How should i deal with my friend?

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I had a high school friend who would send a text with a variation of good morning to me every morning. I'm pretty chill and he's my friend, so I just tried to respond good morning in return.

Fast forward a year and I have a falling out with him the summer before college. In total, it was centered around his habit of crossing the line of friendship too many times with romantic comments that made me uncomfortable. I told him.. we try to make up.. blah blah.. I head off to college.

If friendship was a rope, he's been sticking his heels in the sand pulling it and I've gone from gently holding the rope to letting it fall more consistently, just to reach down and pick it up again only because I feel the obligation to do so.

Our daily texts lost their grit, bubbled down to just the good mornings. Since college began, I decided it's a good time to let go and end this. I haven't responded to a good morning text since. It's been 2 weeks and he has sent a good morning text everyday without a reply from me.

I know his behavior is not normal, but it's driving me crazy with a mix of emotions: anger, exasperation and sadness. I have and will always care about him. What is the best thing for me to do?

Start responding good morning 3
Write him a paragraph on how I feel and try to find midground 11
Tell him to "Please stop it", then continue to ignore his texts 6
Block his number 6
Keep ignoring his texts 2
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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    The mature thing would be to be honest and tell this person your done and moving on. Give them some closure so they can move on as well.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    7 years ago

    He's in love with you. That should have been apparent since the time he started texting you every morning. I mean, I have good friends, but if they texted me just to say good morning, I'd know what's going on. So while you might have thought it to be innocent, from his perspective you've been leading him on for a year.
    I don't know how far this "falling out" went, but have you told him straight and clear you're not romantically interested? He needs to understand you don't share his feelings. Even if it hurts both of you. Those things have to be adressed so you can both move on with your lifes.

    And if he still doesen't accept it it's time to block him.
    Damn, it's brutal just to write this, I can't imagine how it must be for you.

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    • TrustMeImLying
      7 years ago

      "but if they texted me just to say good morning, I'd know what's going on."

      That's ridiculous. Over the years I have texted female friends a good morning and I wasn't in love with them. I agree that when someone does it everyday for 2 weeks there's certainly something up. But when you get told how much a morning text brightens someone's day, you don't really need an ulterior motive to do it.

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      • AbnormallyAwesome
        7 years ago

        Maybe it's a cultural thing.
        It seemed strange to me. But you're probably right.

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  • Zibi
    7 years ago

    Hi

    I just finished talking to him about the both of us moving on and as far as I could tell, he took it well.

    Thank you mysistersshadow and AbnormallyAwesome for both your advice to speak to him. It's definitely scary to do that sometimes, but it's the right thing to do.

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    • AbnormallyAwesome
      7 years ago

      That's great :)
      Glad to hear it.

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