Husband must smoke weed

You married a piece of shit

i think you should leave him. you be better off and happier with out this person. he is treating you badly and no1 deserves that.

I have a similar situation. My boyfriend had been smoking since before I met him, and I tried to get him to stop. He tried REALLY hard, but always ended up smoking because he said "it calmed him down". I thought it was just an excuse, since I had been in another relationship like that before until I saw him a day when he knew he had no money for weed, and he was crying and shaking and talking about dying and stuff! Weed apparently DOES chill him out enough to be functional. I mean, since I fell in love with him when he was high it is only normal that I do not like the sober one as much. We figured something out though- he always has weed on him so he doesn't have to worry about waiting for someone to smoke him up, which gives him more time with me. Maybe you and your husband should find a balance too.

Everyone is claiming drug addiction, which would be fine. But, if he was sweet while he was taking Prozac & angry & mean when he ran out... people would be singing a different tune. Prozac, as with any man-made drugs, are worse for you than marijuana. Marijuana is considered a medication, and a natural medication. It helps with so many different disorders, from ADD to chronic pain to anxiety &, yes, anger disorders. If you currently live in a State where marijuana has been legalized (medically or completely), or even just decriminalized, then the answer to the problem would be to get him his medication. If you have a medical marijuana card, then you can grow your own plants. Up to a certain number depending on which State you are in. It would be so much worse to get him on medicines from Big Pharma. So he gets angry if he doesn't have weed. My husband does the same thing. (Hence, why I am here). But, he refuses to keep a constant stock of it for some reason. That is my only problem with it. We live in Hawaii & if you have your MM card, you can grow 7 plants. And you can grow for other people (as long as you keep their cards with you) up to 21 plants per house. My hubby & I are both qualified to have our cards. I am disabled with a permanent back injury (worst disc injury ever, in medical history), nerve damage, muscle spasms, Fibromyalgia & more. And him for a serious knee injury &, obviously, some kind of severe anger disorder (which was present since he was a child, long before he ever smoked marijuana). We have seeds, but he won't grow! I am usually the one who gets it for him & I don't even smoke it! (Even though it works very well for all of my problems, I hate the way it makes me feel). Anyway, I would rather my hubby have weed as his medicine rather than Prozac. If someone misses a day of Prozac, they won't just get angry & flip out, they can completely black out and harm themselves & others. Many people have committed suicide just for being on Prozac, and especially when they miss a dose. That's how much Big Pharma cares. And the fact that so many people acted as if marijuana is bad & he should get treatment, shows that you are all oblivious to the truth. Any argument why pot is bad, can be refuted. Especially the "gateway drug" bull. The only reason it becomes a gateway drug is because where (& when) it is (was) illegal, you had to go to a drug dealer to buy it. Many of those dealers also deal other drugs. If marijuana was legal everywhere (like tobacco & alcohol- which are two of the WORST drugs out there), people would probably never come across "other" drugs. I came here to see if anyone gave any good advice. I just see ignorance, mostly.

I hope this will help someone even though this post is 3 years old. My husband smoked marjuana for 15 years and recently quit using an herbal product called stress j. It was not easy but made it posible for him to handle withdrawals. I found this at a local herb shop. Of course anytime you start medication , even herbal supplements you should check with a doctor. He took 4 tablets 3to 4 times a day. This has been a lifesaver for us.

He sounds abusive, just like an alcoholic. Leave him. If he can't treat you right sober he doesn't deserve you.

Personally pot doesn't effect all the people I know THAT bad. He sounds like he has some issues.

ok so kind of the same problem but im a little deeper, we have been togeather for almost 9 years have two kids two dogs and completely established...mainly because of me though...he usually has enough pot on him to keep him high throughout the day, but he must stay high all day lond and that doesnt always happen, so as his high comes down or when he runs out at night or completley a couple days a week sometimes,,,, life is a mess, everything in my fauly he will treat me like crap saying things like shut th F**k up, i dont need you, i hate this house!, i worry about him breaking stuff, like if he is by my labtop i could do as little as say can you take the trash out and if he gets mad i just shut up because im worried he will break my laptop, he will leave for hours and hang out with low life friends, completely cut into me with the meanest things like shut your uncomfortable built ass up (by the way im not even fat im just a thick chick)..but when he is high he is so nice and wants to do things as a family and treats me like a princess and is so kind, patient, good to the kids...he is always good to the kids but when he is not high he uses cus words when talking to them, not at them but in his sentances and is much much stricter... he is like a drill sargent to them when he isnt high but at the same time showes them love, i just wish he would take it easier on them, mabe im to lean? the sad thing is i think im comfortable...isnt that horrible, like i can actually say im ok with living another day like this......whats wrong with me <- in my heart i know i could do better and find someone that i deserve and who will love and respect me but its like i just dont want to, or something....or i willbe hurting the boys by not having their dad there, like if i could keep him high all day every day it would cost about 900 a month, but he would be top of the line for our kids and me, and i would never have to worry about anything, so its like i am paying to live the perfect life, and thats what it would be except the money part, you see he would be showing the kids a good family man all the time if he stayed high all the time, they dont know hes high, but we cant afford 900 a month.. man... whay cant it be like this without the cost....please dont give me an answer like leave that jerk or i can do better, i need some serious thoughts on this...

