How do you explain to someone they are cuasing you to relive trauma?

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People are wierdly pushy about sex. Everyone has to have sex, think about sex, talk about sex none stop. If say you openly do not mind others speaking openly but do not wish to engage people call you wierd. I have a history of being forced into sexual acts in the past as well as in general having my bounderies violated by my parents who basically saw me as property, physically abused me and would take my money and hide my things from me until I left at 19. So I tend to dress and behave in a manner where I am proffesional but wont stand out. But this ends in some assuming im queer/orprudish and trying to get me laid and I just not sure how to tell them to stop in a way they get. Since me not accepting the sex thats forced on me is unacceptable and I not sure why no is never an okay awnser. Its gotten to the piont where I started having panick attacks and I am overly jumpy when someone gets too close to me. On a few occasions I explained why I needed them to drop the subject by explaining my history and they tried finding a psychatrist. When in reality they could have just stopped harrasing me about the subject.

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  • Tommythecaty
    1 year ago

    It depends weather this is people you are involved with, something like that. Or if it’s just a random person in public that’s triggering you. Randoms are just going to say what they’re going to say, if it effects you just leave their vicinity.

    I remember somebody interrupting me in public once, angrily saying my conversation was causing them to relive trauma. Trying to guilt trip me instead of fucking off away from my conversation.

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  • RoseIsabella
    1 year ago

    You don't need to explain to them that they are causing you to relive trauma, because for all we know they are perpetrators. You need to be able to set boundaries with people, and learn to enforce those boundaries when necessary. If someone cannot respect your boundaries they are not worthy of your company!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      1 year ago

      Okay, but sometimes you can not just cut pwople off. So what do you do when its people you have to interact with?

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      • Iambillythemenacetosociety
        1 year ago

        Say something smart.

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      • RoseIsabella
        1 year ago

        Well, for starter's I suggest seeing a mental health professional. I think you should research, and read books on setting boundaries, and recovering from codependency.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          1 year ago

          Well people do not listen so I tend to deal with things in a covert way. I just minupulate situations so I can avoid people or issues. Which also means my communication skills are usually very poor.

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          • RoseIsabella
            1 year ago

            Sounds like you usually end up doing the codependent dance with these people. Communication is also a very important skill.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              1 year ago

              How is that codependent? I thought I was being aviodent. Is thete books on communication?

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    • Joey_1977
      1 year ago

      What are your thoughts on spanking? Rose

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      • RoseIsabella
        1 year ago

        I think I don't appreciate your out of context interruption. 🧐

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        • Iambillythemenacetosociety
          1 year ago

          Relax, Rose.

          It's just another braindead troll fetishist?

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          • RoseIsabella
            1 year ago

            No, it's probably the creep who used to harass, and stalk me a few years ago. I just don't appreciate weirdos popping up trying to bother me with creepy, stupid off topic, vaguely sexual bullshit when I'm trying to talk to other people about the actual post!

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            • Iambillythemenacetosociety
              1 year ago

              Stalked you?

              Cheer up, Rose. You should be flattered. He must be really obsessed with you to have stalked you and and still have this obsession with you a few years later. It shows that you are special.

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