How do you cope when really bad things keep happening?

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I'm a generally strong and resilient person, but it's hard to keep my head up and keep moving forward when things keep falling apart back-to-back. I keep thinking, "this has got to end at some point", but I guess life sees that as "challenge accepted!" The hardest part is that much of this consists of things that are tragic and out of my control, like illness and death of loved ones. I've lost a family member, have had to euthanize two beloved pets, and am very likely about to lose another family member very recently after the last. The hardest part is seeing them suffer, plus the effect it has on my other loved ones. After so much of it in a short amount of time, it is so numbing.

How do you cope when life is throwing some HUGE lemons and there is no end in sight?

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  • LornaMae
    2 years ago

    Awww, first of all, I'm so sorry, that really is a lot do handle. You keep going and give yourself a "self-five" at every single obstacle you overcome. I hope things start looking up soon. ♡

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    • bbrown95
      2 years ago

      Thank you so much, it means a lot.

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  • kelili
    2 years ago

    I quit my job in December. Lost my cousin in January in a road accident, a cousin who lived with us like a brother. Some days before the accident we were partying together.
    Then in March I had to finish a 10years relationship. With no job and went to live in real small house. I remember eating biscuits and water for dinner but this was because I was too proud to ask for help.
    In August I lost my dad. I didn't expect this to happen so suddenly. Three of my sisters live abroad and could not come because of the restrictions on travel. Some days later I had to sit through exams. I'm doing an LLB.
    You know how I went through it? I just managed to stay alive. Hurt does not go if you're not willing to acknowledge and sit with it. It still hurts and when it does I allow myself to be sad. The pain never goes and at the most unexpected time it hits real hard but you learn to live with it. Pain is the price we pay for loving so much. It gets better, I promise.

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    • bbrown95
      2 years ago

      I'm so sorry for your losses, and thank you very much for the advice!

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  • jrbsportz
    2 years ago

    First sorry for your lost! Second keep your head up it might be rain negative crap today but tomorrow could be a positive sunny day.our love one are gone but we still have those memories with us,use that to keep moving forward.just saying

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    • bbrown95
      2 years ago

      Thank you so much, that's a good way to look at it!

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  • LloydAsher
    2 years ago

    Not completely true. Yes while the fine details are abundant just knowing the factions vaguely is enough to get the gist of at least what's going on.

    My favorite is the astra militarum. Ogryns are my favorite.

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  • LloydAsher
    2 years ago

    Honestly I like to invest in learning about a fictional universe where it's worse to live in vs ours.

    40k is always a great resource for that. Noting puts your sad problems into an arbitrary perspective like reading how shitty it is to like in the 41st millennium. It's not real of course but it's a coping mechanism none the less..

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    • bbrown95
      2 years ago

      Thank you, I do try to remind myself that there are others who have it much worse (and I personally know of a family who has dealt with much more than I have this year). I'm sure a universe where things are way worse would definitely help put things into perspective!

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    I try to pray a lot, and then when I feel like giving up I just keep on praying some more. I also have sessions with a therapist every two weeks, and I used to attend CoDA meetings quite regularly as well.

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    • bbrown95
      2 years ago

      Thank you, the praying part has been hard, but I'm trying to keep doing it!

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      • RoseIsabella
        2 years ago

        I have a friend that I pray with nearly everyday. We call each other up, and take turns leading each other in prayer, it's a real blessing in my life!

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        • bbrown95
          2 years ago

          That sounds like a great idea, and great support!

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          • RoseIsabella
            2 years ago

            Thanks, it certainly helps me.

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            • bbrown95
              2 years ago

              I'm glad! It is definitely something I'd like to try as well.

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  • bbrown95
    2 years ago

    Thank you very much, this is very helpful!

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