How do i let them be okay with dating?

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Okay, here goes. I'm an 18 year old living with my kinda strict parents who are against dating..like, "if you do any such thing we'll stop sending you to college" level against it. I'm an only child who lives 10 mins away from my college..so there's no living away from them. They refuse to even talk about dating and get pissed when I try to discuss it. Any of my friends who has a boyfriend is a "bad influence". Don't get me wrong, I am very grateful for everything my parents have done for me and I love them to death. But I feel like I should be free to date at this age. They're overprotective (probably because I'm their only kid) to the point that I feel suffocated. They've given me everything except the freedom that I should be having by now. I used to think it was normal until I got to college and realized otherwise. My friends were shocked when they realized how restrictive my parents are. Seeing other people my age going out with friends like it's no big deal makes me jealous and resentful. I do not want to go behind my parents' backs as I would be betraying their trust by doing that. But I do want to start dating. What do I do?

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  • jethro
    5 years ago

    Well You could enlist in the military and start your own life. At least you could use the veterans' benefits and go to college either after serving or while you are serving. Or you could get a job and move out. You could use the education reimbursement that most companies offer and get your college education that way. But I seriously doubt that it will get better even after you complete college.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Your parents ain't shit. Do it and hide it from them.

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    Save up to move out. Once you have enough saved then start dating, while still living there. If they kick you out, at least you are prepared. I think if you let them meet the guys, and do it right, then they will probably let it go.

    If you sneak around and date randoms prepare for the worst.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    Have you asked them why they're so against you dating? If so, what are their reasons?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I have..they refuse to give an explanation.

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      • Ellenna
        5 years ago

        If they don't respect you enough to give you an explanation then I can't think of anything you can do about it except go behind their backs. The problem will be solved with time but right now it must be crap for you.

        Are there any reasonable adults you could talk to and maybe get them to speak to your parents?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          None that I can think of.. at least I don't know whether they'll be reasonable or whether they'll end up ratting out on me..I have a conservative family. I'm in a soup, lol. I just wish my parents were okay with this.

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