How should i deal with my mother's impending death?

My mother is very sick. She's an extremely sweet and kind woman, whom I love with all my heart and soul. Her death will be utterly devastating. How should I deal with my mother's impending death?

Please, please help me. I'm beyond desperate...

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  • MonteMetcalfe

    I lost my mother 3 years ago.

    Take it all one day at a time. Focus on what you need to do to get through today. Tomorrow do the same. As Charli.m said, find support. If you feel like breaking down & sobbing, do it. Let it out.

    It's a very painful time. But there will be a day when you realize you're not crying so often and thinking of your mom makes you happy instead of sad.

    I wish you well

    PS- Don't forget to tell your mom you love her & are grateful for all she's done for you.

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  • charli.m

    I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how distressing this is for you.

    Grief support groups, in person or online, would be a good start. If you have access to counselling, then that can be a great support.

    I can understand that your focus is probably completely on your mother right now, but do remember to take care of yourself, too. If you have friends and family around, then do lean on them for support, whether that be emotionally, mentally or practically.

    Grieving is a painful process...and it can start long before the loved one dies. If you're at all able to set up support systems for yourself now, please do it.

    I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

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  • SudoHalt

    My mother passed away 9 months ago.

    Take your time, think it through, and do not indulge in keeping posting about her on social media. If you are to vent out about it, keep it in real life. Either yourself alone or with a friend. But never on social media.

    Letting it out on social media wouldn't help you. Because you'd be asking for sympathy and not giving yourself enough time to understand what she means to you.

    I hope you find patience at this most pressing time. Yet I more hope so that she miraculously recovers.

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  • LloydAsher

    Not to sound cold hearted or anything but at least you have some foresight into an impending death of a loved one. Gives you time to prepare and grieve. It's much better than getting a sudden call about an unfortunate accident.

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    • BLAh81

      Not to sound cold-hearted? Well, you 100% fucking DO. Whether or not you have some foresgight into the impending death of a loved one may indeed make some difference, but it's STILL fucking painful. Besides, the question was: "How should i deal with my mother's impending death?" You have offered NO answer or shown ANY empathy.

      Goddamn piece of shit...

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      • LloydAsher

        Knowing that its coming is a minor relief.

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        • BLAh81

          Yes, a MINOR relief. And, like I said, the question was: "How should i deal with my mother's impending death?" You have offered NO answer or shown ANY empathy. That's really fucked up.

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          • LloydAsher

            I wasnt answering that question I was answering by saying that it could be worse and having the bad news come out of nowhere. At least now you have time to prepare for it, say goodbye. Perhaps I'm different but I perfer to see things coming even if its bad news.

            Everyone is different when it comes to expressing grief, personal examples arent going to enlighten how the OP will deal with it. Now with the time the OP has time to process the incoming change in life.

            By posting something to put my two cents into the discussion is how I express condolences. I didnt have to take the few minutes to write something that at least tries to paint a silver lining to the obviously devastating situation.

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