How do you tell if someone isn't into getting married?

What are their personality traits to tell this?

Not someone you're dating but a close friend. When bringing up marriage they say they don't think about it right now and it would be nice to be married but they don't ever elaborate.

Basically I really like them, they're my best friend and I'm female they're male. He definitely likes me but he isn't the type of person to think about the future ever. Right now he wants to travel and focus on getting promoted at his company.

But he does these things:

-Hugs me often
-Tells me I'm beautiful and stares at me
-Sometimes holds my hand randomly in public
-Calls me "cutie" and "jellybean"
-Invites me as his date to work events when he gets to do plus one
-Tucks me in when I accidentally fall asleep on his couch/makes me breakfast
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He's not a player and doesn't do this with anyone else. He's also nerdy and more introverted. But whenever I say we should get married someday half joking he doesn't respond. And when asked about marriage he says he is thinking about now not the future..

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  • darefu

    Ask him to go shopping with you, stop at a jewelry store and look at rings. You'll find out pretty quick where he stands on the idea.

    He might be like a puppy on a leash that just saw something to chase and jerk your arm off. If he stays next to you and starts looking or seem interested in what you like, there may be something there, may be a while down the road but maybe! If he starts making comments like; I'm not ready yet, or something negative you just respond with who said I was looking for me and you. Leave it there don't argue just cut the conversation and let him think about all that could mean.

    If it works it will at least open up a more serious discussion within the next few days. Be sure you want to go this way though, it could push him away or you could get a proposal, are you ready?

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    I got married pretty young. I think at 23 or 24 I cant remember. But we had lived with eachother since 17 and it was likewe were married already because we had the same bank account and all that good shit.

    I think moving is was a important step to getting married. If yall live with eachother for long enough eventually he will be more likely to just go ahead with it. But if you arent living together theres no point.

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    • Michael1991

      Well said

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  • SkullsNRoses

    He likes you and enjoys flirting with you but doesn’t see you as his future wife.

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