I’m so mad with this dude that idk how to get over it

The sad part is the idiot took off on you. No regard for you. Thing is, guys like that are self centered, arrogant, cheap, and care about only themself. It may have been a blessing in disguise so you wont have to deal with the jackass the rest of your life. I'm sorry for your loss.

Some people on here need to read the whole comment before they reply. Just shows how self centered they are. They read the headlines, maybe the first sentence or two, then they have to put in their opinion.

It's like "oh, oh, I've got to get my opinion in on this one" and these are people that make a lot of comments. Now we know how and why. It's all about them!

To the op, sorry you had to go through this. Some guys are just shit heads. You are better without him. Sorry for your loss of the child. I agree with weirdguy being a single mom is tuff and at 21 can be even harder. I would suggest using multiple forms of BC at the same time. IUD and condom, or condoms and a foam or cream, I'm not a big fan of the pill but many people are. Counting on a single piece of latex and an idiot to use it correctly can have it's issues. Like how long has he been carrying it around hoping he had a chance to use it. Lol

Miscarriages are more common than full term pregnancy. Please know that you did nothing wrong. Fate can sometimes be terrible. But trust me when I say that a child growing up without it’s other parent is not healthy. But you will be. You’ll learn and grow from this. Take care.

You don't *need* to forgive OR forget if someone wrongs you in such a terrible way. Please consider getting therapy as a miscarriage is a very traumatic loss and you are in a very vulnerable position. I wish peace and happiness for you. Take care of yourself.

Your anger is normal. You should be more careful who you're having unprotected sex with. It takes two people to get pregnant and you should accept some responsibility that you got pregnant by an absolute deadbeat of a man. Dont make that mistake again. Being a single mom is the hardest job on the planet.

What you are feeling is normal and valid. You should allow yourself to feel these emotions, you've been through a lot.
But you know what is good about life: nothing is eternal. Your pain will fade and maybe you'll look back at it with bitterness in some years but you'll get over this. Just allow yourself to be angry, to mourn and every emotions that you feel allow them to be there, acknowledge them. And then, they'll creep away, maybe slowly maybe you'll just wake up tomorrow and feel better but things will get better.
Sending love <3

Contact an attorney and sue for child support.

Lol either way I would stop at nothing to see his ass in jail or smthn, I don't fuck wit dat bs

Ahh this is so sad; I'm sorry you had to go through that. You are not a bad person.

Guy sounds like a tool. Think you dodged the bullet on this one. Sorry for your loss though. Should probably talk it through with a professional.

Hatred will get you nothing. Track down the s.o.b. and sue him for child support. You’ll win with DNA evidence.

This will seem like a shitty and vindictive thing to do, but I think you should get back in touch with the father. Somebody needs to give this kid a talking to, or he's going to continue treating women like this. Over time that's a lot of hurt people, including the dad, who doesn't even know he almost had a grandson - and frankly might have wound up with one, if you'd had a less stressful pregnancy and the support of the father.

If you want to spare him the most painful part of the news, you might consider saying it was just a pregnancy scare. The message about his son's behavior is arguably the same.

I'm sorry for your situation. Whatever you do, be kind to yourself.

I’m sorry for your loss.

Your determination not to let feelings of rage and hurt consume you is admirable, but with a betrayal as colossal as this one your anger is justified and inevitable. You have been deeply wronged and the only person who should feel ashamed in this situation is the snivelling excuse for a “man” that caused it. You want to forgive him but he has done nothing to earn your forgiveness.

Do not be afraid to lean on your family and friends in this difficult time, I also recommend speaking to a councillor about what you have been through. Good luck with your healing process.

It's completely natural to feel what you're feeling right now, and honestly I wouldn't mind leading an angry mob with pitchforks and torches to confront him! That guy is a sack of shit! Did you guys not use condoms, or something? Hopefully he'll get into a serious accident where he loses his whole unit. He's a selfish, little punk ass bitch... at least you don't have to sue him for child support now.

Hopefully you will meet someone decent in the future. Also it's really important to ALWAYS USE CONDOMS! Don't sleep with someone for at least the first three months, and always use condoms!

I'm very sorry for your loss, please accept my condolences. I hope you can try to find a therapist, and or a grief support group to help you mourn the loss of your unborn child!

Do something about it then.