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