Your husband is behaving like an selfish jerk. If he actually was a real man, he would quit the weed, and start getting his life together, not just for you, but for himself. Weed is a bad drug, and could kill him! But I just don't understand why you would stay with a guy like that. I am not a marriage expert, but here are some suggestions.

. Stop enabling his behavior. If you are working for the money that he uses to pay for the weed than stop giving him money. Explain to him that if he can`t spend the money wisely, than you are not going to send it. If he works for the money, than you and him should sit down and work out what should be bought with the money. Tell him (when he`s sober) that weed could kill him and you and him come to a agreement. Also, stop cooking and cleaning for him. Ask him to help out too. If you keep enabling the behavior than It will get worse.

. Divorce. I know this is a rough choice. But if the previous suggestion didn't work, than it is the best way.

Come up with a list of Sober living areas. But he dosen't respect you, and has taken you for granted. So, I think divorce is the best way.

You can change people, dear.

Hi,

I just wanted to share something with everyone, I have the same problem with my husband he makes me feel like dirt and refuses to get help with his weed addiction. This happens to me at least 3 times a week if i don't give him money for it he goes wacko! he spends $300 a month of my money on it! when he is high he says he gets help but never follows through i reaaly don't know what to do anymore. any advice?

Smoke with him and then kick his Ass tu da curve..

Smoking pot is worse than popping pills for anxiety and such??? Riiight....

i have found out that weed is the only thing that helps me with my temper. before that nothing really helped me. weed is not a drug

it will be a long hard bumpy road but he has to stop and he will level out. i was at one time addicted to pain killers and i did the same thing when i didn't have them. and when i was on them i thought i was better at everything . at some point the mind will crash , but one thing is for sure i do love some weed, but you have to do it in moderation and never wake and bake that fucks up your whole day

ya. i knew someone like that.
they claim the weed 'chills them out,' right? ya, that's not good. you need to look at your priorities; this man is probably not emotionally stable and he's become dependent on the weed so that not having it makes him irritable and anxious.

UPDATE: We've both gotten help (professionally) and things are MUCH better now, thank goodness. Thanx for everyones concerns!

Leave him. A person on weed is different than a person not on weed. Especially if they smoke everyday. If he smokes a lot, when he isn't smoking it can cause him to go through drastic mood changes. If you want to make it work with him I would suggest telling him how you feel..or recording his outburts so he can see how stupid he looks. Request him to stop smoking to control the mood swings and so you can see who he really is...if you don't like that person...leave him and move on.

He is a jerk. Move on

Get yourself to a Nar Anon meeting ASAP!!!!!!!!!

Hi all. Thanks for your comments. He's been a little better lately, thankfully. I've talked to him and we're trying to work things out. Though he knows I don't deserve to be treated like crap and knows if he does treat me that way, I will be gone. And don't worry, there are no kids in the picture, and won't be until he smartens up. Just a couple cats, and they're okay. He would NEVER hurt them.

if you can fall in love with a jerk then you can fall in love with a nice guy.
it isn't impossible to find one, the world is practically full of them.
you only get one life to live, why spend it on an asshole who treats you like dirt?

The weed is covering up something else .. likely it has Zero to do with how he feels about you.

I am not a believer in addiction hocus pocus ... just talk to him.

have you tried talking to him about it when hes sober? how about when hes high? well, im thinking no woman deserves to be treated that way, i dont know if there are kids in the middle or not but if there are this must be awful on them. if you try talking to him and you dont suceed, try to get out of that situation before its too late and remeber to stick to that plan, i mean as sweet as he might be when hes high dont go back to him cause of something he says when he is, or if he wants to get you back and he says hell change... love yourself, you deserve more, im sure.

girl leave him, asap or go for mairrage counceling...
He is abusive!

What's your question? Is it normal for a weed addict to be nice when he's stoned and mean when he's not? YES!

Are most people addicted to weed? no. But most people are addicted to something, and usually they're not content without it. Don't you know anyone who is just in a bad mood if they don't have they're coffee?

I read the first 2-3 lines and i dont even need to continue. Honestly if you were fine with marrying someone who as a husband wanted to continue doing weed, then you should deal with the consequences and dont complain.

Thanks everyone for your input. Everything is much much better at hoem now thankfully.