I also have this fetish. am i so far from normal/
I am a heterosexual male, happily married and together we have raised two children. However,I have had a thing for t-bar closed sandals ever since my teens,also with loafers and flats. Not for me lace-ups or high heels. I don't wear women's shoes, but I do own a pair of mens t-bars and a couple of pairs of loafers. A woman shoe-playing with these style of shoes is almost certain to turn me on. My wife has over time owned several pairs of flats; her shoe play is awesome.