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I don't go out with friends. I don't feel frequent need to communicate with people. Sometimes I want to communicate but sometimes I don't need people at all. I still feel the need for love and the desire of physical intimacy and I want a loved one in my life.
You need to find someone like yourself with whom you are compatible. That opposites attract stuff that some people talk about probably won't be a good idea.
It's the weirdest thing, I'm like the OP, social contact drains me. My girlfriend after about 2 months of dating doesnt drain my energy anymore.
Suppose even hardcore introverts can allow people into the fold.
I mean I like people, its just that its draining enough to be a problem when it comes to social outings.
Then again I might be what you would call eccentric in public. Mainly because that's how my anxiety riddled brain aparently compensates, by starting conversations to fill the void.
So if their a silent person I will talk them to death. I would greatly perfer not to but I'm compulsed to do it. So my personality kinda was formed from that kind of quirk... also a dash of add.
I think the silent people are pretty used to this.
One of my oldest friends is painfully quiet. He barely says a word until he really gets to know you. I've seen countless people talk his face off. He says he doesn't mind because it means he doesn't have to talk.
I'm the same way yet I could never date someone that introverted unless he made exceptions for the relationship. You could find someone similar to you but in the end you'll still need to compromise, no one's going to be a copy of yourself and have identical needs so either you are prepared for that or you don't actually want a girlfriend, you only like the idea of having one. It's selfish and rude to withdraw from a romantical partner and expect your life to go on as usual with no changes when you take on such a huge responsibility as commiting to another person so most likely you'll need to loosen up on your demands for privacy or stay single until you can.
It's possible to have someone in spite of all your traits.
I knew one girl who's been married to a guy for 7+ years and they sit opposite each other on their own desktops doing their own thing sometimes barely talking. Often not even celebrating occasions etc. But still enjoying the presence of each other. It works for them and they're both happy.
The only issue is finding someone like you is all about meeting people. And while they're nothing wrong with being content with your solitude, the probability of finding someone all depends on the amount of people you meet. Unless you get very lucky
Maybe you should try to find someone thats also like that and is introverted. It will probably work better because she wont always want to go out and she will understand you.