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Girls mainly, when the flames have become more like sparks, after the first year or two what do you do to spice it back up.
I've had suggestions of role playing, flashing, public acts, date nights and adding people. With the pandemic and I don't won't to add a person some things are out.
Any suggestions?
New lingerie, I'm trying also just dressing different has help a little. Wearing things more like date clothes even around the house for both of us, rather than the grunngie lay around the house stuff.
I'm not wearing spikes around the house but I did find a couple pairs of comfortable wedges. Shorter and tighter shorts as well as a couple short dresses that are comfortable as well as kind of flirty.
I was more talking about things outside the bedroom to make us want to go to the bedroom. Right now when we go out to a movie or eat we go to watch the movie or eat. There was a time we watched each other more. the movie or food was just a reason to be together. Once we get to the bedroom it's mostly good, sometimes it seems like a chore. Like, let's get this done so I can go to sleep. As far as those of you fixated on anal, well we're both open to anal and have played that way but we both have more of a oral fixation. Both giving and receiving. So try the butt plug with chili sauce up your own butt.
Thanks for the replies though.
Weirdguy is right, its different for everyone, but Try being a little more spontaneous, new lingerie ( does nothing for me but a lot of guys like it) toys, porn nights.
There are so many safe things to try but its all about communication, find out what the other feels is missing, don't put yourself under pressure to fix tbis, it takes 2