How will you react if your friend is depressed?

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hello everyone, I wanted to ask about your opinion on depression and mental illness. I've always felt some type of pain or numbness and thought about suicide from time to time (I’ve never been to a doctor so I don’t want to self diagnose myself with anything). Recently I’ve been feeling worse and I’m in a dark place. I want to speak to my friends and family but I don’t want to be a nuisance. I know these conversations are heavy and I would rather not burden people with myself but I need to speak to someone. I can’t go to a therapist because I don’t have a lot of money right now. My question is if your friend told you that they don’t feel good mentally how would you react? Will you see them as less of a person? Or too damaged and too much to handle?

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    You are not less of a person because you are depressed. You are not weak, or a burden, or any less deserving of happiness. If your friends are true, they will tell you the exact same thing. Don't be afraid to reach out to them. Don't ever be embarrassed. It takes a hell of a brave person to ask for help.

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  • Wellyoudliketoknoweh
    4 years ago

    It is okay and there is nothing to be ashamed of. What you’re feeling is real and the best would be to talk to somebody soon because the worse it gets the more difficult it can be to get out. Some people may not understand but I certainly don’t know the people around you so I can’t tell...but please do! It’s a very scary thing to do and talk about it the first time, don’t stop when you hit a wall please. One will understand

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  • UselessTrash2
    4 years ago

    I wouldn't see them as less of a person, but as someone with a bunch of issues myself, I'd probably ghost them. Yea it's really shitty to do and I almost always regret doing it, but I can't even deal with myself so there's no way I can help someone else.

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  • Grunewald
    4 years ago

    It depends on how the friend manages their condition. If they looked to me as their saviour and the sole answer to their problems, that would be a burden. But if they sought help from people who could actually help, and let me be there for them as well in specific ways that didn't overwhelm me, that would be totally fine. It is a privilege to be a part of someone's journey.

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  • bbrown95
    4 years ago

    No, I would never see them as less of a person or too damaged, or too much to handle. I would do everything I could to help them. My family and friends mean the world to me and I would want them to reach out to me if they needed help. I would be devastated if they felt they couldn't or that they thought I'd think less of them for it, and especially if they hurt themselves because of it. Your friends and family should care about you and want to help you, I doubt they will think anything negative about you as a person and will only want to help.

    I've gone through very similar things to what you're describing. Hang in there, don't be afraid to reach out, and if you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me. I might not get it right away, but I'll respond when I do!

    I wish you the best of luck!

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Try to help them and figure out whats up.

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  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    I wouldn't think any worse of them. I would give them space though and be there for them if they asked.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Get a lot more exercise, make sure you get as much sun as possible, go for long walks in a park or some shit

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