I accidently have a crush on a 40 year old

Oh babe! Go to lunch with him! You never know what the possibilities are. Don’t worry about the age gap. Especially if he seems young.

Thats not that bad of an age gap. I was recently flirting woth a guy in his 50s and I'm 23. Still bummed that one didn't work out. If you like someone go for it. Don't let something petty like age stand in the way

So what if you both have mental health issues? Haven’t you ever seen the movie Silver Linings Playbook? If you haven’t, I would watch it. It’s a great movie. As far as age, it’s just a number. Believe me I’ve dated women 10 years younger and 10 years older.. you would think the older ones would be more mature but honestly a lot of the younger ones had their lives together. It’s all about how the person is in general. Don’t bail on someone just because of age or because they may have some mental issues. I guarantee you more people have mental problems than we think; it’s the ones who want to admit they do vs. the ones who continue to deny there’s an issue that really separate us

You can't control who you're attracted to. I met my ex when I was 28 and he was 42. Watch the documentary Age Gap Love... most of those couples have an age difference of more than 15 years and they seem happy.

I honestly don't see what the problem is, So he's older than you, if you're both attracted to each other, and you get on really well, then just go for it, he could be your soul mate for all you know! Xx

Fuck him and get it over with. (You know you really want to).

Age doesn't matter

My brother is 16 years younger than his wife and they get along fine. I actually prefer older men.

How do you "accidentally" fall in love with someone?

Who cares? As long as the job doesn't have some pressure of forced compliance, 25 and 40 isnt weird.

Suit yourself.

When I was 22 I had a crush on a 41 year old. I never attempted it because it's too big of a gap BUT it can work. I think you're at the max age gap before you have a high chance of not being a good fit. 15 years imo is the maximum so there's a chance it might be okay especially if you both have the same maturity level.

I wonder if you want to believe there's some hard and fast rule about acceptable age differences in relationships. If so, what's the magic number? Say you do believe this and you also believe that a guy should be, at most, five years older than the woman. What if you met some guy you really, really liked, but he was more privacy-aware than the guy you're talking about in your OP, so you only found out after you got involved with him and spnt lots of happy times with him that his birthday made him seven years older than you. Would that be enough to make you dump him? How about if he turned out to be five years and four months older than you?

Or maybe you're one of those people who believes that the rule is that women should never be less than half the man's age plus seven. I understand this is commonly stated as being some sort of cosmic fricking law amongst people who love to pass judgement on other people's relationships on social media.

If you think this is a valid rule, would it change your views to know that, as best as anyone can figure out, it originated with Elijah Muhammad, former leader of the Nation of Islam. He thought that age difference was ideal because it allowed a man to dominate and control the woman.

Really, it's just a huge pile of nonsensical crap based on nothing whatsoever.

I know that people with Asperger's are often very uncomfortable with uncertainty and they generally much prefer it when there are fixed rules and certainties. But, frankly, that's pretty silly when it comes to age differences in relationships. Some people are incredibly emotionally immature and lack the life-skills that allow them to have a healthy relationship when they're seventy; some people are wise and mature beyond their years when they're twenty.

What are his mental issues? The age difference is large but yall could still be cool