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I have to clarify here that when i say friends, i don't mean all the persons someone has a talk or passes his time with, nor the "friends" someone had on facebook and other similar sites, which are not friends at all. When i say friends i reffer to the persons that you love and love you selflessly, are happy with your happiness and certainly will be with you durring the most difficult times.
| zero | 12 | |
| one | 6 | |
| two | 14 | |
| three | 6 | |
| four | 3 | |
| more than four | 9 |
Well this sure makes me feel popular. I know a few hundred people I consider friends, but as far as close friends, about 20-30.
Then you have absolutely NO IDEA what the word friend means. I dought there ever was a person that had more than 10 persons loving him selflesly (family members included). You confuse friends with fans. Friends are not the persons that "like" you because you give them free drinks or cinema tickets. Those pretend tolove you, make you feel perfect, and then just disapear in the first twist of events. REAL friends are not there to make you feel "popular", they are there to show you who you realy are, become your mirror. They are there to show you what you did wrong, and help you start again rebuilding from scratch. They are part of your life, your memories, part of who you are. Trust me i made the same mistake as you, i thought that everyone was thinking like me, that everyone had the same pure intentions as me.....well i guess thats how life works, we make mistakes, we suffer from them and we come back stronger and smarter. Now i know that in my whole life i had only 1 FRIEND, and in this hatefull and disgusting hellhole you call society, i thank god everyday for being that blessed, because i know most people are not even that lucky (and like you they are unaware of it!). Of course there are a lot of people out there that "like" me. My reply to them is always the same. I know the "fake smile" game pretty well by now.....
And one more thing that indicates how unaware you are about the true meaning of friendship. Suposingly you had that much friend (if it was possible anyway). If you had REAL friends then how come you wouldn't know how many do you have exactly. Every friend is a new world, a whole bunch of endless oportunities to explore for the world and even yourself, how it is possible not knowing if you have 22 or 27 or 30 friends and just say they are between 20-30. Is this how important your friends are for you? This like asking a mother how many children she has and her answering about 2-5......
I don't hold people in as high of standards and expectations as you do. I realize people are flawed and do not expect perfection from others to consider them a friend.
No normal person expects perfection, perfection is something totally unreachable and practically meaningless in this universe. Whats the point of being perfect since the meaning in life (one meaning in life) is becoming better. And that shows the true importance of friendship! Friends are there to show you who you realy are, and help, no matter how low you will fall, rebuilt yourself again from scratch. In a perfect world we wouldn't need friends, since we would have achieved the hiest potential of our self, we would be lone gods, so meaningless now that i think of it.... And seriously what "high standars" is supposed to mean. If you are not surounded by people that trully love you, whats the point of loosing time with all the jerk that are out there. I don't get it at all. I honestly prefer being completely alone (and there where times i was) than loosing my times with hypocrits. I mean i would still be alone, and besides i can love myself better than they ever will. And i was always completely aware that the risk of that decition was being alone my entire life, but i was ok with it. But you see if you try hard enough love comes to you eventually, in any form and by any way. And lisen and one more thing. I remember the time when i was like you, when i had so many "friends". And the so beautiful day i said "THAT'S ENOUGH!" and started kicking all of those scumbags out of my life. And i don't pretend i wasn't scared when i did so, i was as scared as hell, but after that i felt so relieved and pure, and i decided that so on my life and i will always be like that!!! Anyway i'm getting of topic. The reason i'm telling you this that the only one i kept, the only one that i chose to acompany for the rest of my life, was the one i had the smallest expectations of when i met him. The most simple of them, with many flaws (like all of us) but with pure heart. And all those pretentious and so amazing figures, where all made of thin gass. So i took one more lesson by that, and from then, i swear i'm so sick and disgused of heroes, saviors and perfect characters. You are wrong, there are many people in this life that look "perfect", those are just the ones you should never name friends.The only thing i would ever ask from anyone is true love, anything else can be fixed one way or another! And one question, seriously how old are you? because my little brother is already understanding how the world works much better than you seem to do. He's 12 by the way.....
I'm 31 and I'm satisfied with the people I know. I would never want to get rid of any of them. Some of my friends can piss me off at times, but that's part of life. I would be very bored without daily social interaction with lots of people.
I will stop talking to you since it's pointless and we don't get anywhere. But i will only tell you this: You are probably very wealthy (only a person from a rich family could be that naive and ignorant about how life works) and thats why so many people prettend to love you. But if you ever have a setback in your life then you'll trully understand what the word FRIEND means, and that you probably never had one. Or you will live your entire life surounded by people that don't give a fuck about you (and to be honest you don't seem to give a fuck about them "i have 20-30 friends") wich is even more pathetic. At least in the first case you'll get a lesson. In the street that i grew up and my brothers are now growing up no one used to care about our lives and i never had enough money to brag about it, or to "pay" people with "happy" moments in fancy restaurants and cinemas so as they had to pretend to be my friends. And i'm very proud of myshelf and my mother that grew me up with such difficulty and still focused on trying to make me see the true qualities in life and the importance of being a good person. And i'm also very proud of my brothers that they don't become asholes (well......most of the time at least :P). I honestly can't make out with the gibberish you are trying to say: "daily social interaction" what's that supposed to mean. We all know tons of people in our lives that happens to interact with, this doesn't mean they are our friends. You can screw a million women (or men) in your life but only one becomes your wife. And in the darkest moment none of the prostitudes will be there to stand you, but she will! Oh God, i'm so blessed i wasn't born in a rich family..... ;)