I’m tired of nobody paying me back or taking forever to

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Lately it seems like my friend group or my family sucks at paying me back, and it’s frustrating.

I have a friend who always asks for rides to places, and really the guy can’t drive. But he never offers to pay gas or worse, his scatter brains forgets his wallet. I normally have to treat him since I brought him.

Then there is another friend who owes me money from a vacation our group took last year, he was struggling then and couldn’t pay because he left his job. Fast forward a year he’s in a psych ward and can’t hold a job. So I got burned on that deal.

I just recently put a payment for a vacation on my card that I’m taking with my sister and brother-in-law. I was told it would take two months for them to pay their half ($250.) They're always struggling but they’re both teachers for a small catholic school. They could easily get a better job.

I might sound unsympathetic but at the end of the day I’m sick of getting burned. Even when I was struggling myself I found a way to pay back others even if it put me in a bad spot.

It’s not like I’m rich either, I do maintenance work for a school.

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  • sweetone89
    1 year ago | pl

    Why don't you stop lending people money? Problem solved.

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  • DADNSCAL
    1 year ago

    You're too much of a nice guy. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. People will take advantage of you whenever they can.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    1 year ago

    Just cease contact with the first two people you mentioned in the post. They seem like the toxic type of person that lets things like bad decisions and mental illness ruin their lives. Don't be the one that has to constantly get screwed over because they won't act like adults. Their problems are not your problems. I learned shit like that the hard way.

    As for your sister and in law, maybe avoid doing anything financial with them in the future.

    Focus on yourself. Your health is important.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      1 year ago

      Thank you!

      I don’t know if it’s worth mentioning the first two are autistic, but so am I. But I feel like I try to pull my weight in any way I can. I get that I’m flawed but I try to contribute. It kind of annoys me my friend just expects a ride to places at this point, and I have cataracts (at 25) so driving at night isn’t fun.

      This will be my last trip with my sister and brother-in-law for awhile. I guess petty, but I kind of get annoyed they don’t get me anything for Christmas or give it to me late. I get they have nieces and nephews but I feel lesser.

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        1 year ago

        The fact that you're responsible is honestly a good thing. Way too many adults expect their friends and family to bend over backwards for them. Your friend expecting you to drive him at night knowing you have vision problems makes him shitty. You don't owe him anything. The fact that he can't drive is his own dang fault.

        I feel you on the Christmas gifts. I get my sister and my boyfriend's sister Christmas presents and Birthday presents. They're always broke due to not being able to hold a job and they say they cant get things for me, yet their significant others and friends always get gifts. Made me feel lesser since they liked asking me for favors all the time. These days I just lie and say I'm broke. I give them what they gave me. XD

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    • RoseIsabella
      1 year ago

      Yes, Queen!

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        1 year ago

        Thank you!
        :)

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  • sweetone89
    1 year ago

    Learn to say no.

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  • olderdude-xx
    1 year ago

    Key lessons in life:

    Only lend money to solve real issues that people have in their lives (missing a vacation is not a real issue - they are luxury trips: Having a broken down car, needing a new refriderator because the old one died, fixing the furnace or AC, etc - are real issues).

    Never lend money to other people unless you can afford to never see it again.

    Never remain friends with someone who had the means to pay you back but did not (or only did so after extensive efforts on your part).

    I hope that helps, and welcome to the real world on trying to help other people.

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  • Iambillythemenacetosociety
    1 year ago

    Quit being a people pleaser and say no.

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  • RoseIsabella
    1 year ago

    You need to learn how to set boundaries with people, and say no. It's sad, but we oftentimes end up teaching people what they can get away with according to how much we will tolerate.

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  • profanity
    1 year ago

    Please learn to say no.

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  • Tommythecaty
    1 year ago

    Suckaaaaa!

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